Fiance' was cheating while PREGNANT

[verysadguy 170]

Sandranj,

Is your mailbox full? I can't send you any messages!

I have a couple questions please. Thanks!

[verysadguy 170]

Bizarre behavior, don't be surprised everyone!!!

My ex came for visitation to see our daughter. I hired an investigator for safety and to see if any funny business was up, there was plenty) I'll try to keep this short. When she arrived at the airport a cabbie arrived who immediately got out of the car and they hugged! Weird. I've never hugged a cabbie. They went to her hotel and spent 30 minutes in the room together then went to Starbucks for an hour. That must have been one HIGH taxi fare!

My ex arrived late the following day via the same cabbie at a safe house I arranged (per court orders) for her visitation, late apparently because she went to one of my daughters other babysitters behind my back to talk with someone. Motive unknown other than attempting to create a secret reporting relationship.

At the end of that day the cabbie drove up to me while I was getting my daughter from the babysitter rolled down his window and said to me eye to eye he would be "seeing me driving around town" (We live in a small town so that is easy to do but seriously?)

The next day as my ex was leaving the cabbie got out of his car, walked up to the house, inquired if the baby in the arm's of the babysitter at the door of the house was my ex's daughter, and proceeded to grab her by the forearm. TWO WITNESSES. The toddler recoiled and the babysitter said she felt very scared. The cabbie retreated. Per witnesses my ex seemed surprised?

Later that night, I discovered that the diaper bag, which was in the possession of the babysitter, was missing important copies of my daughters important legal documents (ssn, birth certificate, custody orders) and my daughter's original and only health insurance ID. My ex refused to acknowledge she took the papers when I inquired the following day. (there was NO ONE else who could have taken them). The babysitter noted my ex's behavior as "different" that day and my ex was controlling the diaper changing and thus the access to the diaper bag during the afternoon.

So, it is known my ex is a liar, a cheat, an adulterer, and now a thief. Nice woman huh? Good VAWA candidate? Hardly.

[Caryh 5,206]

Bizarre behavior, don't be surprised everyone!!!

My ex came for visitation to see our daughter. I hired an investigator for safety and to see if any funny business was up, there was plenty) I'll try to keep this short. When she arrived at the airport a cabbie arrived who immediately got out of the car and they hugged! Weird. I've never hugged a cabbie. They went to her hotel and spent 30 minutes in the room together then went to Starbucks for an hour. That must have been one HIGH taxi fare!

My ex arrived late the following day via the same cabbie at a safe house I arranged (per court orders) for her visitation, late apparently because she went to one of my daughters other babysitters behind my back to talk with someone. Motive unknown other than attempting to create a secret reporting relationship.

At the end of that day the cabbie drove up to me while I was getting my daughter from the babysitter rolled down his window and said to me eye to eye he would be "seeing me driving around town" (We live in a small town so that is easy to do but seriously?)

The next day as my ex was leaving the cabbie got out of his car, walked up to the house, inquired if the baby in the arm's of the babysitter at the door of the house was my ex's daughter, and proceeded to grab her by the forearm. TWO WITNESSES. The toddler recoiled and the babysitter said she felt very scared. The cabbie retreated. Per witnesses my ex seemed surprised?

Later that night, I discovered that the diaper bag, which was in the possession of the babysitter, was missing important copies of my daughters important legal documents (ssn, birth certificate, custody orders) and my daughter's original and only health insurance ID. My ex refused to acknowledge she took the papers when I inquired the following day. (there was NO ONE else who could have taken them). The babysitter noted my ex's behavior as "different" that day and my ex was controlling the diaper changing and thus the access to the diaper bag during the afternoon.

So, it is known my ex is a liar, a cheat, an adulterer, and now a thief. Nice woman huh? Good VAWA candidate? Hardly.

One question, why were those type of papers in the diaper bag?

[verysadguy 170]

One question, why were those type of papers in the diaper bag?

In case the babysitter ever needs to go to the doctor. And because of the gravity of the custody situation.

[VanessaTony 3,567]

Later that night, I discovered that the diaper bag, which was in the possession of the babysitter, was missing important copies of my daughters important legal documents (ssn, birth certificate, custody orders) and my daughter's original and only health insurance ID. My ex refused to acknowledge she took the papers when I inquired the following day. (there was NO ONE else who could have taken them). The babysitter noted my ex's behavior as "different" that day and my ex was controlling the diaper changing and thus the access to the diaper bag during the afternoon.

So, it is known my ex is a liar, a cheat, an adulterer, and now a thief. Nice woman huh? Good VAWA candidate? Hardly.

I understand why the documents were there, but I am also curious about WHY the baby sitter let her take the diaper bag when she knew those documents were in there.

She went and saw the other baby sitter which leads me to believe that baby sitter helped her take the documents or told her they were there.

I would put a block on the SSN, I would be concerned that she's using that paperwork to get a passport to her home country and disappear with the child, or to use the paperwork to forge new documents to run away with her (change what the paperwork says to switch the names).

I would also call your health insurance company and let them know it was stolen, that you're worried about it being used fraudulently and could they issue another one (I'm not sure if they do that).

Honestly I would advise your attorney about the documents going missing and about your suspicions that she took them.

[Ontarkie 14,378]

I'm sorry but why were the police not called when a strange man tried to grab your child? That should of been the first thing the sitter should of done. Start using a state agency for visitations. Did you PI take pictures of them together? Send them to her boyfriend back home, I bet he doesn't know. Then hand a copy to your attorney if she has another guy in to harass you time to get a restraining order on him.

[Darnell 8,479]

When you get the PI Report, touch base with the police and file a report about attempted child abduction on the cabbie.

Your PI should be able to backtrack from cab medallion # to cab company to employee name .

Edited June 28, 2013 by Darnell

[Shiobhan 235]

Don't mess with Texas & child support, our mechanic got 4 yrs , after being arrested 5 times

prior for 6 kids...here's the kicker when DNA test was done only 4 was his, judge says he

gotta pay for all 6 they are now his, they're in his name, when he argued the 16 yr old had

a baby and lived with her man , judge say you must pay 2 more yrs, get her back in school.

Just love that baby she'll get hers one day.

[Brian1967## 119]

Well Jihana this is Texas and yes you are right in this state genetics do not matter it is who the child calls the father they go off of and who pays child support. OP Have you put her on child support yet? Always remember if you really want to effect her status be able to PROVE to USCIS she is behind in child support. The VAWA claim is just the first part of her journey AOS. She still has to prove Bona fide marriage, and GMC (good moral Character) if she is behind or is not supporting her child well according to the rules her green card can be denied. You also have to remember you need to learn try no to go after her so hard USCIS can view this as abuse, yes if you look at her wrong this could be seen as abuse.

Edited June 28, 2013 by Brian1967##

[verysadguy 170]

I have gone after her hard with USCIS. She is a fraud and there is so much ongoing nonsense. I have toned down.

Yes, I was able to get her for child support. She is already behind one month. I will wait about 3 months then go after a court ruling. My ex already lied on her affidavit of financial information so she is really putting herself in a hole.

A US Marshall is going to talk to the cab driver.

Get this. Her boyfriend at home wrote a text on her phone to me saying to just get a new ID card it was easy. My ex would have almost no clue about insurance proceses. So, he is no complicit with aiding an alleged criminal.

Well Jihana this is Texas and yes you are right in this state genetics do not matter it is who the child calls the father they go off of and who pays child support. OP Have you put her on child support yet? Always remember if you really want to effect her status be able to PROVE to USCIS she is behind in child support. The VAWA claim is just the first part of her journey AOS. She still has to prove Bona fide marriage, and GMC (good moral Character) if she is behind or is not supporting her child well according to the rules her green card can be denied. You also have to remember you need to learn try no to go after her so hard USCIS can view this as abuse, yes if you look at her wrong this could be seen as abuse.

[claudiaarroyo49 1]

Sad to hear your story. Your ex will most likely still get her residency status. I guess USCIS follows orders and laws at the time of giving a benefit more than anything. I think in giving her residency status they must look up whether or not the marriage was not a sham. But can't say you did not try right? The major concern here is your daughter. Noone can take your daughter away from you if you are a great father. If one day it comes to your ex coming back to haunt you to get the baby back, use all your proof of adultery while pregnant at the court, plus mention the length of times she did not come to see her daughter. Plus any bad stuff you could get about her(private investigator) sleeping around with different men.

[claudiaarroyo49 1]

Sad to hear your story. Your ex will most likely still get her residency status. I guess USCIS follows orders and laws at the time of giving a benefit more than anything. I think in giving her residency status they must look up whether or not the marriage was not a sham. But can't say you did not try right? The major concern here is your daughter. Noone can take your daughter away from you if you are a great father. If one day it comes to your ex coming back to haunt you to get the baby back, use all your proof of adultery while pregnant at the court, plus mention the length of times she did not come to see her daughter. Plus any bad stuff you could get about her(private investigator) sleeping around with different men.

And most importantly, her lack of child support payments. They cannot take your daughter away.

[claudiaarroyo49 1]

Sad to hear your story. Your ex will most likely still get her residency status. I guess USCIS follows orders and laws at the time of giving a benefit more than anything. I think in giving her residency status they must look up whether or not the marriage was not a sham. But can't say you did not try right? The major concern here is your daughter. Noone can take your daughter away from you if you are a great father. If one day it comes to your ex coming back to haunt you to get the baby back, use all your proof of adultery while pregnant at the court, plus mention the length of times she did not come to see her daughter. Plus any bad stuff you could get about her(private investigator) sleeping around with different men.

What the courts look at is, who is the better fit parent to look after the child. You are.

[Brian1967## 119]

When she tries to get her card it is CLEARLY written if she does not make child support payments, can be cause for removal proceedings to start.

[Brian1967## 119]

Sorry let me correct myself, not paying child support, done thru the courts, would block a finding of good moral character.