Need filipina Advice

[PaulnUsa 19]

I brought a girl here who I love very much and love her family on a k-1 Visa. But she seems to always have a negative attitude since she has gotten here. Everything is about her. All I here is me me me I I I. She seems to think the world revolves around her and that everyone else is her to serve her. My family has been very nice and loving and accepting to her, But in return she is very rude and ungrateful to everything. I have helped her family so much and done so much for her and now I am full of sadness and regret. Her family is so nice and very grateful, they advise her all the time to not be jealous and to be nice and try to listen to me and do what I advise her since she is much younger.

There are many good times but then more and more these times that just pop up with her having a bad attitude and is rude to my family. She says things like no one likes her she misses her family that my family is not her family that I don't love her and care about her. I just don't understand how she could ever say this or think it after all I have done for her and her family and my family has done for her. She just wants to get up eat, play on Facebook games talk to her friends take long naps eat again and sleep. Between going to Disney and all the other fun things we have done for her. She has bad attitude about cleaning or doing anything to help out. She does not want to better her English or study in college. Which was all agreed to before moving to the USA.

I just don't know what to do. I feel so heart broken. I don't know how I managed to fall in love with the only Filipina who refuses to do anything by herself and does not want to do anything to better her life or to even help be in a partnership in marriage. I just wish she could take her family's advice and things would be so much better. I had to take off time from work to go to manila to bring her home because she could not even do her medical and interview or anything on her own. Everyone has had to do everything for her. When I was in the Philippines I felt she loved me and I was so happy and did not mind doing so many extra things for her and her family. But now it has taken a toll and when she is rude to my family I just feel hurt and regret.

I am desperate for any advice if there is anything that can be done to fix this, at times she acts very happy and loving and just says everything is a big misunderstanding and I do not understand her. But she either does not understand how much she hurts be or does not care when she acts this way. At this point I am very close to giving up and sending her back to the Philippines.

[Boiler 46,252]

I see an airline ticket in your future.

Single.

[Enigma11561 336]

No one here can comment on how you met, developed the relationship and how you decided to go forward with the visa process.People may comment on how the " much younger" aspect may play a role in this.But the bottom line is that she is being selfish and refusing to try and meet you halfway. If you cannot come to terms with her before the 90 day period expires, then you must go with your gut, no matter how much it may hurt,and terminate the process.To go forward with a marriage with these issues is not a good way to start a life together.

[charlie&pam 1]

talk to her maybe u can still fix that or if she's not listening still to u bring her back home,because your marriage would e full of regret....hopefully not if she change her attitude....sorry to hear that anyway.....GODBLESS

[Brian121957 43]

Sounds like you may need to do her one more big favor. Put aside your feelings and think only of her. Send her back home to the Philipines where she can be happy again.

[marklovetina 52]

I brought a girl here who I love very much and love her family on a k-1 Visa. But she seems to always have a negative attitude since she has gotten here. Everything is about her. All I here is me me me I I I. She seems to think the world revolves around her and that everyone else is her to serve her. My family has been very nice and loving and accepting to her, But in return she is very rude and ungrateful to everything. I have helped her family so much and done so much for her and now I am full of sadness and regret. Her family is so nice and very grateful, they advise her all the time to not be jealous and to be nice and try to listen to me and do what I advise her since she is much younger.

There are many good times but then more and more these times that just pop up with her having a bad attitude and is rude to my family. She says things like no one likes her she misses her family that my family is not her family that I don't love her and care about her. I just don't understand how she could ever say this or think it after all I have done for her and her family and my family has done for her. She just wants to get up eat, play on Facebook games talk to her friends take long naps eat again and sleep. Between going to Disney and all the other fun things we have done for her. She has bad attitude about cleaning or doing anything to help out. She does not want to better her English or study in college. Which was all agreed to before moving to the USA.

I just don't know what to do. I feel so heart broken. I don't know how I managed to fall in love with the only Filipina who refuses to do anything by herself and does not want to do anything to better her life or to even help be in a partnership in marriage. I just wish she could take her family's advice and things would be so much better. I had to take off time from work to go to manila to bring her home because she could not even do her medical and interview or anything on her own. Everyone has had to do everything for her. When I was in the Philippines I felt she loved me and I was so happy and did not mind doing so many extra things for her and her family. But now it has taken a toll and when she is rude to my family I just feel hurt and regret.

I am desperate for any advice if there is anything that can be done to fix this, at times she acts very happy and loving and just says everything is a big misunderstanding and I do not understand her. But she either does not understand how much she hurts be or does not care when she acts this way. At this point I am very close to giving up and sending her back to the Philippines.

lazy filipina...

[TimeTravel 78]

You can make a better judgement for your situation. May be, if you feel to consulate with any relationship counselor, then do it. Hope it may help you to make the decision for this situation.

[Brian121957 43]

Can you update your time line with entry date?

[charlize56 4]

no consience,she doesnt know how to appreciates what you did for her and her family.

[mayeeization 3]

red flags were already flashing before you married her... sorry to know... I just hope you can both fix this and hoping she will change... Yeah.. not a good way to start marriage. Try talk to her and remind her of her roles as a wife. I believe in the sanctity of marriage.. you chose her, now you're stuck. Keep working on it. :wub:God bless!

[pinaypo 4]

She desserves far better than staying in the states.Why don't you ship her lazy butt back in the Philippines?

[marklovetina 52]

Sounds like you may need to do her one more big favor. Put aside your feelings and think only of her. Send her back home to the Philipines where she can be happy again.

bcoz before she came here she should be sure what she really wants... america is in the other side of the world of PH... ticket is expensive... and she should visualize also what will gonna happen when she's here and did she ask herself what is her purpose of coming here?

[Tim/Mav 305]

I don't know. I would have the same fears but now your living it.

I would say: If you find yourself begging then end it now. It will get worse before it gets better.

Pinays have strong ties to their family but to disrespect your family is just not their way. You drew a short straw.

If it was me, I was just send her back. I know you don't want to, but I hope your heart does not overtake your brain.

None the less, do what you fell is best and live by your decisions.

[CristiFur 15]

Sorry to hear that! It's hard for them to adjust so maybe give a bit of time but again some girls are just spoiled with the attention they get back home so it may take sometime for her to realize she is no longer a "DIVA" here. Tell her to wake up and smell the coffee, there is no free ride in the US, and her maarte (don't know english translation..lol)but I think bit___ attitude will not get her anywhere.

Well anyways good luck and hope things will work out for the best.

[Joandjo 20]

I brought a girl here who I love very much and love her family on a k-1 Visa. But she seems to always have a negative attitude since she has gotten here. Everything is about her. All I here is me me me I I I. She seems to think the world revolves around her and that everyone else is her to serve her. My family has been very nice and loving and accepting to her, But in return she is very rude and ungrateful to everything. I have helped her family so much and done so much for her and now I am full of sadness and regret. Her family is so nice and very grateful, they advise her all the time to not be jealous and to be nice and try to listen to me and do what I advise her since she is much younger.

There are many good times but then more and more these times that just pop up with her having a bad attitude and is rude to my family. She says things like no one likes her she misses her family that my family is not her family that I don't love her and care about her. I just don't understand how she could ever say this or think it after all I have done for her and her family and my family has done for her. She just wants to get up eat, play on Facebook games talk to her friends take long naps eat again and sleep. Between going to Disney and all the other fun things we have done for her. She has bad attitude about cleaning or doing anything to help out. She does not want to better her English or study in college. Which was all agreed to before moving to the USA.

I just don't know what to do. I feel so heart broken. I don't know how I managed to fall in love with the only Filipina who refuses to do anything by herself and does not want to do anything to better her life or to even help be in a partnership in marriage. I just wish she could take her family's advice and things would be so much better. I had to take off time from work to go to manila to bring her home because she could not even do her medical and interview or anything on her own. Everyone has had to do everything for her. When I was in the Philippines I felt she loved me and I was so happy and did not mind doing so many extra things for her and her family. But now it has taken a toll and when she is rude to my family I just feel hurt and regret.

I am desperate for any advice if there is anything that can be done to fix this, at times she acts very happy and loving and just says everything is a big misunderstanding and I do not understand her. But she either does not understand how much she hurts be or does not care when she acts this way. At this point I am very close to giving up and sending her back to the Philippines.

No advice but maybe she's here on her family's advice if they're so happy and she's so sad? Just a thought.