He's Gone ;(

[Alex&Joan 0]

Thank you Alex. Its crazy because he's doing what everyone says he'll do.....he's called all day from different numbers but I didnt answer. He does from being a jerk to trying to weasle his way back into my life. Except this time was the last. I was stupid and I let this go on too far but it wont go any further than this. I love him so much and I'll miss the thought of who I thought he was but I have no place for him in my life anymore. I can't feel hurt like this ..... I tried. I told you I'd try and it failed.

Now you gotta try to yank him out of your life and heart, it won't be easy but at the end it'll be the best for you and your kids, you cannot be in a relationship where the other person does not love you, I know it hurts but I don't think he ever loved you the way you wanted him to..Concentrate on your next moves,mourn him cause that's normal but don't give in, you know how to be strong...Don't make take the bus out there! Lol

[Tim/Mav 305]

Love the intro! Amen to that!

And thanks ..... and what you said is right. Unless people are going through this process they don't understand how you can love someone overseas. It's a shame that people are so close minded. I once said I'd never do this, for the exact same reason that's happening to me. But I did it...and I love him....we had beautiful beautiful moments - as far as I'm concerned, and I will chalk this up to just another box I can check off in the book of life.

You have alot of good advice here young lady but your check-off box and Journey are incomplete at this time. You are still married.

Even after all these posts you still write: I Love Him. That is OK... But, I Caution you: I think he will return. Thats what men do and women 75% of the time after a argument or even separation or divorce.

He will find that playing the field with women who are not so docile as you were is hard to do. Women don't think that way. They don't want to be controlled. It would appear to any future girlfriend/and her family what he did.

I think he will return. Then, you have to do what you feel is right for you.

We can tell you its a mistake but were just typing to you. He Will Return.

When this happens: Think with your brain and not your memories and heart. The memories are trashed and the heart broken.

Move on

[Samantha78 117]

You have alot of good advice here young lady but your check-off box and Journey are incomplete at this time. You are still married.

Even after all these posts you still write: I Love Him. That is OK... But, I Caution you: I think he will return. Thats what men do and women 75% of the time after a argument or even separation or divorce.

He will find that playing the field with women who are not so docile as you were is hard to do. Women don't think that way. They don't want to be controlled. It would appear to any future girlfriend/and her family what he did.

I think he will return. Then, you have to do what you feel is right for you.

We can tell you its a mistake but were just typing to you. He Will Return.

When this happens: Think with your brain and not your memories and heart. The memories are trashed and the heart broken.

Move on

I also think he will return, whether it is in person or through some type of contact. And I do love him but after he used me and my kids....there's no way to forgive or forget that. My daughter, at 17, cried yesterday when the cops came. She was so angry and hurt because he had spent the week of vacation with them, runnign errands and befriending them. We are all disappointed. But, just for the fact he hurt my kids I will do this. I may not have had the strength if it were just me involved, I will admit that, but to the 2 people I love the most in life, my kids....no way.

[Tim/Mav 305]

I also think he will return, whether it is in person or through some type of contact. And I do love him but after he used me and my kids....there's no way to forgive or forget that. My daughter, at 17, cried yesterday when the cops came. She was so angry and hurt because he had spent the week of vacation with them, runnign errands and befriending them. We are all disappointed. But, just for the fact he hurt my kids I will do this. I may not have had the strength if it were just me involved, I will admit that, but to the 2 people I love the most in life, my kids....no way.

I left out one important vehicle I'm sure your aware of in my post. When I said : They will return most of the time. It does'nt mean the intention is the same. WINK

Your first post shocked me alittle about being a unattractive Gringa. LOL I think, and other Members as well. Your very pretty. All of Us......

Edited February 26, 2012 by Tim/Mav

[Dana-Mića 51]

I read your posts and all I can say is keep your head up and stay strong. I hope everything works out for the best for you.

[jaycali 415]

Thank you Alex. Its crazy because he's doing what everyone says he'll do.....he's called all day from different numbers but I didnt answer. He does from being a jerk to trying to weasle his way back into my life. Except this time was the last. I was stupid and I let this go on too far but it wont go any further than this. I love him so much and I'll miss the thought of who I thought he was but I have no place for him in my life anymore. I can't feel hurt like this ..... I tried. I told you I'd try and it failed.

Yep, good. Don't take his calls. Anything email or text message, save, and try to get him or his family to admit in writing.

You weren't stupid, nor were you blind. You did everything in your power to make the relationship work! To you, it was real, and that's what matters. I've seen your posts here in the forums before, and you were just as genuinely in love as the rest of us here. Con men take advantage of what people value the most, love and trust. If you can't love or trust people, I might call you stupid or blind, but you can, and you did.

Btw, I'm looking at your picture.. HOW do you have two teenagers??

Edited February 26, 2012 by jhsm85

[Samantha78 117]

Yep, good. Don't take his calls. Anything email or text message, save, and try to get him or his family to admit in writing.

You weren't stupid, nor were you blind. You did everything in your power to make the relationship work! To you, it was real, and that's what matters. I've seen your posts here in the forums before, and you were just as genuinely in love as the rest of us here. Con men take advantage of what people value the most, love and trust. If you can't love or trust people, I might call you stupid or blind, but you can, and you did.

Btw, I'm looking at your picture.. HOW do you have two teenagers??

Yep, good. Don't take his calls. Anything email or text message, save, and try to get him or his family to admit in writing.

You weren't stupid, nor were you blind. You did everything in your power to make the relationship work! To you, it was real, and that's what matters. I've seen your posts here in the forums before, and you were just as genuinely in love as the rest of us here. Con men take advantage of what people value the most, love and trust. If you can't love or trust people, I might call you stupid or blind, but you can, and you did.

Btw, I'm looking at your picture.. HOW do you have two teenagers??

I had my kids very young. I've been on my own since 17 and had them both by then. Now I'm blessed with the amazing success of both of my kids in school....they have really beat the odds and not allowed our struggles to turn them into statistics. Other than this problem right now, we are truly blessed. I guessed we are even more blessed that he's gone.

[R and F 34]

Wishing you the best and know you will come out of this stronger and more amazing then ever. We are all here for you now.

[Orando 57]

I am sadden to hear this. We reap what we sow in this life and the next, so keep sowing good seeds and be blessed. You must be destroyed right now with such a betrayal.

[Andrea&Henry 311]

I can NOT believe what I see...I read your old post I and Im sorry to say it but I saw it coming. Im so so sorry girl, only who goes through this exhausting journey, knows how hard it is. I'm Venezuelan girl and makes me feel sad and mad as a latin american, that there're people out there using USC to get their greencards. Now I understand why some CO are so hard in this whole process, for selfish people like him. (Behind a greencard there's a human being :s)

I know that you must be heartbreak, but think that thanks GOD, you found out on time. At least you both have no kids etc etc. I rather to live in painful truth that living in a beautiful lie. Keep reporting him so he cannot use people anymore. I hope he gets a ban to enter EEUU for the rest of his life.

God tryed to protect by showing you the truth, I'm so sure that there's someone out there who really deserve you. I'll keep praying for you. Cheer up girl!!!!!

I don't know what religious you are, but I want to share something with you. I few years ago someone brokes my heart too, and this letter touch my soul.

"No man will never claim you unless he claims you from Me. For I reserved a man for you who has My heart and love Me even more than he will ask you for. For, I won't give you unless he asks you from Me. He's sleep, don't wake him up, he is busy for Me, for My kingdom. Soon you will know him, but I have the perfect time. You're My princess, my Precious daugther. Let No prince claim you, unless he asks you from My hand. For I'm you father, the King of Kings. You, My princess, are worth loving for"

God bless u girl!

Andrea&Henry

[bigdog 376]

Get a good divorce attorney, sorry to hear this.

[paz 11]

I am sorry that this happened to you. My advice is... let go. And despite the fact that you love him you should report him. It is not ethic what he did... using you and he must be deported. Love sometimes hurts. It may sound revengeful, but you have to do what you have to do.

Hope you feel better soon.

[evoria 19]

I don't have too much evidence but according to the ICE officer, what I have is good. When they offered money I just responded that they were crazy. That this wasn't about money it was love and a future together. And then right at the end of the conversation with ICE, she says, oh yea, don't be surprised if you're offered money. Then I explained that I was and she documented that. I feel so foolish ;(

Do not feel foolish. You went in with good intentions and you loved him. If he did not return the love then he is the fool. Tennyson wrote: "Tis better to have loved and lost / Than never to have loved at all." I know it sounds like ####### now but one day you will see him as someone you used to know. You have many people here praying for you including me. Be blessed.

[In<3 11]

Well just adding My 2 cents now. 1 u know I have always kept it real with u since day 1 my thoughts to you then its the some one today stay away from that @sshole. 2 we all have gut feelings which 99.9 of the times come out to be the truth I suggest u start listening to them..3 I refuse to hear that u would even consider working things out with him cuz as a single mother that I was ill tell u this much he disrespected the most important in your life your KIDS if he didn't respect them 5 days into this country he will never respect. 4 I refuse to ever hear again that its NORMAL or the NORM 2 be mistreated, no one should ever get mistreated nd for the ppl that say its his culture that is BS!! Like I told u today u r strong nd you will make it through this that u need to believe.

[jaycali 415]

I had my kids very young. I've been on my own since 17 and had them both by then. Now I'm blessed with the amazing success of both of my kids in school....they have really beat the odds and not allowed our struggles to turn them into statistics. Other than this problem right now, we are truly blessed. I guessed we are even more blessed that he's gone.

I'm just saying, I would have never guessed you were old enough to have a 17 year old!

For his friend to call you an ugly gringa sounds childish and makes me think this wasn't very thought through from his/their part.

I'm curious, did you meet his family in DR before this all happened? If so, how did they treat you?

I'm the foreigner btw, and my wife is the USC, what especially irks me about these situations is that it puts all of us in a bad light. My wife even asked me before we got married «we're doing this for real reasons right?» At that time I was speechless, but now I understand why the question came up.. Thankfully, it has never been a topic since.