The Big Talk

[ahlam ladida 0]

Remember, little one, that the mind can be clouded by storms from the past. Keep your heart and your eyes open. I pray that God brings you clear vision and honest answers. I am so sorry for your emotional suffering. Henia, I hope you find answers that will give you peace. Stay strong and know that many are holding you in their prayers.

Patti

[amal 4]

as I say to my co-workers at work when they get all stressified and stuff....

"breathe in the nose and out the mouth....find that chi" "just sit and breathe for a minute"

Sometimes its so hard to decide something coz we're too gung ho for an answer...

sit quietly and breathe..... (also, don't forget that we luv ya girl!)

amal

[Meriem_DZ 37]

Henia,

There is one more thing I think I need to add. I discussed this with Abdel last night and he told me to consider another angle on things. What if this woman is just jealous of you and trying to get him back? I saw Abdel's sister get angry over something I saw as quite insignificant and I know I don't want to cross her. Maybe this woman is like that. Maybe she is just trying to do anything she can to break you two up.

I'm sure you are watching everything closely to see what is truly going on and will do whatever is best for yourself.

Good luck through this difficult time.

Liz

You know, Liz could be right. The women may be jealous that someone from another country is taking one of "their" men and she may be trying to cause trouble between you two. It's just a thought, but it could happen.

Meriem

[lovers 0]

Henia,Allah with you always

[Ban Hammer 13,283]

I'd probebly be throwing plates across the room while doing that whole chicken head bobbing action while yelling.

head bobbing chicken?

Henia,

There is one more thing I think I need to add. I discussed this with Abdel last night and he told me to consider another angle on things. What if this woman is just jealous of you and trying to get him back? I saw Abdel's sister get angry over something I saw as quite insignificant and I know I don't want to cross her. Maybe this woman is like that. Maybe she is just trying to do anything she can to break you two up.

I'm sure you are watching everything closely to see what is truly going on and will do whatever is best for yourself.

Good luck through this difficult time.

Liz

You know, Liz could be right. The women may be jealous that someone from another country is taking one of "their" men and she may be trying to cause trouble between you two. It's just a thought, but it could happen.

Meriem

this is my take on it too.

[PalestineMyHeart 1,897]

Ohhhhh Sister Henia.... I am so very sad to hear your heart is hurting like this You are such a sweet, gracious, intelligent, talented & classy lady -- the most wonderful wife with such a heart of gold. You really don't deserve this kind of stress and distress. Insha'allah your husband knows this and will take the necessary steps to protect his wife and his marriage from this kind of hurt and harm. Trust is the single most imporant part of a marriage, and insha'allah he will realize that he must rebuild that trust so that you may feel secure and safe.

There is much advice and insight here. Some are reading between the lines for possible clues. Some are stepping away from some of the emotion of the moment to be more pragmatic. Both approaches are important. But please remember: we all love you and we want only the best for you. As has been said, you are a very smart cookie. We are so far outside the situation -- we can't know everything you know, but can only speak from our own personal experience and intuition.

But I have confidence in you -- *you* know your husband best. You will get to the bottom of whatever it is, and make the wise decision for yourself, your daughter, your marriage, and your future. You have already taken the proper first steps to address your concerns in a very mature and sensible fashion.

You are in my thoughts and prayers, dear sister. God is with you. He will help you find your way through.

-MK

[khaleem43 0]

HOLY SHITE!!!

The man wouldn't have been able to explain himself...I would've kicked him the family jewels immediately upon returning home. Of course I would've regretted it later after getting that kind of explanation. I have a jump the gun kinda temper. I'd probably also call the doctor to check up on the story.

wow, You sure are nervious, you should never react , without knowing the wole story first. her husband is a cabnet maker, and i do believe things happen , accidents -realy happen . my thoughts to you , is to chill out .

[ya falaha! 0]

LOL...yes sir/ma'am