husband wants divorce

[kelly11anne 6]

I kind of feel like you're telling my story. My husband doesn't go out and stay out until 3 or 4, but he tells me all the time that he's leaving me and that I ruined his life. When he is frustrated he tells me how horrible I am. I have been told the most awful things and I keep trying because I think it's the stress of waiting for papers. I'm starting to think that I will never win and nothing I do will ever be good enough. I've supported him in everything. I've done all the paperwork, paid for all the visa stuff, helped him sign up for English classes, written his resume, searched for jobs for him, and all the while telling him how much I love him and how I want him to be happy here with me. It drains you. I can see it. I look older (he tells me that too), I don't do anything I did before. I don't hang out with friends anymore (he never wants to leave the house and if I went alone I'd be abandoning him). He doesn't want to do anything other than complain about how his life back in his country was so great and how if he knew it would be like this, he never would have come here. Just yesterday he told me that at 28 I really should have done more with my life. I should be farther ahead. I thought that those are the things your enemies say, not the person you are married to. This is supposed to be my support?

My roommate from when I lived in that country also married a guy from there and brought him back too. Same story. They are probably getting divorced. She too has given it her all. I think sometimes we want so bad for things to happen that we don't realize if someone were telling us this story about someone else, we'd say dump the guy. It's so hard. I can't tell you what to do because I don't know what to do either.

Sorry and good luck.

[FinallyDone:) 10]

I am really sorry this is happening to you! But my best aduce to you as at the end of it all he will realise that he had a good thing now it's gone! Once he goes back to his country the same doors that are open here will not be open there! The great oppunities that are present in USA and with you are endless! He apparently hasn't really thought about the future!

Where's be from by the way?

[patient2010 93]

I hope things workout for the two of you.....Goodluck

[TBoneTX 46,088]

I thought that those are the things your enemies say, not the person you are married to.

Si, man (sigh, man).

I don't know what to do either.

Dump his sorry Ecu-macho culo -- yesterday.

[Brother Hesekiel 2,236]

None of us can deduct from your story if you have been used for a Green Card, but based on the timing and your husband's behavior, that might as well be the case. What we all can deduct is that continuing your marriage doesn't make any sense. Cut your losses, get a divorce, and try to forget this unfortunate part of your life. Look ahead for better things to come.