Could you please evaluate my K-1 visa case?

[Mel and Rudy 2]

There is a lot you are wrong about but you are certianly right when you say you have above average emotional needs.

To get a green card you have to be granted a visa. To do that you have to work within the laws of the USA. Those laws dont dictate who you can marry. You can & should marry her right there in India. This way you dont have to comply with the K 1 criteria. You dont have to get a " fricken" green card at all. You could use the K 1 to enter to marry her here & then simply leave.

You could immigrate to later become a citizen then use that superior intellect to lobby to change those very laws that you hate. Use the working knowledge of the entire universe to help others understand the flaws & failures of the USA as we know it.

There is no Wizard of Oz sitting behind a curtian determining your fate. In reality he aged out & went to India to become enlightened. Now we just use the laws of the nation to control the immigration of people from outside the USA. It worked for me & it works for many more every year. Our journey was difficult but I have never done anything that was more worth every single moment it took to come here. This is truly the greatest country on earth.

Your problems seem to revolve around your relationship with your mother. Its really her that is going to decide who you marry. If thats the Indian way that evolved from long ago you may have to tell her how horrible it is to live with that concept.

Oh yeah definitely that is one of my long-term goals now to challenge these arbitrary practices in court once (if) I get to Uncle Sam. Not too familiar with the American legal system but I have heard they have one of the most efficient and elaborate judicial set-ups in the world so yeah, it should be happy-hunting!

And I almost imagined you were hinting at me a second time too following the Wizard's example cause I have planned to retire in the Himalayas and meditate for enlightenment if we can't pull this off.

[JudyKCski 12]

I wish you luck with your mother. Bring forward to her the strong points and be very happy about your relationship. Tell mom that she is part Indian and has a good job and how many times you and Mel have met each other. If it was me I think I would be more worried about my child moving away than about the age difference. With you trying to be a lawyer I am sure you can "sell" your case to your mother - just put on your lawyer hat when you do it. Good Luck!

[thelastpetitioner 218]

Your personal life or attitude towards your family is Not important here. Neither is the details of your relationship. Your reflag is A) the age gap B) at least at this point the fact that the parents don't know. Mumbai consulate usually in red flag filled cases contacts the families and compares stories, at least I have seen that happen 5+ times. So definitely tell the families the whole story and the truth and go in armed.

[Mel and Rudy 2]

Your personal life or attitude towards your family is Not important here. Neither is the details of your relationship. Your reflag is A) the age gap B) at least at this point the fact that the parents don't know. Mumbai consulate usually in red flag filled cases contacts the families and compares stories, at least I have seen that happen 5+ times. So definitely tell the families the whole story and the truth and go in armed.

Thank you so much. One call to my mom and they will get the whole story.

But when should I tell her? I always thought I'll tell her right before they interview so I have fewer days to suffer. I guess I am just trying to be selfish here. I guess avoiding pain is selfish.

Should I tell her now? It's nearly 2 months to the interview. I got my exams in a month and if they give me hell I may not make it through. I am already seeing a psychiatrist and I got her to prescribe me anti-anxiolytics which is really affecting my attention span already. The problem is when you stop taking them, the anxiety comes back with a vengeance. What the doctors never tell you is that if you stop taking the drugs, you're screwed!

Edited March 12, 2012 by Mel and Rudy

[TimeTravel 78]

Thank you so much. One call to my mom and they will get the whole story.

But when should I tell her? I always thought I'll tell her right before they interview so I have fewer days to suffer. I guess I am just trying to be selfish here. I guess avoiding pain is selfish.

Should I tell her now? It's nearly 2 months to the interview. I got my exams in a month and if they give me hell I may not make it through. I am already seeing a psychiatrist and I got her to prescribe me anti-anxiolytics which is really affecting my attention span already. The problem is when you stop taking them, the anxiety comes back with a vengeance. What the doctors never tell you is that if you stop taking the drugs, you're screwed!

Better to tell your mom early rather than waiting for last minute interview date. If she disagrees about this relationship, then that is totally all right. You have to do your job, and explain the same to CO. Done!

Give up these medicine, go to some natural remedies guy and get some herbal thing to manage the things. You will be fine! You are a man!

[sachinky 465]

Any updates?

[Mel and Rudy 2]

I'm back!

Finally my parents know. Initially they asked me to surrender my credit card, pack up and never come back. I said okay. Then they tried to persuade me. I said they can kiss their daughter's Barbie. I was then politely told I wasn't welcome home anymore at least not for the foreseaable future and that in the future if they indeed are convinced that the relationship is real, they MIGHT just 'bless' us. Well what the hell, at least I got my credit card back right?

My interview is on the 15th of June. Mel's gonna be here tomo! (Our fouth meeting) After reading Sundancer's (http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/363676-nightmare-of-an-interview-mumbai-419/) sob story, I don't think we stand a very good chance.

Although in my case I would really do better if I am taken to a private room. I just need to be allowed to talk. In any case the CO can't really dig up any #### about us that we don't already know and he definitely cannot bullshit me about Mel either. I am not sure if I should take the bull by the horns though or just let it gore me. Either way we don't stand a chance eh?

Anyway visa or no visa we gotta do something right? So what the hell if she just got a spankin' new job that pays a butt load of money? Who needs money anyway. I'm gonna make her quit the job and move to India. It doesn't really matter if we are accosted by random horny punks on the street in India and get asked "what's the rate" cause you know we gotta prove a frikkin point to the Almighty CO right?

YWell what the hell, we'll make the damn point. Maybe I'll punch the next guy in the face who asks me "what's the rate" and proly get the ####### beat outta myself if he's got fellow punk buddies watchin' out for him and Mel will film the whole thing, put it on Youtube and send a link to the CO. (Gotta remember to take his e-mail address)

Or you know, we can just hole up at home and only go out to fancy places the kind where nobody bats an eyelid at anything. Oh yeah, I forgot, you gotta have money to go to fancy places! So hole up at home and then some it is!

Yes this is meant to be a cathartic post and no, it ain't banned under the TOU! It's also meant to be funny, so if anybody laughed and then remembered to wish us well, my job is done!

All the best to all other applicants! Life ain't easy, ask me!

So yeah, just sack up, try not to decimate your life's savings on lawyer fees and still try to have a good time!

Live long and prosper!