Fiance' was cheating while PREGNANT

[Villanelle 4,122]

Good grief you arent suggesting that someone whose been through 'emotional turmoil' and come out of it on the other side be given blanket immunity or a temporary protected status to post whatever ####### they see fit and not be challenged?

The fact that hes been on this site for 3 years is exactly the point.

I understand at this point I am not winning any popularity contests- which is fine by me. I do not get myself esteem from likes or status on forums. I could care less what ya'll think of me. But there are some issues that really get to me and I just will not stay silent about.

This is one of them.

With power comes responsibility.

Too many times Ive seen people (the little people) screwed over because the people in power behave irresponsibly. Theres no accountability.

Being totally blunt- we all know how the forums work. The rating system is a joke. You can get stars and hearts or whatever they are for making useless posts in the off topic areas about jokes and useless banter about current events (one line posts- bickering-comical exchanges etc) People rate each other there too as well so that whole system means little. People that read often in the relevant immigration sections know whos who. They know whos been around a long time, who knows what about what particular region or what particular issue.

V.sadguy has made himself VJs posterboy for victims of VAWA scam fraud. He placed himself there. In his own signature that he has been toting on and off for the last two years it even says "champion for those wronged by fraud.". He put that there. He wants that position- he needs to be responsible with what he posts. Who knows how many come to the site and seek out his advice through messages.

He posted a statement that according to his lawyer due to the VAWA he is now listed as an abuser who can not bring anyone else over from overseas.

It caused another member- believing v.sadguy being the champion that he is and the most knowledgeable to assume it as gospel.

When challenged that perhaps it was said to him simply due to the facts in his case and not specific USCIS law- he insisted it was confirmed by both his lawyer and Sandra. And refused to comment further on any facts of his case or anything the lawyer might have said.

Sandra opted not to comment on the law or if she did or did not state such to v.sadguy and instead stated if specific questions VAWA were needed to be answered an appointment should be made for a paid consultation.

Taking on the role of a champion/advocate- whatever you want to call it and then spreading bad/inaccurate/confusing info is inexcusable. I dont care if youve had a rough time. Because guess what? All the people coming looking to you are currently having rough times- and youre doing them no favors by clouding the waters more.

[verysadguy 170]

Damara, you make a good point about those with VAWA abuse and what are future "restrictions," but regardless I am not bringing anyone else over ever again. Too costly emotionally and financially. That being said I do believe you jump to a lot of conclusions, suppositions, and overall are WAY too wordy and emotionally driven. Questions that are worthy I answer. 'nuff said.

Mohdirfan08787-

My ex is working legally. She bragged about her EAD a couple years ago, then she lied on her court filed income statement. FACT.

She also successfully traveled to her home country with her lover and back to the USA no problem so we can safely assume she got her green card.

She would have spent thousands to travel home, and word in her home town (yes I have friends there still) she sends money to her family. However, she has a court ordered child support payment that she is 22 months behind on.

On top of that she has become dear and close friends with my second beneficiary who found each other on Facebook and now validate each other. Unfreakingbelievable. How lucky am I?

My statement has been and remains USCIS owes it to petitioners to warn about VAWA risks BEFORE applying and during the paperwork process. I never got any warning or risk statement for woman #1. For woman #2 I was well aware and cautious, and even that woman got to the USA and was a total B from day 1. It was bizarre. I did send her home and it was not unreasonable for me to give her money to get back on her feet and help her with the embarrassment of rejection in her home country. What wasn't right was her blackmailing me and extorting me for more money and now becoming my ex's new BFF.

Secondly, VAWA is a very flawed act and the evidentiary trail and reasonable proof is weak. It is indeed an avenue for scammers. I've said dozens of times for proven DV it is a protection for truly abused victims. Thank God for that.

As for termination proceedings a lot of risks and possible repercussions. I am proceeding cautiously with a prominent lawyer. More to be reported.

My ex lied and committed fraud and got away with it. A communist victimizing a free, taxpaying, non-abusing, never been arrested professional US Citizen. It is disgusting. If I am guilty of emotional abuse for discovering my wife cheated, performed pornography, lied to her family and friends on a daily basis, turned in evidence, shared the evidence with her friends and family, turned in her lover for violating his professional ethics for dating a victim seeking Catholic assistance, then heaven help us all. Good thing I didn't pass wind on her in bed accidentally and pull the covers over her head (can that be proven in a court of law or is it only admissible in St. Alban's for VAWA purposes?)

From personal experiance from my friend. Most likely what is going on is, She and her lover planning on make a good bussniess back home while she is working here. You know this, a person can stay hidden for decades unless he/she commits crime. You can live in US for rest of your life if you not get into trouble. There is no way she can turn her status to Green card cause accourding to you, Your case way stronger. DHS is not that free to find her and deport her back, there are thousands of cases similar to you are pending.

Most proberly she is working somewhere illegally, either in resturant, asian store, massage center or somewhere. The most popular one is HOME HEALTHCARE or nanny. Sueing will make your case even more stronger. But wouldent much help to you case where ever she is working, she is working on cash so no income record.

I am so sorry to hear your story. Hope the B get the karma, and enjoy your life with your baby.

[TBoneTX 45,288]

It might be time to close this thread, OP.

[verysadguy 170]

It might be time to close this thread, OP.

Maybe! Since the green card scam is complete.

And VAWA fraud discussion is pretty much exhausted.

I can always post termination proceedings separately or just PM those who really know and care.

I guess its up to the moderators.

[Ontarkie 14,222]

~~Thread Closed as requested by the OP~~