How long before you got your new house?

[yassmine2878 1]

I wasnt sure where to post this, but this forum seemed like a good place to start. For those of you who did not live on your own before you got married (i.e. lived with friends or relatives prior to getting hitched), when did you move in to a new place? Did you wait for the visa to be approved before buying/renting a new place for you and your soon-to-be spouse? Did you go ahead and get new digs before the interview? My fiance is concerned about being asked where we will live once he arrives in the U.S. I currently live with my aunt and uncle, but I will be getting an apartment for Ahmed and I to live in on our own before he arrives. I am wary to go ahead and sign a year lease and then find out there were problems at the interview (Casablanca is notorious for handing out a 221g). I really dont want to put myself in a postition where I might have to break the lease and move to Morocco instead. I think it would be wise to wait and see how his interview goes before getting a new home for us. Ahmed and both agree to tell the consulate he will live with me at my current address would be contradictory, but telling them we are waiting for the visa before buying a house also sounds pretty wishy-washy. Has anyone else had this issue? Suggestions?

[chri'stina 190]

I still lived with my parents when Sujeet had his interview. I had wanted to get our own place ahead of time that Sujeet could live in before we married, and then I could move in after marriage. But financially it didn't work out that way.

He wasn't asked where he will live when he arrives to the US, but if he had been, he would have said my parents house. My parents wrote a letter saying the same, that he took to the interview incase he needed it. You have to fill out the address where you will be living on a form, but he wasn't asked about it at the interview.

We didn't move out until about 7 months after being married. We had a big space(used to be a 3 car garage turned into a room), with a separate bathroom, so it was bearable and private. But it was nice to be out on our own. We rented for a year and then bought our 1st house last March.

I personally don't think it's a problem if he says he will live with your aunt and uncle when first arriving, and then also provide a letter confirming it. Some couples, like Sujeet and I, would not live together alone before marriage, so they have to expect sometimes when the fiance goes over to the US, they will live in a different place before getting married and their own place together.

Good luck in whatever you decide.

Edited October 5, 2006 by stina&suj

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

Ahmed and both agree to tell the consulate he will live with me at my current address would be contradictory...

Contradictory? How so? Correct me if I'm wrong but at the moment that is your only address, isn't it?

[Saddle Bronc 124]

Still haven't; I've lived in apartments (rented) since 1994 (my new residence in Jessup is also an apartment).

[rebeccajo 14]

What's wrong with telling the interviewer what your honest plans are?

Personally I'd wait till he got here to pick out an apartment. It's more fun to do that.

[yassmine2878 1]

Ahmed and both agree to tell the consulate he will live with me at my current address would be contradictory...

Contradictory? How so? Correct me if I'm wrong but at the moment that is your only address, isn't it?

Yes, its my only address. Its the address we have used on all our forms because I have no idea where our new home will be yet. We just felt like it would duplicitous to say he is going to live at this address, when we know thats not true.

What's wrong with telling the interviewer what your honest plans are?

Personally I'd wait till he got here to pick out an apartment. It's more fun to do that.

I also thought laying all our cards on the table was also the best avenue, but I can understand his hesitation. It _does_ sound a little fishy to say "We're not getting our new house until you fork over the visa", or something along those lines. I guess we're just trying to find the right way to explain it without sounding like we have no means for the future.

Id like to wait for him to be here and choose the home together, but unfortunately we don't have much choice. I can't have him live with me (married or otherwise) while Im living with my relatives.

[Saddle Bronc 124]

...I also thought laying all our cards on the table was also the best avenue, but I can understand his hesitation. It _does_ sound a little fishy to say "We're not getting our new house until you fork over the visa", or something along those lines. I guess we're just trying to find the right way to explain it without sounding like we have no means for the future.

Id like to wait for him to be here and choose the home together, but unfortunately we don't have much choice. I can't have him live with me (married or otherwise) while Im living with my relatives.

Do you have a pastor/priest or imam/maulvi who would be willing to have him as guest until the wedding?

Pras stayed with Bro. Joe (head of LEF, and our spiritual father) in MI (a good 12-hour drive from MD) from 2006/4/4 to 2006/4/14.

Point here: he does not HAVE to arrive to the same town or state.

[yassmine2878 1]

...I also thought laying all our cards on the table was also the best avenue, but I can understand his hesitation. It _does_ sound a little fishy to say "We're not getting our new house until you fork over the visa", or something along those lines. I guess we're just trying to find the right way to explain it without sounding like we have no means for the future.

Id like to wait for him to be here and choose the home together, but unfortunately we don't have much choice. I can't have him live with me (married or otherwise) while Im living with my relatives.

Do you have a pastor/priest or imam/maulvi who would be willing to have him as guest until the wedding?

Pras stayed with Bro. Joe (head of LEF, and our spiritual father) in MI (a good 12-hour drive from MD) from 2006/4/4 to 2006/4/14.

Point here: he does not HAVE to arrive to the same town or state.

An interesting idea, I hadnt thought of that. Thanks for the tip!