March (2012) filers...

[Milan&Pam 4]

This is rudiculous! What else they need? Isn't that enough? And who would use a phone and pay a colossal bill when there is Skyp and Face Time and God knows what else. I feel so sorry for you but at the same time I am so mad at this whole process. As you said, "How can a person just sit in an office and with the swipe of a pen, determine your entire life"!

Soo can you provide them with additional evidence and they're gonna consider it again? My thoughts are with you.

I totally agree with you on this! Even my attorney is shocked, but like he said "every embassy is different". The notice they gave him stated that he was denied but requested him to schedule another interview and bring more evidence. So it wasn't a TOTAL denial. He can't reschedule until tomorrow and who knows how long it will be before we get another. Hopefully it will be very soon.

My poor fiancee was so upset this morning he was talking in circles and it was hard to get details out of him but I just spoke with him again a few minutes ago. He said he could see the look on her face as he was walking up there. She already assumed he was there for marriage fraud. He was in a big waiting room with at least 40 other people trying to get various VISA's. The interview is done, right there, at a glass window. He said he was extremely uncomfortable having to tell his personal life, in detail, in front of a huge room of people. I can only imagine how awful this was...yelling through plate glass about how we met in Afghanistan, fell in love, etc. He said he answered all the questions that were asked as he assumed that this was a business office and that is what they wanted. He was the only person there that spoke in English but his English is sometimes limited. I don't think this helped at all because I don't think he understood the need for him to elaborate. Maybe next interview, he should consider asking for an interpreter for backup.

Of course, right now he is very upset because we have waited so long and had high hopes this was over. He is packed and moved out of his apartment and staying with family. We had NO REASON to believe that this would not turn out well. Guess I got fooled. He is also offended that the US automatically thinks he is a criminal. And before we got off Skype, he asked me if I thought he was just marrying me for a VISA. He sounded so sad when he said it. This poor man! It's just been a crappy day all around. I tried to explain to him that no one thinks he is a criminal, but because of the thousands of others before him that WERE criminals, he is having to pay.

Actually, every single one of us on this forum are having to pay. Right now, my heart breaks for all of us.

Anyway, we are preparing every SINGLE document: Skype, emails, more pictures, Facebook posts and what ever else I can come up with. I am also going to get letters from his family stating that we have a legitimate relationship. They should know....I just spent 4 months with them. My attorney is also going to speak with my fiancee before his next interview and prepare him to give more detail and say what he needs to say. Hopefully this is just a standard "we deny the first time" thing and there is really nothing wrong. I mean seriously....what more in the world could we possibly give? (Jokingly he said "our porns". HAHA!)

So it is what it is. We will just push along and take it one day at a time. Thank you all for your support. I hope and pray that all of you have a much easier time than we do. It was rolling fine up until this point...then BAM!

BACK TO GO...DO NOT COLLECT YOUR VISA!

Edited November 15, 2012 by Milan&Pam

[TigerFlower 61]

My heart breaks for you. D*mn good that you are not giving up!! Soo sorry you are going through this.

[Jacque67 7,328]

How awful! Do you think it might be easier to marry in Macedonia, and bring him over on the CR-1? This fiance visa seems such a hassle...

[TigerFlower 61]

Try one more interview at least!

[Milan&Pam 4]

Try one more interview at least!

Oh we will! After that, I see no choice but to get married and file for the CR-1. AND WAIT ANOTHER YEAR!

[TigerFlower 61]

Don't say that! You will get it this year!

[Sooooon 11]

Oh we will! After that, I see no choice but to get married and file for the CR-1. AND WAIT ANOTHER YEAR!

Oh gosh, yes indeed, if this fails just get married! Although i did hear that second time filing of k1 is vary rarely rejected. Wishing you guys the best.

[islandgal 74]

Your second interview will go well. He'll be with you soon. Be strong and gather all the evidence you can find. Now I'm wondering if I should get statements from friends and family in preparation for my fiancé's interview.

[TigerFlower 61]

See the reviews on your consolate to help determine that.

[SweetDelish 38]

That is truly heart wrenching and my worst nightmare at the moment. However, trying to see the positive in this, you were not denied, and requested to reschedule for a second interview. So, it seems as though they have not made up their minds, they just have some doubts. It sucks beyond measure having to justify your relationship to these people. With all the evidence you are gathering, you are fulfilling their requests and they can hardly deny you again. I wish you the best. Just a thought, and I am sure this is a long stretch as its costly, and none of us need to spend extra money at this stage, but any chance you could go over there, to the next interview? Just might be worth it.

[Galla 1]

It has been a while since I have checked whats going on with Marchies. Im so sad to read so many bumps on the road. i thought we will all be having a party on this thread by now! I sent the packet back to the embassy today. they will get it tomorrow. With a little bit of luck, the interview could be next week. Hope it goes well.

The past ten days have been a mess and endless lines to get all the papers I needed. My medical was really fast and Croatian embassy seems really easy going when it comes to paperwork, calling them for info and asking them for earlier as possible interview. So, praying that everything will go smooth.

[TigerFlower 61]

Can't say how many times I've listened to this... Really sounds like how our hearts feel during this process... Not necessarily lyrics

[Andie 147]

The interview is done, right there, at a glass window. He said he was extremely uncomfortable having to tell his personal life, in detail, in front of a huge room of people. I can only imagine how awful this was...yelling through plate glass about how we met in Afghanistan, fell in love, etc. He said he answered all the questions that were asked as he assumed that this was a business office and that is what they wanted. He was the only person there that spoke in English but his English is sometimes limited. I don't think this helped at all because I don't think he understood the need for him to elaborate. Maybe next interview, he should consider asking for an interpreter for backup.

I tried to explain to him that no one thinks he is a criminal, but because of the thousands of others before him that WERE criminals, he is having to pay.

Actually, every single one of us on this forum are having to pay. Right now, my heart breaks for all of us.

Anyway, we are preparing every SINGLE document: Skype, emails, more pictures, Facebook posts and what ever else I can come up with. I am also going to get letters from his family stating that we have a legitimate relationship. They should know....I just spent 4 months with them. My attorney is also going to speak with my fiancee before his next interview and prepare him to give more detail and say what he needs to say. Hopefully this is just a standard "we deny the first time"

So it is what it is. We will just push along and take it one day at a time. Thank you all for your support.

I was so very sorry to read this.

I think one of the most difficult things is having to talk to them in such a sterile environment at the embassy about something that is so personal and special to you, and you are right, it is those that have gone before us that have done wrong and made us look guilty till proven innocent. Some embassies are worse than others but it can also just come down to the person doing the interview on the day.

It sounds as though you have a good plan ... provide every other little piece of information no matter how small, and letters from family and friends that are close to you that can verify your relationship.

Build your case and present it to them. It is amazing the determination you find within yourself when you need it.

(and if there is any chance you can be at the next interview .... that is another option)

Edited November 15, 2012 by Andie

[Milan&Pam 4]

(and if there is any chance you can be at the next interview .... that is another option)

Thank you all so much. It has truly been a rough day. I spent no less than 8 hours on the computer, the phone and Skype...or blowing my nose from all the crying. In addition to every single Skype conversation and 470 emails, I am gather affidavits from his family, my co-workers, our friends...everyone that knows us and has witness us together. There is no way they can say no now!

As for going for his second interview...that actually isn't a bad idea. However, I overstayed my 90 days and when I left two weeks ago, they told me not to come back for six months! Which means, we couldn't get married there until April. NOT GOING TO THINK ABOUT THIS!! EVERYTHING IS GOING TO GO WELL THE NEXT INTERVIEW!!

Ok, gang...no more crying on here. Next post will be a happy one...I hope. All of you are wonderful!

[TigerFlower 61]

Good work!!! No way they can refuse. You WILL be approved!!!