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Filed: K-1 Visa Country: Vietnam
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one month follow up...

Did some researching, I'm sure sandranj can weigh in with experience on this, too.

Recall the ex's first VAWA was denied, she appealed, and they granted her an appeal in March. Current I-360 status remains unknown.

  1. Bonafide marriage? only basis was marriage certificate, child together, and a health insurance coverage card I provided her. no leases, no bank accounts, no cell phone bills, no name change.
  2. Good moral character? No arrests but turned in evidence of her cheating while pregnant, and pornography while married and pregnant.
  3. FDNS-cannot get any answers or call backs from any USCIS department regarding my claims of romance scam for immigration benefits.
  4. The ex continues to work on an EAD. Ain't America great?

Meanwhile, her new loverboy, who's FB account is set on private, did post a picture of himself with a military assault rifle, and marked it as viewable by the public. What a jacka$$. And of course she "Liked" it.

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VerySadGuy

30 year healthcare professional

Victim of heinous immigration romance scam

Father of a lovely little girl

And champion for those wronged by fraud.

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Filed: Citizen (apr) Country: Ecuador
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Hang in there and keep us posted, si man.

06-04-2007 = TSC stamps postal return-receipt for I-129f.

06-11-2007 = NOA1 date (unknown to me).

07-20-2007 = Phoned Immigration Officer; got WAC#; where's NOA1?

09-25-2007 = Touch (first-ever).

09-28-2007 = NOA1, 23 days after their 45-day promise to send it (grrrr).

10-20 & 11-14-2007 = Phoned ImmOffs; "still pending."

12-11-2007 = 180 days; file is "between workstations, may be early Jan."; touches 12/11 & 12/12.

12-18-2007 = Call; file is with Division 9 ofcr. (bckgrnd check); e-prompt to shake it; touch.

12-19-2007 = NOA2 by e-mail & web, dated 12-18-07 (187 days; 201 per VJ); in mail 12/24/07.

01-09-2008 = File from USCIS to NVC, 1-4-08; NVC creates file, 1/15/08; to consulate 1/16/08.

01-23-2008 = Consulate gets file; outdated Packet 4 mailed to fiancee 1/27/08; rec'd 3/3/08.

04-29-2008 = Fiancee's 4-min. consular interview, 8:30 a.m.; much evidence brought but not allowed to be presented (consul: "More proof! Second interview! Bring your fiance!").

05-05-2008 = Infuriating $12 call to non-English-speaking consulate appointment-setter.

05-06-2008 = Better $12 call to English-speaker; "joint" interview date 6/30/08 (my selection).

06-30-2008 = Stokes Interrogations w/Ecuadorian (not USC); "wait 2 weeks; we'll mail her."

07-2008 = Daily calls to DOS: "currently processing"; 8/05 = Phoned consulate, got Section Chief; wrote him.

08-07-08 = E-mail from consulate, promising to issue visa "as soon as we get her passport" (on 8/12, per DHL).

08-27-08 = Phoned consulate (they "couldn't find" our file); visa DHL'd 8/28; in hand 9/1; through POE on 10/9 with NO hassles(!).

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You will not here anything from FDNS. They cannot. Tell you by law ( pvt. Act 197). So do not expect a update from them. Most of the time they do not interview men or women who get VAWA status. However, you still must send in proof for bona fide marriage. USCIS is very sensative about abuse.

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You will not here anything from FDNS. They cannot. Tell you by law ( pvt. Act 197). So do not expect a update from them. Most of the time they do not interview men or women who get VAWA status. However, you still must send in proof for bona fide marriage. USCIS is very sensative about abuse.

This one?

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Privacy_Act_of_1974

Of course she won't sign a FOIA form.

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Father of a lovely little girl

And champion for those wronged by fraud.

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Filed: K-1 Visa Country: Ukraine
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Very Sad Guy,

I am writing this not out of no feeling for your situation but to tell you something, I totally understand what you are going through and what is going on now with your ex wife with the baby is totally understandable, I would not want a convict around my child. It almost sounds like your ex is acting like a person backed into a corner which is sad and there is still no excuse for her not wanting to be with her child, I could never bring a child into this world and not want to be around my own blood. And for me also Rich it seemed every time I moved on there was some fact that would pull me right back in the loop, and now my ex is back home in Ukraine and life moves on. I want to tell you this please close the chapter on her status there is nothing you can do, USCIS will tell you nothing and if you continue down that path of calling USCIS might consider what you are doing as abuse also, good moral character is left up to the IO that will conduct the interview pure and simple, there is a reason all those IO's look like a old men, they know what to look for they function a lot on "gut" feeling and with out facts from a court or a third party source the evidence might be seen as you being vindictive towards her, let her answer to her own actions, life can be about not getting the closure we seek, in the end we are all damaged goods, and sometimes we inflict the damage on ourselves, please close this matter with her and realize the closure you seek may never happen leaving a decent kind man damaged trying to find out things you will never know the result of, if I have offended you in any way please forgive me, just please if you can avoid try not to damage yourself. Your Friend Brian 1967##

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Very Sad Guy,

I am writing this not out of no feeling for your situation but to tell you something, I totally understand what you are going through and what is going on now with your ex wife with the baby is totally understandable, I would not want a convict around my child. It almost sounds like your ex is acting like a person backed into a corner which is sad and there is still no excuse for her not wanting to be with her child, I could never bring a child into this world and not want to be around my own blood. And for me also Rich it seemed every time I moved on there was some fact that would pull me right back in the loop, and now my ex is back home in Ukraine and life moves on. I want to tell you this please close the chapter on her status there is nothing you can do, USCIS will tell you nothing and if you continue down that path of calling USCIS might consider what you are doing as abuse also, good moral character is left up to the IO that will conduct the interview pure and simple, there is a reason all those IO's look like a old men, they know what to look for they function a lot on "gut" feeling and with out facts from a court or a third party source the evidence might be seen as you being vindictive towards her, let her answer to her own actions, life can be about not getting the closure we seek, in the end we are all damaged goods, and sometimes we inflict the damage on ourselves, please close this matter with her and realize the closure you seek may never happen leaving a decent kind man damaged trying to find out things you will never know the result of, if I have offended you in any way please forgive me, just please if you can avoid try not to damage yourself. Your Friend Brian 1967##

No harm there Brian. I am moving on, but I do believe in fairness. Justice has its way. She is basically childless, and I have a household full of so much love and laughter it is truly a blessing. As for the child's safety I will stop at nothing. The ex-con has an injunction, and the jerkoff new boyfriend keeps posting pictures of himself with assault rifles and twitters about his knife fighting training, so I really don't have to ever worry about her ever getting custody back. I'll sit back and enjoy the warmth of a growing child while she gravitates downward in society. Karma is slow but moving in the right direction.

I dropped the little one off at school the other day and as I was leaving she said, "Bye, I love you daddy" I almost lost it. She's just 2.5 years old, but man is she a smart little whippersnapper. :)

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Filed: K-1 Visa Country: Vietnam
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FYI for VAWA folks looking for the stats

Table 1. VAWA Petition Processing Statistics, 2011

Year # of files %approved %RFE's
2011 9,209 68% 114%

Source: For years 2000-2011: CRS presentation of data from USCIS, Office of Performance and Quality, Data
Analysis and Reporting Branch; for years 1997-1999, CRS presentation of INS data from archived CRS Report
RL30559, Immigration: Noncitizen Victims of Domestic Violence, by Andorra Bruno and Alison Siskin, May 3, 2001.

GETTING MUCH TOUGHER!

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Father of a lovely little girl

And champion for those wronged by fraud.

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I dropped the little one off at school the other day and as I was leaving she said, "Bye, I love you daddy" I almost lost it. She's just 2.5 years old, but man is she a smart little whippersnapper. smile.png

This is a cute age, and you're indeed blessed, si man. :thumbs:

06-04-2007 = TSC stamps postal return-receipt for I-129f.

06-11-2007 = NOA1 date (unknown to me).

07-20-2007 = Phoned Immigration Officer; got WAC#; where's NOA1?

09-25-2007 = Touch (first-ever).

09-28-2007 = NOA1, 23 days after their 45-day promise to send it (grrrr).

10-20 & 11-14-2007 = Phoned ImmOffs; "still pending."

12-11-2007 = 180 days; file is "between workstations, may be early Jan."; touches 12/11 & 12/12.

12-18-2007 = Call; file is with Division 9 ofcr. (bckgrnd check); e-prompt to shake it; touch.

12-19-2007 = NOA2 by e-mail & web, dated 12-18-07 (187 days; 201 per VJ); in mail 12/24/07.

01-09-2008 = File from USCIS to NVC, 1-4-08; NVC creates file, 1/15/08; to consulate 1/16/08.

01-23-2008 = Consulate gets file; outdated Packet 4 mailed to fiancee 1/27/08; rec'd 3/3/08.

04-29-2008 = Fiancee's 4-min. consular interview, 8:30 a.m.; much evidence brought but not allowed to be presented (consul: "More proof! Second interview! Bring your fiance!").

05-05-2008 = Infuriating $12 call to non-English-speaking consulate appointment-setter.

05-06-2008 = Better $12 call to English-speaker; "joint" interview date 6/30/08 (my selection).

06-30-2008 = Stokes Interrogations w/Ecuadorian (not USC); "wait 2 weeks; we'll mail her."

07-2008 = Daily calls to DOS: "currently processing"; 8/05 = Phoned consulate, got Section Chief; wrote him.

08-07-08 = E-mail from consulate, promising to issue visa "as soon as we get her passport" (on 8/12, per DHL).

08-27-08 = Phoned consulate (they "couldn't find" our file); visa DHL'd 8/28; in hand 9/1; through POE on 10/9 with NO hassles(!).

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Filed: K-1 Visa Country: Vietnam
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Next visitation coming up.

Does anyone think it is worthwhile to even inquire about the status of her I-360 case? I doubt she would answer honestly anyways.

Other than relevant discussions regarding health and raising our child does anyone think any other discussions should ensue?

Several people suggested giving photos of the cab driver with my ex to the current boyfriend. I haven't and think it is petty. He's going to make excuses for her anyways. He's pussywhipped.

Also, any other evidence I share with him, because I doubt he knows all the crazy stuff she did, could possibly be used to argue defamation of character. Hell, she lowered herself!

Thanks.

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VerySadGuy

30 year healthcare professional

Victim of heinous immigration romance scam

Father of a lovely little girl

And champion for those wronged by fraud.

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Stick to speaking about the child, only information necessary, nothing more. Trust me, it could get ugly otherwise. Anything you say can be twisted and used against you.

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Next visitation coming up.

Does anyone think it is worthwhile to even inquire about the status of her I-360 case? I doubt she would answer honestly anyways.

Other than relevant discussions regarding health and raising our child does anyone think any other discussions should ensue?

Several people suggested giving photos of the cab driver with my ex to the current boyfriend. I haven't and think it is petty. He's going to make excuses for her anyways. He's pussywhipped.

Also, any other evidence I share with him, because I doubt he knows all the crazy stuff she did, could possibly be used to argue defamation of character. Hell, she lowered herself!

Thanks.

I suggest you keep all conversations STRICTLY to the health and raising of your child. Anything legal wise discuss with lawyers. Do not talk to the boyfriend, he probably would tell her everything you say. Do not ask her any immigration related questions.

You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself any direction you choose.  - Dr. Seuss

 

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Believe me regarding good moral character they are looking just for any arrest or convictions,nothing else,once she got prima facie it means the good moral character criteria was met,and they won't adjudicate again about that in her AOS.

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Believe me regarding good moral character they are looking just for any arrest or convictions,nothing else,once she got prima facie it means the good moral character criteria was met,and they won't adjudicate again about that in her AOS.

Thanks, sandranj, I am thinking it is the bonafide marriage and ability to prove extreme cruelty holding her case up.

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VerySadGuy

30 year healthcare professional

Victim of heinous immigration romance scam

Father of a lovely little girl

And champion for those wronged by fraud.

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Visit went fine. She dressed up for a change to present herself well rather than frumpy sweats the last 2 visits. Child took to her quite well this time. When my daughter went to sleep my ex asked to speak with me (and of course we were never alone, all supervised). I said sure what's up? (Because I decided not to pursue anything in terms of questioning). Anyways, her responses are generally so scripted from her boyfriend's advice. So, she looked me straight in the eye and said thank you for raising our daughter so well, and I just said I love her and I am everything in her life. Bathe, change diapers, clothes, feed, shelter, read, support, take to school everything. She acknowledged that. Then she said, "I'm sorry." And I said, "Don't say you are sorry. You chose this path in life and this is where you are." Then she said, "you don't know how bad I feel." So, I looked her straight in the eye and said, "that is your choice, you made your bed and now you must sleep in it." I don't think she understands and or very many English idioms or adages. She asked me straight up, "you don't have to follow the letter and words of the court agreement, please give me more time." I said I'll think about it and closed with this statement looking her straight in the eye...

"I wanted a family."

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VerySadGuy

30 year healthcare professional

Victim of heinous immigration romance scam

Father of a lovely little girl

And champion for those wronged by fraud.

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Filed: IR-1/CR-1 Visa Country: China
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sorry man, this is manipulator 101 behavior. If'n rlogan was active round here, he'd explain it in 1000 words or more (I don't have the time or the energy at the moment, but..)

I'll posit one of her coaches has suggested this to her, instead.

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