Husband denied, pending USCIS decision

[Boiler 44,857]

Certainly was not my personal experience and everybody else seems to be posting second-hand information.

[dwheels76 5,466]

I am 12 years older than my fiance. That scares me. I am still able fertile, but who knows for how much longer. Im stuck in name checks. My noa2 is July 12, 2011

Personally I don't think its as much you are older and you don't know how much longer you will be fertile. It's more "do you want to have children with your husband"? I have had friends who the woman were older said no, I have mine etc. Or I am cool not having kids.

I am 21 years older than my husband and still so much desire children and want them and can not wait. But we have to convey that to the CO's they will probably think "oh yeah sure you do". Here I am a grandma. A woman same age as my husbands mother. And trust me its not ALL about how you look. I look younger sure, but its my thinking. And yes I want to be a momma to my husbands babies he wants 3. And I welcome this new chapter in my life. So every piece of evidence I have conveys the joy and youthfulness of the visual picture I want them to see.

Now I am just at the beginning and will report as it happens.And what works for one may not work for another. I do know that nothing. NOTHING can take the place of visits and time together. I thank God we got 6 months together. Even though we married my first visit. I visited after 21 months dating online. Than after I arrived it was 6 weeks of dating and courtship. Than we married and it was another 4 months I lived as husband and wife. Thats what they want to see. Mine was not planned and happened by accident but I thank God for it.

[idocare 3]

I agree that it would be a good thing for u to go into your husbands Country and stay there for a while maybe 2- years, since love is love sometimes you have too give up some things in the name of love. You have to understand that the

Country that your husband lives in , and the big fraud schemes that come from that Country, ( Please do your research ) you will find that many women that have posted on this board many years before you have been manipulated into marriage, we call it a marriage fraud. Me being one of those that was a unknown particapant in marriage fraud would give you this advice.

Go live with your husband in his Courtry, for a couple of years, and let him take care of you until you find work there. Get to know his family, friends and culture. Then if all is still well think about giving him a free visa into America.

[VanessaTony 3,567]

Personally I don't think its as much you are older and you don't know how much longer you will be fertile. It's more "do you want to have children with your husband"? I have had friends who the woman were older said no, I have mine etc. Or I am cool not having kids.

I am 21 years older than my husband and still so much desire children and want them and can not wait. But we have to convey that to the CO's they will probably think "oh yeah sure you do". Here I am a grandma. A woman same age as my husbands mother. And trust me its not ALL about how you look. I look younger sure, but its my thinking. And yes I want to be a momma to my husbands babies he wants 3. And I welcome this new chapter in my life. So every piece of evidence I have conveys the joy and youthfulness of the visual picture I want them to see.

Now I am just at the beginning and will report as it happens.And what works for one may not work for another. I do know that nothing. NOTHING can take the place of visits and time together. I thank God we got 6 months together. Even though we married my first visit. I visited after 21 months dating online. Than after I arrived it was 6 weeks of dating and courtship. Than we married and it was another 4 months I lived as husband and wife. Thats what they want to see. Mine was not planned and happened by accident but I thank God for it.

Unfortunately it's not about "do you WANT to have children" it's CAN you. It's common in their culture to want to procreate and marrying older women doesn't accomplish that, and marrying a woman with kids is also not a cultural norm. It is unlikely that they would date someone of their culture who is older so that makes it more likely that you are being used for immigration (in their eyes). It's a HUGE uphill battle to prove that he didn't just pick a "desperate old American woman who would help him immigrate"

Good luck to you all.

[Iyawo_Omo_Yoruba 31]

I agree that it would be a good thing for u to go into your husbands Country and stay there for a while maybe 2- years, since love is love sometimes you have too give up some things in the name of love. You have to understand that the

Country that your husband lives in , and the big fraud schemes that come from that Country, ( Please do your research ) you will find that many women that have posted on this board many years before you have been manipulated into marriage, we call it a marriage fraud. Me being one of those that was a unknown particapant in marriage fraud would give you this advice.

Go live with your husband in his Courtry, for a couple of years, and let him take care of you until you find work there. Get to know his family, friends and culture. Then if all is still well think about giving him a free visa into America.

I understand why you posted this, but love is a gamble we ALL take, whether we enter into a relationship where we live or abroad. It is NEVER guaranteed. I cannot go live with him, I would never leave my small child to do such a thing. I am sorry things didn't work out for you, but like I said, love is a gamble.

[KingsWife 4]

No,I am going through almost the same thing and I have been to Nigeria 6 times and went to both of his interviews with him..I am 6 years older than my husband and the age thing was brought up also..

Still waiting..

[KingsWife 4]

Oh,and I am still very much able to bear children and we are STILL in AP..after having TONS of evidence in every aspect that was requested and then some..With Lagos,its all about luck!!

[MnnnB 4]

Our age difference is greater than yours. Are you white ? Are you able to bear children ?

If I may ask... does it matters if the petitioner is black or white?

[Iyawo_Omo_Yoruba 31]

If I may ask... does it matters if the petitioner is black or white?

I can not say 100% either way, yet in my husbands culture there are some things that may impact the CO's decision. But in this day and age, why does it matter what age difference, race, religion, former marital statuses, and/or previous children any one of us carries? Love has no boundaries. That is how I believe, I wish everyone was on board with that......

[Iyawo_Omo_Yoruba 31]

No,I am going through almost the same thing and I have been to Nigeria 6 times and went to both of his interviews with him..I am 6 years older than my husband and the age thing was brought up also..

Still waiting..

This is crazy! I think it all depends on WHO does the interviewing! Seriously, I know my husband loves me, but I also understand my husband perfectly well and know who he is. He isn't one to openly share personal things with a stranger, preferring to keep private matters like feelings and such between he and I.

Good luck and best wishes to you!

[patient2010 93]

TracyJO and Kingswife I pray things turn around for u guys soon.....

[Iyawo_Omo_Yoruba 31]

TracyJO and Kingswife I pray things turn around for u guys soon.....

Thanks patient2010!

[OlasKween 3]

I just went thru a similar circumstance. We had an immigration lawyer do ours so we could be sure it was all done right. My fiance is 8 years younger than me, and our interview lasted about 5 minutes also. The interviewer didnt look at one piece of evidence my fiance took with him. Same reason given. We have tried everything to get our case re-evaluated. We have a lawyer from California, we had a senator, and a congressman intervene on our behalf. We had tons of evidence of the entirety of our relationship.(2 years). But in the end, before they could re-evaluate our case, the USCIS still denied us, because our petition had "expired" and suggested that we "start over". I dont understsand how refiling can help anyones case. If they suppose you are scamming the system now, wont you STILL be scamming the system next year? not to mention all the money we will spend and time wasted apart. Everyone I talked to in the immigration offices, or USCIS, gave us a different answer to any questions we asked. This system is in serious need of reform. I can understand having laws, but I dont think one interviewer should determine the outcome of a visa request.

[OlasKween 3]

Oh,and I am still very much able to bear children and we are STILL in AP..after having TONS of evidence in every aspect that was requested and then some..With Lagos,its all about luck!!

[Nigerian Queen 16]

I was.denied for the same reason. You gotta go a few times. The embassy is nothing to mess with. I believe if I would've join this website before I submitted my petition I would've got through. I visited once before I applied and they want you at least visit once after the petition. So my thoughts to you is to try your best to get over there twice while your case is being reviewed. Its going yo be a bit before you hear something, but in the mean time work on getting more evidence even if you gotta borrow the money.