HELP PLEASE!!!

[together4evr 360]

Did the consulate see emails or chat between her and her ex? I find it hard to believe they would say she is using you to be with her ex unless they had the proof in their hands.

Do you have all her email passwords and chat passwords?

Why is there no pics of you both on her facebook?

I think your money would be beter off spent hiring a private detetive and snooping for awhile and find out if the consulate is correct. Or ask your lawyer is he can write the consulate and ask for proof that her intentions are to immigrate to be with her ex.

I hope they are just wrong and evil and I hope you have a beautiful life with your wife.

[Franki&Santri 0]

U have to carefull with domincans. They are very envious people. I have hear stories of people calling upnthe embassy and reporting fraud on couples. Thats why i kept my process as private as possible. People only found out when i had visa in hand.

yup, I have def heard that before...

[Franki&Santri 0]

Pretty much you have to convince the consulate that she is coming for you and not her ex with 3 of her kids!

It's going to be very hard since DR is high fraud and you are in a wheelchair. You can move there and/or have kids. What is her ex's timeline on how he + 3 kids got to the U.S. in relation to their divorce? Does her ex and kids live in your state?

The consulate thinks you are being scammed. I would just move there and put in a few years before trying again!

Yes, her ex does live in the same state as I. But their kids live (and always have lived) in DR with my wife. Her ex got his papers through his parents, and since he was convicted of a crime, he can't petition for his kids. they were divorced way before he commited the crime.

[Franki&Santri 0]

Did the consulate see emails or chat between her and her ex? I find it hard to believe they would say she is using you to be with her ex unless they had the proof in their hands.

Do you have all her email passwords and chat passwords?

Why is there no pics of you both on her facebook?

I think your money would be beter off spent hiring a private detetive and snooping for awhile and find out if the consulate is correct. Or ask your lawyer is he can write the consulate and ask for proof that her intentions are to immigrate to be with her ex.

I hope they are just wrong and evil and I hope you have a beautiful life with your wife.

They never mentioned any type of exchange between the too. The guy interviewing me just flat out told me in my face "Did you know your wife has no pics of you guys together on her facebook? She is just using you to get to the US and be with the father of her children..." I felt like punching that dude in the face (with all do respect)

I just want to get some sound advice about what I mentioned earlier, does the US Embassy in DR allow laywers to go in representation of their clients for the interview (provided I am disabled) with the beneficiary? His asking price is "6,000 US dollars" That does not include the reappealing fees and etc... Or is this guy just trying to continue taking my money? What can I do?

[LaVegano 12]

The basics are that since she was married before to her ex-husband (of which she had 3 kids with)they think that all "they" are trying to do, is get together (since he can't petition for her) because of past crimes and the fact the he is only a GC holder, not a USC. They believe it is a fraudulent marriage.

What past crimes would deny him from petitioning for?

[Franki&Santri 0]

What past crimes would deny him from petitioning for?

dealing with norcatics/drugs etc, i'm not sure...

[aaydrian 479]

They never mentioned any type of exchange between the too. The guy interviewing me just flat out told me in my face "Did you know your wife has no pics of you guys together on her facebook? She is just using you to get to the US and be with the father of her children..." I felt like punching that dude in the face (with all do respect)

I just want to get some sound advice about what I mentioned earlier, does the US Embassy in DR allow laywers to go in representation of their clients for the interview (provided I am disabled) with the beneficiary? His asking price is "6,000 US dollars" That does not include the reappealing fees and etc... Or is this guy just trying to continue taking my money? What can I do?

Maybe you really should 'check her out' for your peace of mind and to tell the CO that you did as recommended but everything is still peachy. As for Facebook, I would suggest that you guys are mindful that pics uploaded, status' statements and profile info is fitting to that of a typical mother and wife (who is wants to reunite with her husband). Even though you say DR isn't user friendly for you, it may be best for you to stay there for a good amount of time, that way you are establishing a good marriage and relationship with your wife, step kids and her immediate family and in the long run your extended visits have shown your attempt to live in DR but your disability is making it very difficult.

Never heard of attorneys being allowed in but what you can do is consult another lawyer and inquire as to the how a lawyer (being present, speaking to necessary officials or submitting a drawn up document specific to your case) will tip the balance in your favour at your next interview.

The basics are that since she was married before to her ex-husband (of which she had 3 kids with)they think that all "they" are trying to do, is get together (since he can't petition for her) because of past crimes and the fact the he is only a GC holder, not a USC. They believe it is a fraudulent marriage.

It may be best if not yet done, your wife cease all communication with her ex husband in regards to herself. But if he's involved in his kids life then have a trusted friend collect any monies, cards and gifts sent by him or he can equally have a likely friend send those items in their name. If you the current husband & the ex live in the same state, it may be inevitable that you move to another state.

[Ippsy Pippsy 31]

Yep, spend your money on a detective, not a lawyer.

Why doesn't she have any photos of you on her facebook? Are you on facebook?

[rolemodel29 17]

Ok so I read all what everyone had to say and as and outsider looking in at this situation i found a few things that cause me to raise my brows. First you said the Co thinks that she is using you to get to her ex etc. I would like to know the age diff between you both and do you intend to have any kids together. I also notice you mention that you were disabled. Is she disabled also or is she in good health where her ability to carry out everyday task come in. I believe you need to take some time off and lay back for a while and really investigate this situation. Maybe the CO saw something that you cannot see. With respect to pictures on face book I wont worry over that too much. Face book is a place where anything is possible I take it with a grain of salt. Does she carry a pic of you in her wallett, in her house on display things like that? How often have you both been with each other in the years of your marriage? Is it few and far apart? Has she ever been to the US and if so on what type of visa?

[Tayla 0]

Can you get her phone records or something showing she has no contact with the ex? Not sure if that will help, but maybe it's worth a shot?

[LaVegano 12]

Can you get her phone records or something showing she has no contact with the ex? Not sure if that will help, but maybe it's worth a shot?

This is a good idea!! Ask to go and get them with her. If she declines and puts up a fight about it well...........there is your answer.

[Franki&Santri 0]

Ok so I read all what everyone had to say and as and outsider looking in at this situation i found a few things that cause me to raise my brows. First you said the Co thinks that she is using you to get to her ex etc. I would like to know the age diff between you both and do you intend to have any kids together. I also notice you mention that you were disabled. Is she disabled also or is she in good health where her ability to carry out everyday task come in. I believe you need to take some time off and lay back for a while and really investigate this situation. Maybe the CO saw something that you cannot see. With respect to pictures on face book I wont worry over that too much. Face book is a place where anything is possible I take it with a grain of salt. Does she carry a pic of you in her wallett, in her house on display things like that? How often have you both been with each other in the years of your marriage? Is it few and far apart? Has she ever been to the US and if so on what type of visa?

1. About a 10 yr age differance.

2. Kids? most likely not. I have an adult daughter from a previous marraige, and she has 3 from her previous (currently 2 because of a tragic incident with her eldest son)

3. She is not disabled. She is healthy.

4. She has never been in the US.

5. We communicate roughly through the phone since there is a bit of language barrier.

6. I have gone to DR to be with her about 4-5 times. I wish I could go more but it is extremely difficult for them to carry me from my chair on to a seat in the plane. Some Airlines wont even deal with it. And I do work full time.

I hear what you guys are saying, I should invest some money in investigating I guess I'm just curious though, would they even let my lawyer in the US Embassy in the Dominican Republic? To me it just sounds off! I wouldn't be suprised if he is just trying to fill his pockets... I wish I was younger and had the energy, but I just feel out of options. (51 here, and she is about to be 40)

Edited March 13, 2012 by Franki&Santri

[Franki&Santri 0]

This is a good idea!! Ask to go and get them with her. If she declines and puts up a fight about it well...........there is your answer.

One should always be cautious, but if anything, her ex would be the last guy she would be with. The guy hates her guts, he blames her for the loss of their eldest son. And maybe even for that reason he might have called the Embassy and tipped them off about something, as someone ealier in the post mentioned people calling in because of envy/etc...

[Franki&Santri 0]

Yep, spend your money on a detective, not a lawyer.

Why doesn't she have any photos of you on her facebook? Are you on facebook?

I was going to try it out (FB), but I just don't have time for that, (and i'm an IT Specialist! working with the gov.)

As to why she didn't, I have no general idea, and we had a fight about it, because of the fact that it was mentioned in the interview, she should have been wiser. I don't get woman sometimes...