Fiance' was cheating while PREGNANT

[prmiami 14]

For now yes, way out of our business. She's having a blast partying with her boyfriend, and she hasn't shown one iota of caring for her child. Actions speak louder than words. Many web sites state abandonment of offspring is a strong sign of a sociopathic personality.

The next issues to arise in this case worthy of discussion for now are failure to pay child support based on a court order and consideration of termination of parental rights.

In the meantime I focus on parenting and role modeling until I find a woman worthy of loving and providing as a maternal replacement for my little angel.

I think you did all right. Justice should be on your side.

God bless you.

[PallasAthena 101]

In the meantime I focus on parenting and role modeling until I find a woman worthy of loving and providing as a maternal replacement for my little angel.

I see from your signature that you are bringing someone else over? A new love? I hope that she makes a good maternal role model for your daughter. I'm sorry about what you went through but hopefully everything will work out in your favor.

[verysadguy 170]

After 6 months of ZERO contact from my ex to me or my daughter, She is exercising her visitation rights. Supervised of course. Now she wants to add family members to her visit. Distant cousins who I can't even prove are her real relatives. What are your thoughts on this VJ'ers? (even though she hasn't paid a dime of child support for a year, that has no bearing on her visitation rights).

What a nice memorial weekend we'll have!!!

[khwaidee1 196]

I guess you'd have to look at the visitation order. Who supervises and where are the visits to take place? I am assuming it's not an overnight situation. Given that your daughter is so young and your history I supposed you could try and get the visitation order modified so as to limit it to only your wife. However, I believe you would bear the burden to show that bringing additional relatives to the supervised visitation would not be in the best interests of the child.

[belinda63 3,038]

Your call. If you don't feel safe with unknown persons at the visits then you need to say so. Depending on how the Order is written the burden may be on her to have it modified so others can come. The two of you can verbally modify it is that is what you want.

[verysadguy 170]

Some might consider me being unreasonable?

• My ex lied to me everyday of an 18 month courtship
• My ex lied to me everyday of a 6 month marriage
• My ex called several of her friends "sister" or "aunt" when in fact they were not
• My ex disappeared THREE times in to the Vietnamese/Asian community and could not be found for MONTHS. My ex has not told me where she currently resides.
• My ex claims this current "cousin" is also my child's aunt? Can you be a cousin and an aunt?
• My ex claims my child knows this cousin. My child has not seen any of those supposed "relatives" since 3 months of age.
• My ex showed up at visitation with a "man" completely unknown to my child. He looked like a gang member. Turned out it was the guy she seduced at her Catholic relief agency
• I have no idea of what her current legal status is
• My ex befriended a cab driver (who has a long list of guilty felony convictions) on her very first out of town visitation who became her personal chauffeur, and upon her second out of town visitation they hugged at the airport (again, I've never hugged a cabbie in my life). She took him back to her hotel room and they spent an hour together (yes I have photos), then he subsequently grabbed my child without permission. I filed an injunction against him, yet when she came back to town, she engaged him again as her personal chauffeur. He violated the injunction, and my ex lied to police about that violation.

And the list goes on and on. Really should I be bending over backwards for my ex to extend supervised visitation to a relative I don't know and can't be proven on short notice? Could my ex easily engage foreign language speaking assistance to abduct my child and disappear yet again? My ex has falsely accused me of domestic violence and human trafficking. I legitimately have concern that her next step will be to claim some form of child abuse. Why the F&^% should I budge one millimeter from the court ordered supervised visitation? To prove I'm a magnanimous guy? Her boyfriend pens most of her emails and text messages for her to apply pressure to me. Honestly, I would be happy to go back to court and provide further evidence of fraud and sociopathic behavior.

I'm not crazy. I'm angry. I'm angry my government hasn't protected me as a US Citizen. I'm angry a peasant from a foreign communist country can come here and live the life of leisure and freedom with no evidence, just a pack of lies and stories. I am not budging folks. No way. I have a lovely well adjusted happy smart SAFE child (sandranj can vouch for that). I will keep it that way.

[Jacque67 7,328]

Has Vietnam signed the Geneva convention regarding child kidnapping? Japan hasn't and there are many cases of divorced foreign men whom have had their children abducted to Japan and have been unable to get them back.

I would refuse the visit if I were you.

[Darnell 8,478]

After 6 months of ZERO contact from my ex to me or my daughter, She is exercising her visitation rights. Supervised of course. Now she wants to add family members to her visit. Distant cousins who I can't even prove are her real relatives. What are your thoughts on this VJ'ers? (even though she hasn't paid a dime of child support for a year, that has no bearing on her visitation rights).

What a nice memorial weekend we'll have!!!

if the visitation order does not include other people, either named or alluded to,

call the cops and CPS.

[verysadguy 170]

if the visitation order does not include other people, either named or alluded to,

call the cops and CPS.

Darnell check the attachments

Edited May 24, 2014 by verysadguy

[belinda63 3,038]

Your discretion. The Order only states for the mother to have visitation it does not include anyone else. If she wants it changed she can go back to court.

[Jawaree 717]

I would not allow others on the visits....go by the order

these maybe be ppl getting to know your daughter. already

obtain fake papers for her & waiting for the right moment

to grab her & make it across one of the borders and catch a

flight to her country....Let her go back to court then U let

the judge know she pays no support...Dude if you don't want

to take a dime from her open a college fund for your daughter

and have it deposited there thru child support court, but she

should obey the courts order.....Be careful also of thugz she

probably hangs with

Edited May 25, 2014 by Jawaree

[verysadguy 170]

My daughter already has a 529 college fund with $50,000 at age 3! Her investments are doing better than mine, i like the idea of child support in to a college fund...great guilt trip. One could be sure she is sending money back to her country.

I also created a trust fund/estate planning. In case something happens to me the mother can't get a dime from my daughter. The managers of the trust are my brothers.

[Darnell 8,478]

Darnell check the attachments

OK - I've read them.

1st attachment not concern me .

2nd attachment not mention other people. Other people show up? Call the cops. Not meet the 3-week-advance notice, in writing? [this is generally postal mail delivered via USPS-certified mail, email doesn't count, ever] Don't accomodate.

as to 'familiar setting' - that's yer house with a court-appointed over-seer. who's expenses and time are to be paid by the biological mother.

[Rich and Wen 101]

Realistically speaking, I wouldn't like to have my ex-wife in my house. When she goes to the washroom, will she be supervised? She could rummage through your stuff, or plant some drugs in your home.

"Familiar surroundings" could mean the McDonald's that you always go to, or your favorite park, or even at the day care, as long as you explain to them in advance.

[SingleDad2usc 71]

Darnell, you live a complicated life: certified mail, cops.

OP, long-term statistical studies are on your side: there is long-term average drift UP in stocks, and tax-free compounding is a huge kicker in the long run. Don't let the impending 50% or so correction in the next year humble you too profoundly: all investors feel richer or poorer on paper, from time to time. Don't spoil your children much, parents