well things change in a year....

[ttran 0]

my question now is me and the wife are having some tough times and doesnt seem like how it used to be....she is not living with me at the moment and she might being having a 10 year visa since we did have a wedding in vietnam. she is living wit her sister and she doesnt seem happy i have a feeling it was all fake and my feelings for played with and now that shes over here she doesnt give a rats #### about me. is there anyway i could send her back so to say if we dont get situated? this is just a question is there anything i can do. i have this affects my next marriage alot. if i do

[mauguste27 2]

my question now is me and the wife are having some tough times and doesnt seem like how it used to be....she is not living with me at the moment and she might being having a 10 year visa since we did have a wedding in vietnam. she is living wit her sister and she doesnt seem happy i have a feeling it was all fake and my feelings for played with and now that shes over here she doesnt give a rats #### about me. is there anyway i could send her back so to say if we dont get situated? this is just a question is there anything i can do. i have this affects my next marriage alot. if i do

you ask god for wife you got.just go to marriage counsler my friend

[tcTTct 37]

Sorry to sound callous but this is the risk you take for marrying a girl from Vietnam, especially if you're Viet Kieu, not loaded with cash and the girl is younger and prettier than someone you could get here in the US. There's no shortage of stories of girls leaving after they get here.

I hope this is not your case. Best of luck to you.

[ttran 0]

so there is no way of sending her back....lol and yes ive seen it happen plenty of times and im just too dumb to realize it.

[brian_n_phuong 193]

my question now is me and the wife are having some tough times and doesnt seem like how it used to be....she is not living with me at the moment and she might being having a 10 year visa since we did have a wedding in vietnam. she is living wit her sister and she doesnt seem happy i have a feeling it was all fake and my feelings for played with and now that shes over here she doesnt give a rats #### about me. is there anyway i could send her back so to say if we dont get situated? this is just a question is there anything i can do. i have this affects my next marriage alot. if i do

I don't understand? According to your post last week she didn't arrive untill March 15, three days ago???

Are you saying that the problems started when she was still in VIet Nam, yet you brought here here anyways?

or

That everything was good untill three days ago?? Heck, if that's the case perhaps she is just having trouble adjusting to the US. It's very traumatic to leave everything and everyone behind. Perhaps give this a few days and let things calm down.

[luckytxn 2,264]

my question now is me and the wife are having some tough times and doesnt seem like how it used to be....she is not living with me at the moment and she might being having a 10 year visa since we did have a wedding in vietnam. she is living wit her sister and she doesnt seem happy i have a feeling it was all fake and my feelings for played with and now that shes over here she doesnt give a rats #### about me. is there anyway i could send her back so to say if we dont get situated? this is just a question is there anything i can do. i have this affects my next marriage alot. if i do

No you can't send her back. If she did just arrive and you have proof that she committed visa fraud then you can but from what you said that is not the case. If she just arrived and is gone in three days time then that is bad. We know very little as you just say she has gone to her sisters house to live. Now we are pretty good judges here and will all say our piece if you want to tell us more.

[luckytxn 2,264]

Sorry to sound callous but this is the risk you take for marrying a girl from Vietnam, especially if you're Viet Kieu, not loaded with cash and the girl is younger and prettier than someone you could get here in the US. There's no shortage of stories of girls leaving after they get here.

I hope this is not your case. Best of luck to you.

I disagree. I have heard little about this happening in this forum. I have heard more about other countries and not just in Asia though. My wife is a lot younger and definitely a lot better looking than I. I have expected her to say for a long time, "bye" and leave. I can't figure out why she is still with me. I have even told her that she can leave and have no problem on getting the citizenship if she want. Yet she stays. Been here now almost 3 years and I am still puzzled.

Btw there is pics of her and even a couple of me if anyone wants to click of photos

[brian_n_phuong 193]

I disagree. I have heard little about this happening in this forum. I have heard more about other countries and not just in Asia though. My wife is a lot younger and definitely a lot better looking than I. I have expected her to say for a long time, "bye" and leave. I can't figure out why she is still with me. I have even told her that she can leave and have no problem on getting the citizenship if she want. Yet she stays. Been here now almost 3 years and I am still puzzled.

Btw there is pics of her and even a couple of me if anyone wants to click of photos

Great Post !!

[WeatherEmperor 21]

I disagree. I have heard little about this happening in this forum. I have heard more about other countries and not just in Asia though. My wife is a lot younger and definitely a lot better looking than I. I have expected her to say for a long time, "bye" and leave. I can't figure out why she is still with me. I have even told her that she can leave and have no problem on getting the citizenship if she want. Yet she stays. Been here now almost 3 years and I am still puzzled.

Btw there is pics of her and even a couple of me if anyone wants to click of photos

Okay you asked for it. I have always thought that your wife is very beautiful. You are a very lucky guy to have a babe like that

OP, I am very surprised to learn this about your case. It was just last week that your wife got the Pink slip...the same day as Thu...and now there are problems. Please talk with your wife to find out what is really going on. Maybe she is having cold feet. Maybe she is just afraid of her new life in America. Find out what the truth behind all of this because while it is possible she used you for a visa, it seems bizarre that she would just bail on you like that.

Edited March 19, 2012 by WeatherEmperor

[tcTTct 37]

I disagree. I have heard little about this happening in this forum. I have heard more about other countries and not just in Asia though. My wife is a lot younger and definitely a lot better looking than I. I have expected her to say for a long time, "bye" and leave. I can't figure out why she is still with me. I have even told her that she can leave and have no problem on getting the citizenship if she want. Yet she stays. Been here now almost 3 years and I am still puzzled.

Btw there is pics of her and even a couple of me if anyone wants to click of photos

Maybe the ladies marrying white Americans are a different breed. It's rampant in the Vietnamese community. Im talking about Viet Kieu as the OP is obviously one.

You may have married someone who had a bad experience with a VNese ex so now you're the dream catch. Who knows. All I'm saying is just because we are all in the VN subforum means that the experience of VN/VN couples are the same as VN/white couples. It will vary depending on where you live.

Your experience is from reading the forum. Mine is from being in the community.

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Edited March 19, 2012 by tcTTct

[luckytxn 2,264]

Great Post !!

I get lucky sometimes.

Okay you asked for it. I have always thought that your wife is very beautiful. You are a very lucky guy to have a babe like that

OP, I am very surprised to learn this about your case. It was just last week that your wife got the Pink slip...the same day as Thu...and now there are problems. Please talk with your wife to find out what is really going on. Maybe she is having cold feet. Maybe she is just afraid of her new life in America. Find out what the truth behind all of this because while it is possible she used you for a visa, it seems bizarre that she would just bail on you like that.

Why thank you. I am lucky indeed. Your babe is hot too.

[luckytxn 2,264]

Maybe the ladies marrying white Americans are a different breed. It's rampant in the Vietnamese community. Im talking about Viet Kieu as the OP is obviously one.

You may have married someone who had a bad experience with a VNese ex so now you're the dream catch. Who knows. All I'm saying is just because we are all in the VN subforum means that the experience of VN/VN couples are the same as VN/white couples. It will vary depending on where you live.

Your experience is from reading the forum. Mine is from being in the community.

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You are right. I was talking about the forum here. I have also introduced two friends to babes who have since been successful with the visa and they are here and married. My wife has a lot of VN and am constantly hearing about the community and from what I have seen there are few Visa card and gone babes. I tend to look at positives always though. Just from what I have seen personally is that in the VN forum and community I am in there is little stuff like this. I do see often in other forums here.

[ScottThuy 140]

I can count on my left hand how many VN members I know of that have gone through this... Most of the time it is normal difficulty dealing with a new relationship or a new country rather than a scam... My wife lovesme, but hates it here in the US... Or at least where we live... That has taken alot of adjusting on both parts... For us, traveling back and forth frequently has helped a great deal...

Communication is the key and once you become unable to openly communicate there is a far less chance that things will work out. As we told Kevin last year.. You need to be with her and communicate with her to work out the problems together...

No there is nothing you can do to send her back.. its not like something you bought online...

[Operator 1,927]

I can count on my left hand how many VN members I know of that have gone through this... Most of the time it is normal difficulty dealing with a new relationship or a new country rather than a scam... My wife lovesme, but hates it here in the US... Or at least where we live... That has taken alot of adjusting on both parts... For us, traveling back and forth frequently has helped a great deal...

Communication is the key and once you become unable to openly communicate there is a far less chance that things will work out. As we told Kevin last year.. You need to be with her and communicate with her to work out the problems together...

No there is nothing you can do to send her back.. its not like something you bought online...

So true and certainly not specific to only folks from VN.

[mickeyman 5]

Sometime it is hard to think about what a huge cultural difference and thus a SHOCK it is for the women who come to the US. They leave everything behind that is familiar to them and basically the only world they know to come be with us here.

People I talk with say it can be up to 2 to 3 years before they would feel comfortable and at home here.

Maybe it is just this cultural shock and being with her family is as close as she can come to her comfort zone that she left behind.

It is hard but important to remember that everyone that we bring to the new countries we live in need a lot of extra kindness and comfort to help them through the trauma of such a huge adjustment.