Need filipina Advice

[Kang 22]

He should just adopt her rather than marrying her.

[NoneYa 73]

I wish Paul would come back...

[the good knight 2]

But then again maybe she is not the B word you think she is. What if she is like a kid? she wants complete attention and that is why she is becoming so revel?? Just throwing some ideas or trying to see the glass half full, not half empty.

if she is like a kid,why the hell she entered in a relationship knowing that someday she'll be leaving her family and meet new families out here?know what?...let's open our eyes that some of the Filipinas who got here thinks that they are in the highest class of life.they think that they step on a gold road and sleep in a bed of luxury!its better that the glass is empty if there's no damage at all rather than half full but there's a leak on it that spills out that remaining content.

[the good knight 2]

I'm more worried that Junior's eaten Paul's brain and he now thinks being in a relationship with a spoiled child is an okay thing for a grown man...

Hi Bob 4 Anna,

I hope that the reason why Paul is not visiting his VJ account is,,,maybe he realized that being with a spoiled brat whatever kind of creature with him is not the best thing he did in his life.maybe he did the best descision for him.(crossing my fingers) that he might find a better one,who will treat him as a husband but not a slave of his own family and home.

[Kang 22]

You speak the truth good knight

[Tahoma 2,292]

I'm more worried that Junior's Paul's eaten Paul's Junior's brain and he now thinks being in a relationship with a spoiled child is an okay thing for a grown man...

Fixxored.

Granted, that would make a very meager meal indeed.

[Crashed~N2~Me 970]

Curious why Paul never came back with an update.

Checked his profile.

Read 2 threads he...I mean...she...posted (in).

I think one lost his VJ posting privileges and the other has taken control.

(Kinda hoping the current... poster...will provide the other side to the story. )

[sunandmoon 450]

Curious why Paul never came back with an update.

Checked his profile.

Read 2 threads he...I mean...she...posted (in).

I think one lost his VJ posting privileges and the other has taken control.

(Kinda hoping the current... poster...will provide the other side to the story. )

so maybe Paul isn't clueless about AOS...

[robertntess2012 0]

I'm sorry to be blunt and straight foward If she doesn't love you, respecet you, is honorable in her agreements before the marriage, donesn't want to help you and doesn't want to make things right with you I am sorry to say that you should send her back home too.

But you can try counseling but it takes to people who care and want to work it out.

Remember this find someone who will truly love you and do almost anything for you.

If their is a issue of trust there too more issues will come up.

Good luck and God bless.

I'm sorry to be blunt and straight foward If she doesn't love you, respecet you, is honorable in her agreements before the marriage, donesn't want to help you and doesn't want to make things right with you I am sorry to say that you should send her back home too.

Good luck and God bess.

[B_and_G 2]

How long has she been here? You must ask yourself how would you feel if you moved 7000 miles, leave your family, your friends, your way of life, all of the things that make you happy? Would you behave normal? Could you adjust in a month, or 3 months and be happy everyday? Her reaction seems pretty normal to me.

Pretty sure being rude to your fiance's family is not normal, regardless of how homesick/lonely/out of sorts you feel.

[gretchen_darren 67]

hard to know the answer... I just see advise her since she is much younger. bad attitude, all my fmaily has done for her. my family is not her family.... etc etc...

what I see are many, many problems.

1) she is being treated like a child, not like a wife

2) he has taken her to see things, and if she is like asawa ko, she would have been treated by many, many, many people as a child, not as an adult. He may not have done anything to change this or re-affirmed her status as an adult. this could have severe impact on her emotionally and mentally. She can't do anything about her physical appearance.

3) His family may be helping so much and doing so much she feels like a kid.

4) shopping. It is VERY VERY VERY important to take her to stores where there is Juniors clothing. (This means abandoning wal-mart and target) Stores like Kohls', JCP, Sears, Wave, XI, California Girlz, Going to malls is very helpful. You will be buying undergarments for her in the children's section many times. But that does not have to translate into clothes unless she sees something she really wants to buy. Steer her to the juniors sections in the stores....

5) explain to her that her family is your family and your family is her family.... if she does not understand english, she needs to ask what they mean or are saying. many of the saying we have in america will be new to her.... just beucase we understand them a lot, sometimes we forget how people from other countries don't understand.

[Hank_ 9,174]

For sure don't need to shop in the junior department for undergarments (love the wording... ) any good brands will have XS , 0-2 sizes. I know VS does.

[gretchen_darren 67]

For sure don't need to shop in the junior department for undergarments (love the wording... ) any good brands will have XS , 0-2 sizes. I know VS does.

problem with my girl is sometimes XS is still too big.... and most stores only sell size 32 in the girls section, hard to find in the right size even in VS... I tried.... she wears medium back home.... but that is size 12 in girls here. Fortunately, much in size 1-size 3 in juniors works. trying to go back every 6 months so we can buy jeans back there for her as well as other items... Even Hofmiester and A&F can be trying at times.... she is so small, sometimes the sales people just don't want to deal with her.... Right now it is hard because she is 7 months pregnant....everyone uses American standard to judge her. They see at most a 7th grader to a "freshman" high school girl.... so hard to find clothing for her at this stage.... I send more time correcting people on her age.......when she turns 21 in 20 months she will always have to carry id.

[Hank_ 9,174]

problem with my girl is sometimes XS is still too big.... and most stores only sell size 32 in the girls section, hard to find in the right size even in VS... I tried.... she wears medium back home.... but that is size 12 in girls here. Fortunately, much in size 1-size 3 in juniors works. trying to go back every 6 months so we can buy jeans back there for her as well as other items... Even Hofmiester and A&F can be trying at times.... she is so small, sometimes the sales people just don't want to deal with her.... Right now it is hard because she is 7 months pregnant....everyone uses American standard to judge her. They see at most a 7th grader to a "freshman" high school girl.... so hard to find clothing for her at this stage.... I send more time correcting people on her age.......when she turns 21 in 20 months she will always have to carry id.

There XS and there is XS, each brand tends to be different and now a days it seems some brands label small but make the stuff large so the ego of some women can be fed.

I find VS to be one of the better for having good sizing.

[I AM NOT THAT GUY 5,715]

problem with my girl is sometimes XS is still too big.... and most stores only sell size 32 in the girls section, hard to find in the right size even in VS... I tried.... she wears medium back home.... but that is size 12 in girls here. Fortunately, much in size 1-size 3 in juniors works. trying to go back every 6 months so we can buy jeans back there for her as well as other items... Even Hofmiester and A&F can be trying at times.... she is so small, sometimes the sales people just don't want to deal with her.... Right now it is hard because she is 7 months pregnant....everyone uses American standard to judge her. They see at most a 7th grader to a "freshman" high school girl.... so hard to find clothing for her at this stage.... I send more time correcting people on her age.......when she turns 21 in 20 months she will always have to carry id.

Buy a sewing machine, or have the clothes altered. Most of the time, it is just a matter of changing the hem or sleeve length, if you can find cloths that fit otherwise. Don't worry, she will fill out to an American size within six months after arriving in the US.