the real work begins once your love is here

[ChristinaandVarun 0]

I havn't been on this website in so long. When I can remember going on this site mutiple times a day for a year while going through the k-1 process. I'm very thankful my husband Nattoy made it to this country and has been a better man for me than I could have ever imagined. He got a great job and mine is ok for now. We started out living with friends and now have our own apartment and continue to build our lives together. Things are not always easy as I had to be patient with him as he relied on me to show him the ropes. Sometimes I would get upset that he didn't know something. LOL Which is why I learned to be patient and understanding to someone in America for the first time. He is very smart and has come a long way. We even argued quit a bit after about 8 months of him being here, married life is a whole different ball game, but learning and growing in our relationship has brought us to a point where we treat each other respectfully for the most part. We have both givin each other many lessons and a richer life. I feel the love he has for me and am very greatful. Without this website I wouldn't have beable to do it. We will be married a year April 30th. I feel I've found a diamond in the rough:) Maybe some kids in a few years :)

For anyone affraid in the process,if your willing to do the work, and your motives are good and right, God will take care of the rest.

[ChristinaandVarun 0]

Thank you for your encouraging post. At this time we're still waiting for NOA2, 5+ months. My husband is growing very impatient with the waiting. Sometimes, I worry he's giving up which lays heavy on my heart but I also worry much about him comng to America. I will be working full-time, while he's adjusting to his new life in a place he's never been too, a place unlike any he's ever known. I've always been a strong person, but this process has shown me even strong people are weak at times. Keeping the faith.

[Princessblack 21]

Nice to hear, come back and tell us where you'll are at 3 years from now. Marriage requires real work, most people aren't prepare or ready to work at it. Dating/talking on the phone long distance isn't marriage, visiting him/her in their home country isn't marriage. Living and sharing space, common goals and responsibilities are issues that bonds a marriage.

True true words. The real rubber hits the ground when you have to deal with and ADJUST to the practicalities of the marriage when living together.

One thing to always remember is take time out for yourself through it all and know its a BIG adjustment for you also.