Fiance' was cheating while PREGNANT

[verysadguy 170]

When you get the PI Report, touch base with the police and file a report about attempted child abduction on the cabbie.

Your PI should be able to backtrack from cab medallion # to cab company to employee name .

Well well well, I got the ID on the cabbie...convicted felon (multiple cases)...great...

[Darnell 8,479]

Well, that's a plus. File a report with the court handling visitation, write it as if you were writing a deposition.

Once you have some receipt #, file the exact same thing with that USCIS office, with a cover letter explaining the moral turpitude bits.

Edited July 13, 2013 by Darnell

[Jawaree 718]

Dude since Kramer vs Kramer men have wised up, U R that babys mom & dad

but cross all Ts & dot all Is...a conniving woman like that will do anything to win,

never let your guard down, but don't focus on the immigration part of things, give

them all info to prove fraud marriage & debauchery on her part, request child

support and let it go...Who remember the judge from Texas that was getting blow

Jobs in all his divorce hearings ? the men were always losing until one couple

reunited & the wife told the husband who reported it then a sting operation was

set up ...this was years ago ....so don't haggle with a Delilah like that who will

stoop to anything. Enjoy your daughter

[Darnell 8,479]

great anecdotal stuff, but I doubt you would have written that if'n you'd read the entire thread.

Just saying...

[verysadguy 170]

great anecdotal stuff, but I doubt you would have written that if'n you'd read the entire thread.

Just saying...

True Darnell because everyone knows I am doing everything possible to raise this child right. I will never ever let my guard down with this woman. I'm just hoping she gets pregnant already and disappears. Let the next sucker pay her way.

[verysadguy 170]

Scary morning. As I took my child to daycare the cab driver was pulling out of the next driveway. This may be a coincidence but it is simply too close to home and my child's daycare. I will discuss with my attorney and call child protective services.

Dude since Kramer vs Kramer men have wised up, U R that babys mom & dad

but cross all Ts & dot all Is...a conniving woman like that will do anything to win,

never let your guard down, but don't focus on the immigration part of things, give

them all info to prove fraud marriage & debauchery on her part, request child

support and let it go...Who remember the judge from Texas that was getting blow

Jobs in all his divorce hearings ? the men were always losing until one couple

reunited & the wife told the husband who reported it then a sting operation was

set up ...this was years ago ....so don't haggle with a Delilah like that who will

stoop to anything. Enjoy your daughter

Judges and oral sex? I thought only priests did that!

[verysadguy 170]

Scary morning. As I took my child to daycare the cab driver was pulling out of the next driveway. This may be a coincidence but it is simply too close to home and my child's daycare. I will discuss with my attorney and call child protective services.

Judges and oral sex? I thought only priests did that!

Injunction against harassment filed and served on cab driver last week.

Ex comes to town for visitation.

Mr. Nice Guy, me, offers her extra time with baby alone at restaurant to have dinner, but...

She arrives in "bad guy's" taxi fully knowing baby and I are there. Injunction violation one, proximity.

After an hour alone at restaurant with baby, cab driver comes back knowing that the 2 protected parties are there, parks less than 50 feet away, gets out of cab and says "just honoring your protection papers sir" to which I say "you are toast son". My two year old even shouted at him it was hysterical.

Next morning, the ex shows up at daycare, also a protected location, and the idiot cabbie and ex show up again.

Photos taken, witness statements taken, go to police station. You won't believe the assininity of this cabbie. He was at the gas station next to the police station while my ex was at daycare. Police take cabbie in to immediate custody. The city prosecutor better have some balls to finish this guy off and make him register as a threat to children. Absolute fkn insanity I'm telling you.

[Ontarkie 14,443]

Glad you are not letting your guard down at all on this.

Please stop being extra nice, it shows a precedent that your ex can use against you. Follow your court order to the T and nothing more. With normal ppl being nice works for both parties but she is not normal.

[verysadguy 170]

Glad you are not letting your guard down at all on this.

Please stop being extra nice, it shows a precedent that your ex can use against you. Follow your court order to the T and nothing more. With normal ppl being nice works for both parties but she is not normal.

Just be a little nice? How can she use it against me?

Our visitation agreement says "must use comportment" so in other words no harsh language etc....

I am generally pretty straightforward with her.

She got agitated when she asked what our daughter liked to eat, and I said well if you were around for more than just one day every 3 months you would know.

I think she really got ticked when my daughter ran to the undercover babysitter and said "mama" but didn't say that to the biologic egg donor.

That being said she's been coached by her Catholic relief agency to always address me as "Dear XXX, thank you XXX , sincerely XXX" so ingratiating. PUKE.

[Ontarkie 14,443]

Just be a little nice? How can she use it against me?

Our visitation agreement says "must use comportment" so in other words no harsh language etc....

I am generally pretty straightforward with her.

She got agitated when she asked what our daughter liked to eat, and I said well if you were around for more than just one day every 3 months you would know.

I think she really got ticked when my daughter ran to the undercover babysitter and said "mama" but didn't say that to the biologic egg donor.

That being said she's been coached by her Catholic relief agency to always address me as "Dear XXX, thank you XXX , sincerely XXX" so ingratiating. PUKE.

What I'm referring is you giving her extra time, beyond what she has been given by the courts. I agree that you being flexible is a good thing for visits but don't go out of your way. She can use the extras against you in court such as saying if she is such a bad mother why would you give her extra time with your daughter. Then ask the court to make the extra time that they have gotten used to as her new allotted time. Then also her lawyer would start other things to add to the new CO, such as no more supervised visits, and over nights at the mothers place. I've seen this happen before and not for good reasons but to get back at the other parent.

I don't remember what her visitation schedule is, and if she takes all her days or if she is pretty flaky? Document how long each visit is and if she takes all her given days. If your not already doing it.

Definitely be polite at all times, but don't go do the extras even if you think they are helping you. I can't remember how much you must supply her with when she comes to town but do not do more then you legally have too.

[verysadguy 170]

What I'm referring is you giving her extra time, beyond what she has been given by the courts. I agree that you being flexible is a good thing for visits but don't go out of your way. She can use the extras against you in court such as saying if she is such a bad mother why would you give her extra time with your daughter. Then ask the court to make the extra time that they have gotten used to as her new allotted time. Then also her lawyer would start other things to add to the new CO, such as no more supervised visits, and over nights at the mothers place. I've seen this happen before and not for good reasons but to get back at the other parent.

I don't remember what her visitation schedule is, and if she takes all her days or if she is pretty flaky? Document how long each visit is and if she takes all her given days. If your not already doing it.

Definitely be polite at all times, but don't go do the extras even if you think they are helping you. I can't remember how much you must supply her with when she comes to town but do not do more then you legally have too.

Points well taken! She is a total flake on many occasions. She bugs out early, doesn't show etc., never has supplies...almost a total deadbeat.

Her road is about to become a little bumpier, but polite.

"Please fasten your seatbelts, turbulence ahead"

[belinda63 3,047]

Just remember, you don't know what is going on in her life. I remember one time I went to pick up my daughter and my car broke down. I was in tears because I was missing my daughter and I knew the a**hole wouldn't allow me to make it up. Later he used this in court (forgetting to mention why I had missed the visit, just saying I had missed) trying to have the visits stopped.

[Ontarkie 14,443]

Just remember, you don't know what is going on in her life. I remember one time I went to pick up my daughter and my car broke down. I was in tears because I was missing my daughter and I knew the a**hole wouldn't allow me to make it up. Later he used this in court (forgetting to mention why I had missed the visit, just saying I had missed) trying to have the visits stopped.

That really sucks Belinda, sorry. I do agree if she asked to switch or do a make up yes flexibility is a good thing. I just don't want him setting himself up for trouble when she is not actually making an effort.

[Villanelle 4,122]

This is really tough. I do see the above points but in cases like this and its incredibly difficult when the parents do not get along, its important for the parents to remember its about whats in the childs best interest. I mean thats what its all about.

So he has to decide what is in his childs best interest. No one can make that decision for him. Sure the court somewhat imposed some of it on him, but he does have the power to go around the court and allow the mother more into the childs life if he feels a strong mother/child relationship will benefit the child in the long run and its not being accomplished with the visits right now. The downside to this is as was explained those visits can be used against him to petition for additional visits or to loosen the reigns of the courts supervision.

While its hard to argue you are so unfit - I am giving you more time, you could make a case of- the childs relationship is lacking due to the limited time and it would be supported by the fact that she does not acknowledge her as mother, but calls the sitter that- but due to the mothers poor skills and inability to care for the child , the additional visits needed to build a relationship between them would need to be supervised and monitored by the court.

He has to decide where he stands for himself on his position on wanting her in the childs life. It almost seems by his allowing the additional time that he feels a relationship between the two of them would benefit the child. As long as its controlled and supervised. I dont remember seeing anything where he ever posted wanting her visitation stopped or her access to the child cut-off.

A lot of his posts contain underlying anger about her lack of involvement- being late to visits and her general lack of involvement in the childs life. (not knowing the food the child eats, the child crying when she picks her up, and simply the fact that she walked out of her babies life)

Its a very tough situation because its very easy for outsiders to say look at all the stuff you posted about your wife, how shes a fraud, how shes a liar, how shes this and that- how could you possibly want her in the childs life. You should be doing all you can to keep her away from the child. But is that the right thing to do? I dont know. One day the childs going to grow up lest we forget. There are quite a few angry teens and adults who hold a grudge against a parent who raised them who kept them from their 'other' parent because the custodial parent felt it wasnt in their best interest and they never get over it.

Family courts take a position of allowing and kind of encouraging relationships to happen by imposing and requiring visitation in all situations whether the persons an alcoholic or fraudster - the only time they draw the line is if there is abuse. But all that other shady moral ground- like if you allow pictures of the absent parent in the home, so the child feels a connection, or you talk about them in a positive way, or you update them with extra phone calls about things in the childs life, or you bring them a fingerpainting the child made at school so they can hang it on their fridge instead of on yours- well thats stuff you have to decide for yourself because the court takes no part in that moral stuff.

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But anyway, congrats on getting an order of injunction against the cabbie. Since it seems you have sufficient proof that he did in fact violate it, it does not seem like he has any chance of beating the charges. I dont think the punishment is going to be as severe as you are hoping though (registering as a threat to children though- oh my no, he didnt commit a sex crime) Youd have to google for your state but it probably a min jail sentence and a fine. It could be more if he has a prior record which I believe you said he does have.

He was clearly having some type of relationship with your ex and she was using him to - I dont really know what to call it. But he was doing more then just drive her around that was for sure.

What was especially troubling for me- well people are influenced by the company they keep and he was clearly bad news, so its good that he is gone or going to be gone soon. Some women, esp women that dont have a strong character of their own are easily influenced by others. They hook up with a guy and suddenly he likes cars and they like cars. Hes a hunter and an outdoorsman they adapt to the lifestyle.

Your exs first 'partner' was a advocate worker and she picked up on and followed his advices and influences. This new guy is a criminal. Theres no reason to believe that she would not be doing the same. As the past is the greatest indication of the future. If she shared her struggles with the advocate he would have presented her with a solution the way he knew how (you saw what that was). If she is now sharing her struggles with a criminal he too would present her with solutions in a way he knows. It could explain the missing documents and his harassment of you- because thats how criminals handle things.

I just dont know if she sought out these people or they just fell into her life.

[verysadguy 170]

Just remember, you don't know what is going on in her life.

I do know what is going on in her life. She is working, living for free with her boyfriend, and partying her butt off. Not really putting any effort in to bonding with her child at all. When she came here this time she spent more time with her cab driver friend than with her daughter.

She is a proven sociopath. She needs attention, men, and money. Not a mother-child bond. She is grasping at a dream and an opportunity at a green card.