Deportation

[Darnell 8,478]

So, she doesn't have a green card YET

but

the AOS paperwork HAS BEEN FILED, and there was a local AOS interview on the 29th of February (from yer timeline).

At this stage, YOU (the USCitizen Petitioner)

can withdraw the I-864

via

postal letter to:

1. local USCIS office

2. national USCIS office

a 'withdrawal of support', this I-864 document, stops all - her green card cannot be issued without it.

So, prep that tonight, send out both via Express Mail in the morning,

then file for divorce.

You have a very small window of time, to get this done.

Once it's done, she'll be out of status, and subject to be picked up anytime.

Good Luck !

Edited March 14, 2012 by Darnell

[RickJovi 81]

So, she doesn't have a green card YET

but

the AOS paperwork HAS BEEN FILED, and there was a local AOS interview on the 29th of February (from yer timeline).

At this stage, YOU (the USCitizen Petitioner)

can withdraw the I-864

via

postal letter to:

1. local USCIS office

2. national USCIS office

a 'withdrawal of support', this I-864 document, stops all - her green card cannot be issued without it.

So, prep that tonight, send out both via Express Mail in the morning,

then file for divorce.

If they have already approved her conditional green card and have physically sent it out, there is nothing you can do. I divorced my ex because she left me and only had her card for 7 months. USCIS will not do anything and she cannot be deported. USCIS willlet the conditional green card run its course and then if you are already divorced, she can file a waiver to remove conditions and then will have to appear before USCIS for an interview, If they believe her story that she married you in good faith and I thought it would take a lot of proof, but it doesn't. Pictures of your wedding, joint bank account, tax returns, medical cards, people writing affidavits saying they witnessed you as a husband and wife, then she can get her conditions removed without you and especially if she claims VAWA and they believe her. I want my ex gone as bad as you do. I only hope that her leaving in 7 months of having the green card is compelling enough for USCIS to deny her waiver request. I even have pictures of her with another man less than 3 weeks of leaving me and we were still legally married, Unless you can get the paperwork that was talked about to withdraw your support affidavit before the green card is issued, there is little you can do. Divorce her, try to get her to go back home, but if she doesn't and becomes a public charge, you are finacially responsible and they will come after you for anything that falls into that category. Good luck. I feel your pain.

Good Luck !

Edited March 14, 2012 by RickJovi

[Darnell 8,478]

ya, from studying his timeline, is not any approval, yet.

an interview, yes, but no approval.

IMO, the WINDOW to withdraw the I-864 is very tight, for him, but is do-able.

[iluvmy_hubbybunny 9]

hmm sounds sad, but in one relationship both side always make it look like they are the one who's right and the other one is wrong, i don't want to judge the girl without hearing her own story ofcourse or not knowing the whole story, from how i read it, this is all about the "RELIGION" if i am right, look like it's unreasonable to put the "divorce", "deportation" or what so ever on the table without fixing it??? does it enough reason so give up on one relationship just because one thing didn't work??? can't both parties think that there is so many good thing, good side that both of you done to each other, cant both of you give it a try to fix that relationship and save it .. rather than.. following what they advise here since .. we're all not sure if she really used that guy for green card. Always remember that there's two side of story. I'm not saying that this story is wrong but .. the story is favored to him and if the girl put her own side here it'll be favored to her too, so all i can say it try to work it out, give it a chance .. think about all the good things that both of u done to each other than this one "lie" that you are talking about, but at the end of the day .. it's all up to u .. choose what makes you happy.

[Carito_ 5]

Like a couple of you here I am trying to look at both sides of the story... By what you wrote I am sensing that it was more like a personality/religion issue instead of her just USING you for immigration... Why all the hate?? Just be the bigger person, do not threaten her with deportation... Just be civil, if you can, withdraw the affidavit of support, send her back home and wish her the best. You mentioned that she already said she wanted to go back home. After all, this is a person you once loved deeply. If she is using you, then karma will take care of it.

Just my 2 cents here; as the beneficiary I can relate to your wife in the fact that she moved and left everything behind to be with you, don't use fear or threats. That is not playing fair. If she in fact used you, why didn't she wait until she received her green card?

Good luck.

[Justine+David 218]

What do you mean by asking how much it costs to deport someone?? You don't pay immigration to deport spouses.

If she has the green card, it's pretty tough since you are tight on that affidavit of support, but you can call ICE and file a report. The fact that you have been arrested for a DUI does not help your case though; even if you were in the right, it still looks suspicious...why not just divorce her and move on with your life?

Edited March 14, 2012 by Justine+David

[mayeeization 3]

So sad to know about your Fiipina wife... i am a Filipina and married to a godly man. We are having a little taste of heaven on earth in our marriage.. I believe in the sanctity of marriage and the Biblical role of man and woman in marriage. I hope and pray you can work things out. I believe real change comes from Jesus and no one can change your wife except when she has a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. Seek godly advices.. God bless your marriage.

[Peter_Pan 661]

So sad to know about your Fiipina wife... i am a Filipina and married to a godly man. We are having a little taste of heaven on earth in our marriage.. I believe in the sanctity of marriage and the Biblical role of man and woman in marriage. I hope and pray you can work things out. I believe real change comes from Jesus and no one can change your wife except when she has a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. Seek godly advices.. God bless your marriage.

Yeah, and he asked her to convert to another religion and leave Jesus out of her life for good.

Pretty fair, no?

[Dakine10 5,452]

ya, from studying his timeline, is not any approval, yet.

an interview, yes, but no approval.

IMO, the WINDOW to withdraw the I-864 is very tight, for him, but is do-able.

Nope. He already said the AOS was approved, GC is in the mail.

[Darnell 8,478]

Dakine - hmmmmmmmmmmmmm...

[BethandBilly 86]

Why are we supporting physical/emotional abuse on a man, one that has kept his word to his wife and filed AOS, if it were the other way round we would be saying go for the VAWA thing. He kept his promise to her, to bring her to the US as his wife, to take care of her and to help her through the AOS process. She, it seems, made a promise to him, which she lied about, a lie, which to some of us, may not be a big deal, but it seems it is to him. Yes I understand there are two sides to every story, but we need to leave our personal judgement out of this and offer the same advice to him as we would to anyone else.

On a side note, OP you have been given some very good advice from people on here, but only you can decide what to do and how you play this out, think carefully about your next move, this is your life be careful.

[Boiler 45,804]

Well if God wants her Deported then I am sure God will have her Deported.

Meanwhile it looks like she is staying and you need to cough up for a Divorce Lawyer.

[Xanax 349]

You said "she doesn't want to go" and you have also said she said "she wants to go home". It seems you are not sure what she wants.

My advice would be to:

1)a)File for divorce and inform her of this fact.

or

1)b)Try counselling again and let her know things need to be fixed or you do not feel you can continue in this unhappy union.

2) Give her options ie/ does she want to go home or stay and make her own way here if you do get divorced( I would not back her into a corner and tell her you are buying her a ticket back, otherwise she might make things harder for you); does she want to work on things.

I cannot believe that if you love someone or had loved them previously that you would intentionally want to hurt them, even if your marriage does dissolve, I am sure it is better to dissolve it amicably and it will probably save you from heartache/ stress/ financial loss late.

IF you both entered in to the marriage in good faith then you cannot have her "deported" . Actually YOU can never have her deported, you can only report the marriage as fraudulent AND doing things like this/ saying those things to her as threats may encourage her to do the same thing, try to hurt you, she might file VAWA , report you to police etc etc and it could get messy. You cannot have someone deported because they don't "treat you nice".

Edited March 14, 2012 by BrittandDan

[Mike B. 231]

Why are we supporting physical/emotional abuse on a man, one that has kept his word to his wife and filed AOS, if it were the other way round we would be saying go for the VAWA thing.

Actually, I'm pretty sure that had it been a woman who said "I don't like my spouse's religion, how can I get him deported to punish him" I wouldn't be telling the woman to use VAWA, but hey, that's just me. People have all sorts of crazy hang-ups about the people they are married to, and I'm sure there are people who would look at me and think I'm a nut as well. If someone is convinced that they are going to go to hell for marrying someone that they love, well, they are free to think that way as far as I'm concerned. But I wouldn't be counseling anyone to abuse VAWA as a result.

[BethandBilly 86]

Actually, I'm pretty sure that had it been a woman who said "I don't like my spouse's religion, how can I get him deported to punish him" I wouldn't be telling the woman to use VAWA, but hey, that's just me. People have all sorts of crazy hang-ups about the people they are married to, and I'm sure there are people who would look at me and think I'm a nut as well. If someone is convinced that they are going to go to hell for marrying someone that they love, well, they are free to think that way as far as I'm concerned. But I wouldn't be counseling anyone to abuse VAWA as a result.

Mike, he said he has photos of physical abuse inflicted by her on him, hence the VAWA comment made by me.