Deportation

[BethandBilly 86]

OP have you reported the alleged abuse to the police, you do know this could go against her should she ever file for citizenship, as she is showing she is not of good moral character. Be careful what you do, if you do not want to support her forever or be liable for her, then you really may want to think carefully about your next move. Do NOT rush in to things within thinking through all scenarios.

[OneLove313 0]

Sorry, I didn't make myself very clear there. I started off asking if he thinks she used him for immigration purposes, in which case she can still be deported unless conditions were removed. Also, if they aren't married anymore, as you say, she'll have to prove the marriage was entered into in good faith.

Unfortunately for you, the affidavit of support is on you, and divorce doesn't void it at all. Unless she's deported for using you for immigration purposes, the affidavit is in effect until either:

- She becomes a citizen.

- She abandons her status.

- She has worked 40 fiscal quarters.

- She dies.

She'd have to have a case for saying you abused her. With zero proof I doubt she'd get too far..

Thank You

[X Factor 1,112]

She said she converted to my religion for us before she came here and now she is here and says she won't. It's against my religion to be married to her.

I am not being confrontational but just asking - why is it that since their is a difference in religious beliefs then you can't be married to her? What if she was a great wife in every other area would that still make it wrong for you to remain married?

[OneLove313 0]

OP have you reported the alleged abuse to the police, you do know this could go against her should she ever file for citizenship, as she is showing she is not of good moral character. Be careful what you do, if you do not want to support her forever or be liable for her, then you really may want to think carefully about your next move. Do NOT rush in to things within thinking through all scenarios.

I haven't because of fear that I would be arrested because a lot of times the guy is and in my state it's a law that some1 gets arrested on a domestic violence call. Maybe I could file a report still by looking at the time stamps on the photos and just make a report only, not file charges.

[InHisTime 110]

How can I get my wife deported and how much would I have to pay? My wife has betrayed me and does nothing but fight with me and watch tv. She is not doing her job in the marriage. She didn't cheat, but is a compulsive liar . She said she converted to my religion for us before she came here and now she is here and says she won't. It's against my religion to be married to her. I want her back in the Philippines. She is a user. She has lied about me to my family and they believe her. Every day with her feels like torture. She has physically abused me but mostly verbally.

I'm sorry for your post. It's really hard to give best advice in your situation as we only hear your side. As they say it takes 2 to tango. In every action there is always an opposite reaction. I think it is best that you buy her a plane ticket if she wants to go back to the Philippines. But, if not, then you may file a divorce if you think the relationship is not workable.

Through faith in God, maybe you should give another chance to work out ? Did both of you undergo counseling ? why not try it ?

If no more love, trust and respect, well, I think you have to divorce her and move on with your life. To deport her is not an honorable thing to do IMO. I believe she won't be in the US without love and sacrifices from both of you in doing all the paperwork. It just didn't work out I guess. Love and Marriage should be work out / nurture always. There is no perfect one. If she is a user, you should have known her better before filing. So, I guess she shouldn't be blamed or judged now that things have changed. There is no certain in life. We have to be responsible on our own actions.

To force her to join your religion is not good. Maybe she changed her mind and you have to respect her on this aspect. Maybe, in time she would want to, but, never force her. It takes time -- it won't be an overnight process. She has to see in you the goodness of what you are believing. It is good to lead by example. We need to practice what we preach so it could be emulated easily.

I believed it wasn't easy for her to leave the Philippines to be with you. So, pray for her so she could live well in the US without your support. Don't be bitter -- vengeance is awful and not a good christian act. Let God handles it as He knows best. Trust God. In this way, you could move on with your life with no regrets. It is always good to apply biblical approaches in solving our problems. It will make us feel better and have peace in our hearts.

I believe there is someone better for you -- pray for God's revelation. "All things happened for a reason". God bless you ! Great things will come to you if you allow God to take in control of everything.

[OneLove313 0]

I am not being confrontational but just asking - why is it that since their is a difference in religious beliefs then you can't be married to her? What if she was a great wife in every other area would that still make it wrong for you to remain married?

If you are a religious person and believe in the one and only God and the herafter then you must have a righteous wife, but if she was being a good wife then I would give her more time to truly convert and be righteous. I grew up with a father of religion but didnt practice it and a mother who has no religion, just believes in God. That doesn't work for the kids or marriage, they got divorced when I(the youngest) was 14. God has commanded me to only wed the women who is righteous. I obey God and am not happy unless I please him and it doesn't please me to have a wife that doesn't praise him. U.S.A 1st amendment right and my religion, my Lord and his prophets I follow and praise only God. I worship him and he gave me life and I will obey his commands and that's what makes me happy. But being married to evil doesn't.

[BethandBilly 86]

I haven't because of fear that I would be arrested because a lot of times the guy is and in my state it's a law that some1 gets arrested on a domestic violence call. Maybe I could file a report still by looking at the time stamps on the photos and just make a report only, not file charges.

I don't know what state you are in, therefore can not look at the statutes. You need to think carefully about your actions. If you think this person you are married to is a danger to you then you must speak, if you and her were going at each other and you were both equally aggressive then you need to address this by counselling.

I don't know what religion you are, nor do I care, but if your beliefs are so strong that you cannot in the name of your God be married to her then divorce her, but divorce is not grounds for deportation and nor should it be.

Good Luck with your decisions, but for goodness sake think before you jump.

[OneLove313 0]

I'm sorry for your post. It's really hard to give best advice in your situation as we only hear your side. As they say it takes 2 to tango. In every action there is always an opposite reaction. I think it is best that you buy her a plane ticket if she wants to go back to the Philippines. But, if not, then you may file a divorce if you think the relationship is not workable.

Through faith in God, maybe you should give another chance to work out ? Did both of you undergo counseling ? why not try it ?

If no more love, trust and respect, well, I think you have to divorce her and move on with your life. To deport her is not an honorable thing to do IMO. I believe she won't be in the US without love and sacrifices from both of you in doing all the paperwork. It just didn't work out I guess. Love and Marriage should be work out / nurture always. There is no perfect one. If she is a user, you should have known her better before filing. So, I guess she shouldn't be blamed or judged now that things have changed. There is no certain in life. We have to be responsible on our own actions.

To force her to join your religion is not good. Maybe she changed her mind and you have to respect her on this aspect. Maybe, in time she would want to, but, never force her. It takes time -- it won't be an overnight process. She has to see in you the goodness of what you are believing. It is good to lead by example. We need to practice what we preach so it could be emulated easily.

I believed it wasn't easy for her to leave the Philippines to be with you. So, pray for her so she could live well in the US without your support. Don't be bitter -- vengeance is awful and not a good christian act. Let God handles it as He knows best. Trust God. In this way, you could move on with your life with no regrets. It is always good to apply biblical approaches in solving our problems. It will make us feel better and have peace in our hearts.

I believe there is someone better for you -- pray for God's revelation. "All things happened for a reason". God bless you ! Great things will come to you if you allow God to take in control of everything.

You spent more time writing then reading the thread. Your answers are in this thread. God is in control and as I already said I take responsibility and have no regrets because everything is God's decree and I did not say I am Christian. I have given her way too many chances and there is honor in deporting her because she cost me a lot of money and hardship. I always learn from everything. And God says to cast her away from me and that is deportation. We have enough bad people in this country and as a former DHS employee it is honorable to keep her out and protect the people from her. As I said before I have not forced her to my religion, she lied to get here. She deserves worse than being deported. But I have peace in my heart and I want to move on and just let God punish her. She sees me praying to God 6 times a day and sometimes more. I practice what I preach. I am the one who did all of the work to get her here. About getting to know her more, how could I? I met her while I lived in China and I visited her in the Philippines and went to her home town easily because the flight was not long or expensive. I moved back to the USA because of her and our future kids we planned to have and I worked so hard to find a job in the recession. I'm not bitter and God granted me permission to act out against those who attack me and those of evil and what I plan to do is not punishment at all, it's getting my life back. I allow God to control my life but it's not up to me, everything is his decree, so I have no regrets and trust in God. He has guided me my whole life.

[OneLove313 0]

I don't know what state you are in, therefore can not look at the statutes. You need to think carefully about your actions. If you think this person you are married to is a danger to you then you must speak, if you and her were going at each other and you were both equally aggressive then you need to address this by counselling.

I don't know what religion you are, nor do I care, but if your beliefs are so strong that you cannot in the name of your God be married to her then divorce her, but divorce is not grounds for deportation and nor should it be.

Good Luck with your decisions, but for goodness sake think before you jump.

I am thinking, thats why I posted here. As I said earlier we have met with a therapist and it didn't work on her end. It takes 2 to make it work. I'm in Nevada and thank you, you are right that I must speak and not be like a battered wife and stay quiet but typically police here go on the womens side because they are weak even if they have no signs of abuse but I do.

[OneLove313 0]

So, she doesn't have a green card YET

but

the AOS paperwork HAS BEEN FILED, and there was a local AOS interview on the 29th of February (from yer timeline).

At this stage, YOU (the USCitizen Petitioner)

can withdraw the I-864

via

postal letter to:

1. local USCIS office

2. national USCIS office

a 'withdrawal of support', this I-864 document, stops all - her green card cannot be issued without it.

So, prep that tonight, send out both via Express Mail in the morning,

then file for divorce.

You have a very small window of time, to get this done.

Once it's done, she'll be out of status, and subject to be picked up anytime.

Good Luck !

Thank you and I believe you are right but so many posts here say differently. It makes me confused on what to do. I will eventually choose the right path Lord willing

[InHisTime 110]

You spent more time writing then reading the thread. Your answers are in this thread. God is in control and as I already said I take responsibility and have no regrets because everything is God's decree and I did not say I am Christian. I have given her way too many chances and there is honor in deporting her because she cost me a lot of money and hardship. I always learn from everything. And God says to cast her away from me and that is deportation. We have enough bad people in this country and as a former DHS employee it is honorable to keep her out and protect the people from her. As I said before I have not forced her to my religion, she lied to get here. She deserves worse than being deported. But I have peace in my heart and I want to move on and just let God punish her. She sees me praying to God 6 times a day and sometimes more. I practice what I preach. I am the one who did all of the work to get her here. About getting to know her more, how could I? I met her while I lived in China and I visited her in the Philippines and went to her home town easily because the flight was not long or expensive. I moved back to the USA because of her and our future kids we planned to have and I worked so hard to find a job in the recession. I'm not bitter and God granted me permission to act out against those who attack me and those of evil and what I plan to do is not punishment at all, it's getting my life back. I allow God to control my life but it's not up to me, everything is his decree, so I have no regrets and trust in God. He has guided me my whole life.

Well, so sorry again. As what others said, you have no right to deport her. You just need to report to the USCIS, but, still it has to be proven if she really used you for immigration. And. it is really hard for me to judge her without truly listening from her side. I understand your feelings. Right now, I know you are still angry with her and that is why you want to deport her. That is a normal feeling. I just think if you really want peace in your heart -- then move on with your life and lift it all to God. It doesn't happen to you only. I'm sure you have learned great lessons here that would be very helpful. Things have to happen this way, because God loves you very much. He doesn't want you to suffer more. Just look at it positively and feel blessed that God guided you all throughout. Take care and I wish you peace in your life! May God bless you more.

[OneLove313 0]

If they have already approved her conditional green card and have physically sent it out, there is nothing you can do. I divorced my ex because she left me and only had her card for 7 months. USCIS will not do anything and she cannot be deported. USCIS willlet the conditional green card run its course and then if you are already divorced, she can file a waiver to remove conditions and then will have to appear before USCIS for an interview, If they believe her story that she married you in good faith and I thought it would take a lot of proof, but it doesn't. Pictures of your wedding, joint bank account, tax returns, medical cards, people writing affidavits saying they witnessed you as a husband and wife, then she can get her conditions removed without you and especially if she claims VAWA and they believe her. I want my ex gone as bad as you do. I only hope that her leaving in 7 months of having the green card is compelling enough for USCIS to deny her waiver request. I even have pictures of her with another man less than 3 weeks of leaving me and we were still legally married, Unless you can get the paperwork that was talked about to withdraw your support affidavit before the green card is issued, there is little you can do. Divorce her, try to get her to go back home, but if she doesn't and becomes a public charge, you are finacially responsible and they will come after you for anything that falls into that category. Good luck. I feel your pain.

Good Luck !

Thanks, sorry to hear you dealt with her for 7 months and she did that and as a former DHS employee I know that you must push very hard to get them to work for you, contact your congressman to set up a meeting, I have done this for something else. I'm glad somebody on here knows what I am going through and have been, though I didn't catch her cheating but there is no love or respect from her anymore. I hope your ex-wife gets deported ASAP and stays detained for awhile, same as my wife now. They deserve that. We don't need evil people in this country, there are already enough and time and time again I have met people who have had problems with Filipinas and even repeated it LOL butI have met a few that were ok. Also when I lived in China I had a Filipina gf there that loved me and when my business crashed, she bought me a $200 keyboard to start doing my music again, she was from Cebu and later on I had a gf from Isabella in North PI that when went to visit her she paid her way to come see me and always paid for half of everything without me asking. She was a nurse, but at that time I was scared of commitment. Now I see why I was scared.

[OneLove313 0]

Well, so sorry again. As what others said, you have no right to deport her. You just need to report to the USCIS, but, still it has to be proven if she really used you for immigration. And. it is really hard for me to judge her without truly listening from her side. I understand your feelings. Right now, I know you are still angry with her and that is why you want to deport her. That is a normal feeling. I just think if you really want peace in your heart -- then move on with your life and lift it all to God. It doesn't happen to you only. I'm sure you have learned great lessons here that would be very helpful. Things have to happen this way, because God loves you very much. He doesn't want you to suffer more. Just look at it positively and feel blessed that God guided you all throughout. Take care and I wish you peace in your life! May God bless you more.

As I already said I am not angry and I have peace in my heart and I do have the right to deport her after her betrayal. Nobody is asking for you to judge her. You need to read the initial question and stay on topic. You seem like a Christian so you must believe in one God, but you should know that God does not order us to be kind to those who are evil or do wrong to us and do not obey God, it is the oposite. You do not know of God's wrath, you only know of his forgiveness? He does not forgive if you do not repent. Have you ever read the original Bible? Well there is no original Bible because they have all been copied and changed but in the most original it says bad things about the Prophets of God, like that Noah was an alcoholic and David committed murder in order to commit aldultery, which is not true at all. Also it says Jesus was a prophet and then centuries later the new testament written by men also it says that Jesus is the son of God and then turned into he is God but the original Bible speaks of Jesus as a prophet telling the people to worship his Lord the one God and that he is not a God or a magician, just a messenger of God.

[OneLove313 0]

ya, from studying his timeline, is not any approval, yet.

an interview, yes, but no approval.

IMO, the WINDOW to withdraw the I-864 is very tight, for him, but is do-able.

I didn't post the letter yet because she has it but it was approved last week so she is waiting for the green card which will be here soon.

[OneLove313 0]

That sounds awful man, looks like people have given some good pointers to you in regards to your legal and immigration options. I hate reading stories like this, sucks for everybody personally involved.

Thanks, I agree and I hope this thread will help people that are in the same situation and so that they can take immediate action after being betrayed.