Need filipina Advice

[TiklingGuy 211]

Thanks John.

(I hadn't posted much lately but that was too ez to pass )

ya me neither. been busy at work. should be getting monreals green card this week. we go the message friday that USPS received it from USCIS.

that post was funny

[adiiann 163]

the issue that would trouble me the most is you say your family has been very accepting of her, but she has been ungrateful and rude to them. one concern someone might have when coming from overseas is how the will be accepted by their fiance's family. on my last trip to the Philippines, my mom sent a letter to my wife welcoming her into the family. I know that made the transition into life here easier on her. your family has been supportive of your fiance, but is rejecting it. hopefully you will be able to work things out, but this and the other issues need to be resolved for your relationship with her to continue.

Yep! USC's family plays an important role on how wife/fiance will comfortably adjust living here. Since, most of Filipino moving here, starts without any family or friends nearby.

My husband's family is so great. They are not perfect and they have their own flaws sometimes but they are perfect for me to be my own family. Love them dearly. These make my transition or adjusting my life here far easier.

Suggestion maybe, sit down and talk to her when you are both not in a bad mood. Sort out what went wrong and make sure that you both do compromise in most certain things.

Good Luck!

I wish I can just sleep, play and eat.

[Joan >3 Bob 20]

Follow the advice of most replies here and get that 1 way ticket back to her homeland as soon as possible. I know how you must feel inside but you will get over it sooner than you think and forget what money you have sepnt on this relationship up to this point, it is water over the dam. Hearing that she is rude and disrespectful to your family puts the "icing on the cake" and I would immediately get her a plane ticket back one way and cut all communications with her.

Learn from this and become much wiser for next time if there is a next time, which is entirely up to you. There are many good Philippine women and some bad ones, take the time to know a girl and watch for the red flags that you are now experiencing and similiar ones. Take the advice you already heard here and get a simple divorce quickly and send her back with a certified copy. I am sorry to hear you are having this experience.

[blitzedman 1]

I say read your question and pretend you didn't write it. Now what advice would you give that person..

Too many red flags. Your GF doesnt know the game yet so she was supposed to wait until she got her GC before forcing you to give her the boot.

She needs to go. She needs to go before you get her pregnant. She needs to go quickly.

How long did you live with her in the PI. If it was all about the internet maybe you are hard to live with. Maybe she doesnt even like you, but will marry you in order to support her family. Maybe she will marry you, but prefers to live in the PI and have babies from her boyfriend there while at the same time be married to you for support.

Like Elvis sang, "Return to Sender"

[StraightShooter 62]

The OP hasn't been active on this forum since he posted this thread. I wonder how it's going?

[wantmybaby 4]

Sorry about your troubles. You happened to describe my ex-wife PERFECTLY (she's a Filipina). For a moment, I thought you were talking about her and that you had married her after she left me. (Did you? She never tells me what she's up to anymore, nor do I ask or care.) She contributed nothing to the relationship, not even the simplest of chores. Did not return love. Did not interact with my family in a positive way. Just played on the Internet all day and spent huge amounts of my money on stuff she was instantly bored with the moment it was spent. And complained. Anyway, that's why she's "ex".

[rlogan 2,036]

I just don't understand...

So sorry Paul for the anguish. You're going to feel much better when you give her the boot.

She's been getting away with murder because you've been kissing her little fanny. Be kind, but send her highness back. Marrying a teen has certain benefits, but if they don't have good character this sudden acquisition of power turns them into a lazy, arrogant little monsters.

Don't let this one put on a spurt of sex and charm to get that ring on her finger. If she already did, so what. Divorce her. Of course she doesn't like your family. She has the same respect for them as she does for you.

"Beauty is as Beauty Does".

[Hank_ 9,174]

or as Forrest sez:

Stupid is as stupid does.....

like that one better.

Oh ya....

Run Forrrest RUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Dan and Judy 614]

Mines got a bad attitude also. On Valentines days I was trying to watch TV and enjoy my icecream.

She made me come outside and hold the ladder for her while she was cleaning out the rain gutters.

Then I think she was purposely letting little pieces of leaves fall down into my icecream.

[NoneYa 73]

Mines got a bad attitude also. On Valentines days I was trying to watch TV and enjoy my icecream.

She made me come outside and hold the ladder for her while she was cleaning out the rain gutters.

Then I think she was purposely letting little pieces of leaves fall down into my icecream.

This is a serious topic and you shouldn't be sarcastic because you are poor at it and some will not understand your humor.

[~happyndinlove~ 540]

lazy filipina...

It is self-righteous and arrogant to vilify someone before hearing their side of the story. Why would throw one of your own under the bus so quickly? Do you know her?

[~happyndinlove~ 540]

bcoz before she came here she should be sure what she really wants... america is in the other side of the world of PH... ticket is expensive... and she should visualize also what will gonna happen when she's here and did she ask herself what is her purpose of coming here?

What in the world are you talking about?

Should she visualize calling herself a cashier when she's really a HOSTESS? Should she take pictures of her airline napkin simply because it has the word AMERICA on it?

Visualization and reality doesn't always match. Especially for a pretentious, dellusional and grandiose person.

Edited March 16, 2012 by ~happyndinlove~

[Dan and Judy 614]

This is a serious topic and you shouldn't be sarcastic because you are poor at it and some will not understand your humor.

I fail to see how you could find any humor in soggy pieces of leaves in my icecream

[Kang 22]

I brought a girl here who I love very much and love her family on a k-1 Visa. But she seems to always have a negative attitude since she has gotten here. Everything is about her. All I here is me me me I I I. She seems to think the world revolves around her and that everyone else is her to serve her. My family has been very nice and loving and accepting to her, But in return she is very rude and ungrateful to everything. I have helped her family so much and done so much for her and now I am full of sadness and regret. Her family is so nice and very grateful, they advise her all the time to not be jealous and to be nice and try to listen to me and do what I advise her since she is much younger.

There are many good times but then more and more these times that just pop up with her having a bad attitude and is rude to my family. She says things like no one likes her she misses her family that my family is not her family that I don't love her and care about her. I just don't understand how she could ever say this or think it after all I have done for her and her family and my family has done for her. She just wants to get up eat, play on Facebook games talk to her friends take long naps eat again and sleep. Between going to Disney and all the other fun things we have done for her. She has bad attitude about cleaning or doing anything to help out. She does not want to better her English or study in college. Which was all agreed to before moving to the USA.

I just don't know what to do. I feel so heart broken. I don't know how I managed to fall in love with the only Filipina who refuses to do anything by herself and does not want to do anything to better her life or to even help be in a partnership in marriage. I just wish she could take her family's advice and things would be so much better. I had to take off time from work to go to manila to bring her home because she could not even do her medical and interview or anything on her own. Everyone has had to do everything for her. When I was in the Philippines I felt she loved me and I was so happy and did not mind doing so many extra things for her and her family. But now it has taken a toll and when she is rude to my family I just feel hurt and regret.

I am desperate for any advice if there is anything that can be done to fix this, at times she acts very happy and loving and just says everything is a big misunderstanding and I do not understand her. But she either does not understand how much she hurts be or does not care when she acts this way. At this point I am very close to giving up and sending her back to the Philippines.

DON'T TELL ME SOME FILIPINAS WHO TRIED TO HELP YOUR GIRL DID NOT WARN YOU.

All those lies she told them and you...but you should have listened.

[I AM NOT THAT GUY 5,715]

Is this another PaulnUsa troll thread?