He's Gone ;(

[easyriders2011 14]

Thank so much for that info. I wasn't sure what to do. I want to burn his GC and SScard. I purchased a mailbox with a lock on it today so he cant take the mail out while I'm gone to work.

Those can still be broken into, perhaps a temporary mail box at 'mailboxes etc.' or something secure. you can always change it back after a few months. It's up to you, but its a suggestion.

[mari&Ryan 93]

I'm very sorry it's happening to you. I agree with some one that said earlier that he showed a truly sinister side of him or sort of. My question for you is does he know about VJ and that you are a member? because you know it would be so easy for him to read all you're saying, venting, wishing, planing. I mean, it's not good to give more ammunition to the "enemy."

Take care and stay strong.

[Scafidi454 22]

Those can still be broken into, perhaps a temporary mail box at 'mailboxes etc.' or something secure. you can always change it back after a few months. It's up to you, but its a suggestion.

How do you have the GC already if it's only been about a week after the wedding?

Also, you should just get a PO BOX

Edited February 26, 2012 by Scafidi454

[sachinky 464]

Karma is a b!tch. He will get what's coming to him.

Stay strong and move on with your life.

Good luck! It's hard but you can get through this.

[Peter_Pan 661]

Maybe this will happen to me to. We can only wait and see.

I am the foreign part and I react in the exact same way. I think it is just beign nervous, plus, sometimes we feel you might not want us there since you keep on saying it is ok if we decide not to come.

[Samantha78 117]

Well don't answer them. Just tell them to mind their own business.

People on VJ are in international relationships so they might be a little more open-minded, not all of us though

You might want to go to your doctor on Monday and talk about a temporary medication to get you to sleep at least a little bit. Not sleeping is bad for your health, both physical and mental, and you need your strength right now. The most recent sleep inducers are not addictive so it could be something to consider for a few days.

That's exactly what I'm going to do. I had spoken to my doctor about this transition a month ago and she was concerned that it may not work ( she's unfamiliar with how many people petition) so I know she'll gladly give me something. I'm getting about 3 solid hours and I feel exhausted.

[mad1nola 4]

What a flocking clock soaker! (I can't actually swear on this site, so...)

I saw your photos together, and let me tell you, you look way better than he does. You can do a lot better!

Everybody else has already said what I could possible say, but just to reassure you, I have been dumped twice and it really is hard. Especially the second time, when it became clear that I was used for financial purposes. It just takes time to get past it. But please do your best to get this guy deported. I know how your feel about the humiliation as I have been hesitant to tell everyone about my fiancee, worrying that if it doesn't work out, I will get so many of the "I told you sos" and "how could you be so stupid", etc,etc. If it were with another American, I would get sympathy, but for some reason, since I fell in love with an overseas girl, then it becomes foolish and erratic. But love is love, and when you love you take a risk. So I think you are brave for taking that chance, just like the rest of us on here. So never feel bad about sharing your love with someone. He's the [refer to my first sentence] for trashing your sweet gift!

BRAVO!

[Scafidi454 22]

I am the foreign part and I react in the exact same way. I think it is just beign nervous, plus, sometimes we feel you might not want us there since you keep on saying it is ok if we decide not to come.

I usually say it to try to relieve pressure and to empower her to make her own decisions. Her last boyfriend was really controlling and didn't really like for her to make decisions on her own.

[suganspyce42 5]

Honey, I don't know you personally but my heart mourns with yours. I know that you are distraught right now. How can a person be so misleading and so cruel to tamper with another persons heart and emotions. Believe this honey, what goes around, comes back around. I believe in karma and I believe in God and one day this will slap him in his face and he will forever regret his actions. I know this has to be difficult but time heals all wounds. Keep your head up and your mind focused as best as you can, although your heart is troubled now, you will someday be at peace with the fact that he's gone. A wolf in sheep's clothing is the last thing you need in your life. You deserve true love as well as anyone else.

[Peter_Pan 661]

I usually say it to try to relieve pressure and to empower her to make her own decisions. Her last boyfriend was really controlling and didn't really like for her to make decisions on her own.

I am aware of that, BUT ... have to see it from the other side too. Taking such an important and life-altering decision takes time and a bit of insanity, and the fiancee will always have doubts. And hearing the person you are willing to make the changes for having what seems to be second thoughts isn't much fun or encouraging. As far as we are concerned, we have already taken the plunge, you can’t be pulling the safety net from under us.

Edited February 26, 2012 by Peter_Pan

[Scafidi454 22]

I am aware of that, BUT ... have to see it from the other side too. Taking such an important and life-altering decision takes time and a bit of insanity, and the fiancee will always have doubts. And hearing the person you are willing to make the changes for having what seems to be second thoughts isn't much fun or encouraging. As far as we are concerned, we have already taken the plunge, you can’t be pulling the safety net from under us.

Not having second thoughts - Just thinking of the other person

[APRP 0]

Report him!!!

Edited February 26, 2012 by APRP

[Samantha78 117]

What a flocking clock soaker! (I can't actually swear on this site, so...)

I saw your photos together, and let me tell you, you look way better than he does. You can do a lot better!

Everybody else has already said what I could possible say, but just to reassure you, I have been dumped twice and it really is hard. Especially the second time, when it became clear that I was used for financial purposes. It just takes time to get past it. But please do your best to get this guy deported. I know how your feel about the humiliation as I have been hesitant to tell everyone about my fiancee, worrying that if it doesn't work out, I will get so many of the "I told you sos" and "how could you be so stupid", etc,etc. If it were with another American, I would get sympathy, but for some reason, since I fell in love with an overseas girl, then it becomes foolish and erratic. But love is love, and when you love you take a risk. So I think you are brave for taking that chance, just like the rest of us on here. So never feel bad about sharing your love with someone. He's the [refer to my first sentence] for trashing your sweet gift!

Love the intro! Amen to that!

And thanks ..... and what you said is right. Unless people are going through this process they don't understand how you can love someone overseas. It's a shame that people are so close minded. I once said I'd never do this, for the exact same reason that's happening to me. But I did it...and I love him....we had beautiful beautiful moments - as far as I'm concerned, and I will chalk this up to just another box I can check off in the book of life.

[Alex&Joan 0]

Oh Sam, the whole situation it's sad and hurtful that he could do this to you after everything you did for him, and it's not even

Cause what you did but he wasn't a good person anyway so only God knows that it's better this way...Remember that you entered the relationship in good faith and that you did everything you could to make it work even tho he was in it to take advantage of you but Karma is a ###### and he has no idea what's coming to him..I would suggest to lawyer up and show him that even tho he took you for a fool you are much more smarter and stronger that he'll ever be and walk 3 steps before him!

You know I'm always here for you, I'll support and if I can help you with anything I'm here girl..Te quiero mucho and this bad moment in your life will pass, and you will have the last laugh.

[Samantha78 117]

Oh Sam, the whole situation it's sad and hurtful that he could do this to you after everything you did for him, and it's not even

Cause what you did but he wasn't a good person anyway so only God knows that it's better this way...Remember that you entered the relationship in good faith and that you did everything you could to make it work even tho he was in it to take advantage of you but Karma is a ###### and he has no idea what's coming to him..I would suggest to lawyer up and show him that even tho he took you for a fool you are much more smarter and stronger that he'll ever be and walk 3 steps before him!

You know I'm always here for you, I'll support and if I can help you with anything I'm here girl..Te quiero mucho and this bad moment in your life will pass, and you will have the last laugh.

Thank you Alex. Its crazy because he's doing what everyone says he'll do.....he's called all day from different numbers but I didnt answer. He does from being a jerk to trying to weasle his way back into my life. Except this time was the last. I was stupid and I let this go on too far but it wont go any further than this. I love him so much and I'll miss the thought of who I thought he was but I have no place for him in my life anymore. I can't feel hurt like this ..... I tried. I told you I'd try and it failed.