Big age difference

[ChristinaandVarun 0]

I am also a lady who is 22 years older than my fiance, who is 40. We both have grown children. Childbearing in the future is not an issue. We were introduced by my friend's sister, not online.

We were asked about it(the age difference) at the interview, at least I was. They tag teamed us, separated us, then got us back together to check our answers. When this question came up, I laughed and said,' Yeah, but he is the OLD ONE!' The consular officer laughed and said, 'My wife is older than me, too, and she says I am the old one. I guess it all depends on the worldview and past experiences of the interviewer.

We are still in a holding pattern, so there is no resolution any time soon.

Thank you for sharing...

[ChristinaandVarun 0]

Yes, it's a red flag and more if the woman is older.

What makes you think your husband will obtain a K3 visa?

Excuse me? Are you being rude, sarcastic or am I not reading you post correctly?

What makes me think my husband will obtain a k3 visa??? We have a bona fide mariage and I have proof. I may be older than he with a big age difference but I won't let that interfere with my decision to be his wife and bring him to the US to be my lawful wedded husband. Thats what makes me "think" my husband will obtain a K3 visa.

[together4evr 360]

Christina, do not be offended. I think he means the K3 will probably be closed at the NVC level and your husband will probably get the CR1.

But I have seen the K3 go thru in rare cases

[pushbrk 12,883]

I don't think it's a big deal. They will probably ask you few questions about that and that's all. No worries

I'm going to answer two posts in a row the same way. When you don't know, it's best to read and learn instead of speculating or providing information you haven't verified as accurate. Your wrong.

I wasn't trying to lead anyone astray. That is what I was told, and I was passing on the info I had. Not everyone has all the info handy, and info is passed back and forth based on what you know. If I'm wrong, I'm more than willing to take back what I said.

By the way, thank you for correcting me. That said, you don't have to come on that strong!

I'm going to answer two posts in a row the same way. When you don't know, it's best to read and learn instead of speculating or providing information you haven't verified as accurate. Your wrong.

[pushbrk 12,883]

Excuse me? Are you being rude, sarcastic or am I not reading you post correctly?

What makes me think my husband will obtain a k3 visa??? We have a bona fide mariage and I have proof. I may be older than he with a big age difference but I won't let that interfere with my decision to be his wife and bring him to the US to be my lawful wedded husband. Thats what makes me "think" my husband will obtain a K3 visa.

The first sentence was simple straight talk. The second was intended to get your attention. CR1 is the visa your husband might actually be granted. K3 visas are rare as hen's teeth for more than two years.

Learn the CR1 process. Become a professor of it. Read all the threads about age difference, particularly the ones about the woman being significantly older, and even more particularly when that scenario is outside the cultural norm for the foreigner.

[TBoneTX 45,291]

OP, one of the smartest things that anyone on VJ could do is "listen to pushbrk."

[pushbrk 12,883]

You'll want to discuss the reverse age difference issue in the applicable regional forum too and get their perspective. Evacuate all thoughts of discrimination or unfair treatment. Relationships outside cultural norms are a big red flag, particularly from high fraud countries, (India, not Australia but regardless of current residence, he's Indian.) because such relationships are often entered into fraudulently (mostly by the foreigner) with the intention of scamming an immigration benefit. You need to KNOW this, so you can be PREPARED to DEAL with it in a way that will mitigate the impact of the red flag. You've got some months to prepare. Start now. Again, waste no time being offended. Start preparing.

[Musashii 21]

The first sentence was simple straight talk. The second was intended to get your attention. CR1 is the visa your husband might actually be granted. K3 visas are rare as hen's teeth for more than two years.

Learn the CR1 process. Become a professor of it. Read all the threads about age difference, particularly the ones about the woman being significantly older, and even more particularly when that scenario is outside the cultural norm for the foreigner.

If K3 visas are that rare, why do they still have them going on? Just wondering.

After reading on USCIS and DOS websites, I came to an understanding that the basic purpose of K3 visas was to reduce the separation time between a couple and a spouse could travel and enter the states on a K3 visa and then wait for the approval or apply for AOS. A common belief would be that I-130 is being processed in less time these days than in past but according to my personal experience (my wife called USCIS and was told that they are back logged and still doing petitions from August 2011 for I-130). So they are not doing it in the given 5 months time. People who applied in August are getting NOA2 in late February or early March.

So, why would they keep the K3 option open if they are just going to keep the I-129F petition on a hold till they can approve I-130 and the petitioner/beneficiary has to go for CR1? Why give someone a false hope that by applying for a K3, they could possibly reduce the separation time between a married couple?

Note: I do not mean or intend to contradict or offend anyone. I am just confused and wondering, looking for some answer for peace of my mind.

[TimeTravel 78]

If K3 visas are that rare, why do they still have them going on? Just wondering.

After reading on USCIS and DOS websites, I came to an understanding that the basic purpose of K3 visas was to reduce the separation time between a couple and a spouse could travel and enter the states on a K3 visa and then wait for the approval or apply for AOS. A common belief would be that I-130 is being processed in less time these days than in past but according to my personal experience (my wife called USCIS and was told that they are back logged and still doing petitions from August 2011 for I-130). So they are not doing it in the given 5 months time. People who applied in August are getting NOA2 in late February or early March.

So, why would they keep the K3 option open if they are just going to keep the I-129F petition on a hold till they can approve I-130 and the petitioner/beneficiary has to go for CR1? Why give someone a false hope that by applying for a K3, they could possibly reduce the separation time between a married couple?

Note: I do not mean or intend to contradict or offend anyone. I am just confused and wondering, looking for some answer for peace of my mind.

Agree with your point, but this is gov, they work in the way they like! Down the road, they may close the door for K-3.

[dwheels76 5,468]

If K3 visas are that rare, why do they still have them going on? Just wondering.

After reading on USCIS and DOS websites, I came to an understanding that the basic purpose of K3 visas was to reduce the separation time between a couple and a spouse could travel and enter the states on a K3 visa and then wait for the approval or apply for AOS. A common belief would be that I-130 is being processed in less time these days than in past but according to my personal experience (my wife called USCIS and was told that they are back logged and still doing petitions from August 2011 for I-130). So they are not doing it in the given 5 months time. People who applied in August are getting NOA2 in late February or early March.

So, why would they keep the K3 option open if they are just going to keep the I-129F petition on a hold till they can approve I-130 and the petitioner/beneficiary has to go for CR1? Why give someone a false hope that by applying for a K3, they could possibly reduce the separation time between a married couple?

Note: I do not mean or intend to contradict or offend anyone. I am just confused and wondering, looking for some answer for peace of my mind.

I think we all have to realize when all these different paths were created to get our love ones here we had a full running government. Enough people to do the job. The job market you know has been slammed and first to go will be government.

I think also they in theory probably thought K3 get people here faster but again you have to have people to process these applications. We think ours is the only one but you can see by just this website there are millions of us in the K1 and CR1/IR1 groups.

You know American government unlike many others is always evolving and we do live in a pretty great country that adheres to complaints. So do write your congress people, senators get heard. Enough noise will make someone look into things.

Why aren't we submitting our reviews of the embassies to our State reps, senators and governors? They need to know also. They don't have eyes and ears everywhere. We are the voice they need to hear.. I say let them hear from us whether good, bad or ugly. A review of every embassy just like we post here should go to your state office. That same person you emailed to help when things got logged jammed.

[pushbrk 12,883]

K3 visas came out of the life act, in 2001, back when the CR1 and IR1 processes were taking 4 to 5 years. The K3 reunited couples within less than a year and continued to do so until late 2006. By then the CR1 and IR1 processes on the USCIS side were joined, so the petitions were approved the same day. This obviated the time savings for the K3 or reduced it to a matter of weeks faster than an efficiently managed CR1 or IR1 process. February 1, 2010, NVC changed their procedure in a way that made the K3 virtually obsolete.

Questions like "why do they still....?" falsely presume there is a single "they". There is not. There's USCIS and State Dept. two agencies that have been fueding as long as they've both been involved in the immigration process. USCIS still touts the K3 visa. Dept. of State's NVC, effectively executes it, dead on arrival.

[Musashii 21]

K3 visas came out of the life act, in 2001, back when the CR1 and IR1 processes were taking 4 to 5 years. The K3 reunited couples within less than a year and continued to do so until late 2006. By then the CR1 and IR1 processes on the USCIS side were joined, so the petitions were approved the same day. This obviated the time savings for the K3 or reduced it to a matter of weeks faster than an efficiently managed CR1 or IR1 process. February 1, 2010, NVC changed their procedure in a way that made the K3 virtually obsolete.

Questions like "why do they still....?" falsely presume there is a single "they". There is not. There's USCIS and State Dept. two agencies that have been fueding as long as they've both been involved in the immigration process. USCIS still touts the K3 visa. Dept. of State's NVC, effectively executes it, dead on arrival.

Thank you.

[ChristinaandVarun 0]

I think we all have to realize when all these different paths were created to get our love ones here we had a full running government. Enough people to do the job. The job market you know has been slammed and first to go will be government.

I think also they in theory probably thought K3 get people here faster but again you have to have people to process these applications. We think ours is the only one but you can see by just this website there are millions of us in the K1 and CR1/IR1 groups.

You know American government unlike many others is always evolving and we do live in a pretty great country that adheres to complaints. So do write your congress people, senators get heard. Enough noise will make someone look into things.

Why aren't we submitting our reviews of the embassies to our State reps, senators and governors? They need to know also. They don't have eyes and ears everywhere. We are the voice they need to hear.. I say let them hear from us whether good, bad or ugly. A review of every embassy just like we post here should go to your state office. That same person you emailed to help when things got logged jammed.

Submitting reviews of the embassies is a great idea!

[Iyawo_Omo_Yoruba 31]

Submitting reviews of the embassies is a great idea!

I agree Christina! I think we should do this as well!!! Thanks for the suggestion dwheels76!!!

[dwheels76 5,468]

Submitting reviews of the embassies is a great idea!

Well I see it this way especially reading over and over these reviews where we read "They didn't ask for any evidence and didn't ask any questions or very little questions". So that means a decision was already made before the Beneficiary came to the interview. So how do you combat that.

I State folk need to know what whats happening at all these embassies. It's really not about whats not working its implementing whats already there. Everyone deserves the right to a fair and impartial interview.

It would be soon cool I mean looking just at these boards I am estimating about 3 to 7 people from various embassies with USC's from various states each and every day. We keep them coming start a grass roots. The State Reps will be like "what in the world is happening here". And who knows