Interview in 2 weeks stressed

[blackflash 7]

Ok just letting off some steam and also making sure im good to go. first off Iam a usc who married an Itaian citizen we had a baby and got married in italy and are at the last stage in 22 months. I know we moved pretty fast but we love each other soo much. Her family was hoping that we would stay here in taly for ever becasue they take care of her really well and she doesnt have to work. but im form miami and thats where we met. I worked for a living to take care of myself and her and once we came here i felt like her parents were taking care of us. It made us feel less like a couple and more like children. anyway families in Italy are very close and her even being 31 still is hard for them to let her go. but nonethe less we want to raise our child in america and live a semi normal life where we have to work for what we have. they are worried that its "not economical" to move the the u.s. becasue we would have to pay rent and other bills we dont have now but i mean everybody has to pay rent and bills i use to till i moved here and i feel more weak and feel im losing my drive to be sucessful in the process. any way if anybody reads this thank you for your time. i think i post my question on another topic but we are excited about are interview and got everything in order. after that its back to the States on march 28th!!!

[amyandjorge 76]

Good Luck at your interview and beyond!! I think my mother-in-law cried for a week after my husband left Honduras (he's 28). Not pretty. And in his case, he is WAY better off in the US.

Just make sure there is easy access to phones, skype, etc, right away.

[ndu26 114]

you have the right mindset...you will do good. A lot of challenges sure but take it one day at a time. All the best to you both

[GirlWithAGerman 0]

I can relate to you very much. Although I don't have a baby, we moved very fast, too. I got married and began to live in Germany. My husband's family also always makes me feel bad about bringing him to the US. And living here has been such a weakening experience. I also have barely any drive left because I was also self sufficient in the US. But I have no purpose here, and everyone is taking care of me. I have no job, all the bills, contracts & bank accounts are in his name, and I have nothing to take care of except the dog/cleaning/cooking. It's a tough situation.

All I can say is hang tough. Look forward to the future because it isn't too far away for you now. My husband's family is also very close, and because of that, you have to let them deal with the fact that their child is leaving and starting a new life without them. It took me a year to figure that out. And they may never forgive you for that, too. But you have to do what is best for you, your wife and your new little baby.

I wish you good luck!

[blackflash 7]

I can relate to you very much. Although I don't have a baby, we moved very fast, too. I got married and began to live in Germany. My husband's family also always makes me feel bad about bringing him to the US. And living here has been such a weakening experience. I also have barely any drive left because I was also self sufficient in the US. But I have no purpose here, and everyone is taking care of me. I have no job, all the bills, contracts & bank accounts are in his name, and I have nothing to take care of except the dog/cleaning/cooking. It's a tough situation.

All I can say is hang tough. Look forward to the future because it isn't too far away for you now. My husband's family is also very close, and because of that, you have to let them deal with the fact that their child is leaving and starting a new life without them. It took me a year to figure that out. And they may never forgive you for that, too. But you have to do what is best for you, your wife and your new little baby.

I wish you good luck!

WOW thanks im glad im not the only one we had a talk with them to let them know everything and her mother was crying the whole time i was so nervouse and uncomfortable and they were asking where ar eyou going to live who will watch the baby and things of that nature and it almost made be start to worry. but then i rember how easy it is to get a job and all the contacts that i know. and i can imagine my wife being able to get a job and actually doing something she likes and her being able to practice her english with new people and the sun and the sand and the ocean that we see so little of here in Italy.. i know its going to push me to prove to them that i can take care of my family and there daughter thanks for all your good energy and hope you get back to the states soon as well to renergize !!

oh BTW DCF is the way to go germany and italy is not to diffrent so if I cand let you know something about my expirence i will! its been pretty quick and painless process so go for it!

Edited February 24, 2012 by blackflash

[GirlWithAGerman 0]

WOW thanks im glad im not the only one we had a talk with them to let them know everything and her mother was crying the whole time i was so nervouse and uncomfortable and they were asking where ar eyou going to live who will watch the baby and things of that nature and it almost made be start to worry. but then i rember how easy it is to get a job and all the contacts that i know. and i can imagine my wife being able to get a job and actually doing something she likes and her being able to practice her english with new people and the sun and the sand and the ocean that we see so little of here in Italy.. i know its going to push me to prove to them that i can take care of my family and there daughter thanks for all your good energy and hope you get back to the states soon as well to renergize !!

oh BTW DCF is the way to go germany and italy is not to diffrent so if I cand let you know something about my expirence i will! its been pretty quick and painless process so go for it!

Oh yes. We actually told his father last night, and he didn't really say too much. I think he was being polite because I was there and might speak with my husband privately at a later time. We were also supposed to tell his grandmother, who is the one we are both worried to tell. He just couldn't do it last night. She was so happy to see him and he just didn't want to make her feel bad. I don't know when he will tell her, but I'm very anxious for that experience because he wants me to be there, too. She will surely cry and question everything, too.

It sounds like you handled it pretty well. And your outlook is also positive, so that's good.

Thanks for the offer. The only thing I'm worried about is that we applied for K1 Visa last year when I was in the states for him to come over. Then we ended up getting married here and staying. We were denied because we didn't respond to any more inquiries from USCIS. I'm afraid that might negatively influence how they see us, like I was trying to go around their process, when really, we were just doing what was best for us at the time...

Edited February 26, 2012 by GirlWithAGerman

[blackflash 7]

Oh yes. We actually told his father last night, and he didn't really say too much. I think he was being polite because I was there and might speak with my husband privately at a later time. We were also supposed to tell his grandmother, who is the one we are both worried to tell. He just couldn't do it last night. She was so happy to see him and he just didn't want to make her feel bad. I don't know when he will tell her, but I'm very anxious for that experience because he wants me to be there, too. She will surely cry and question everything, too.

It sounds like you handled it pretty well. And your outlook is also positive, so that's good.

Thanks for the offer. The only thing I'm worried about is that we applied for K1 Visa last year when I was in the states for him to come over. Then we ended up getting married here and staying. We were denied because we didn't respond to any more inquiries from USCIS. I'm afraid that might negatively influence how they see us, like I was trying to go around their process, when really, we were just doing what was best for us at the time...

No worries DCF is the way to go. when they see a U.S citizen who will go to the benificary's country to be with him and go through the steps to become a resident in that country it shows alot of truthfulness to the relationship and makes it easier to be appproved. and it gives you time to build relationship evidence. i came to italy in april last year got married on november 26th sent the paper work out and when all is said and done i could have had the interview 2 days ago but we needed more time to get the I-864 from my mom so its a pretty quick process. i dont know how diffrent it is to get residency in germany but thats going to be the only hard part after that, as long as you have spent most of your life in the u.s before going to germany i have have hopes for you guys! good luck!

Edited February 27, 2012 by blackflash