how do I get my to be 24 year old daugter to the usa

[keysjangle 145]

Your interpretation of that post was about as appropriate as it would be for me to suggest that a canadian would marry a USC just for the opportunity of living in Hawaii.

Multiple people made the suggestion, not just you. The way you explained it made it sound almost like a good idea, unlike the others. Relax.

I still think it's a dishonest way to get to the U.S., but it doesn't stop very many people. If it's what they choose to do, then at least it's legal (unless you know, the IO figures out the marriage was arranged so that the daughter could go to the U.S. to be with mom, and the USC was just a tool.)

Edited February 19, 2012 by Gervl

[rjousuf 0]

Just a thought but since she is 24, maybe you can find her a nice boy here who would be willing to tie the knot to her. If all goes well, she could be here as soon as year or so..

other then this, see no other scenerio for quick migration. good luck..

[Channah&Aaron 51]

"find yourself an American guy and file for I-129f" .... Holy cr*p!

1. So she'll force herself to find an American man (they are different than from her own culture, not necessarily in a bad way) and try to fall in love with this guy...

2. Because main reason is: going to the US because family is here, daughter has nobody over there, mom in US

3. LOVE isn't main reason, family is

4. If I were the man she is USING, I would feel... used!

5. All of the above- even when finding an American guy, intention is moving, for family, not for love!!!!

Personally, I think that's wrong! Try other options (school/work) first, instead of throwing yourself into American arms...

Edited February 19, 2012 by Channah&Aaron

[himher 634]

Good grief. This site is full of couples whose SO's "had noboby in the US" and "different from their own culture" and whos relationships probably could be viewed from outside as "throwing yourself into an american's arms". Maybe the same could have been said of us (but not after (5) years and (1) lively 2-yr-old)

You actually and seriously believe that VJ members, who are aware of the possible pitfalls and problems and issues associated with this entire process, would dare suggest something other than fixing up a real relationship? ####### else would a mom of a single / eligible 24 yr old daughter be doing anyway and in whatever country she lives in? LOL

[Love's JAA 100]

Gee, how could anybody come up with the unrealistic notion that a 22 year old filipina and an American guy might find mutual attraction and decide to marry. Huh! That's never happened before...

Oh come on, for chrissake, unless she's gay or just plain has no interest in a foreigner,or just isn't ready yet, who's to say she couldn't find romance with an American. Of course you can't force her to, but otherwise if she is interested in meeting one, then why the heck not? Just make sure as best as possible that she's sincerely looking to meet a guy she wants to marry and that the guy has honorable intentions as well.

I think it's funny that people here are getting uppity about this when so many of us took the leap of faith with our foreign fiance(e)'s and spouses. I don't think that those here are suggesting marriage fraud or using anyone. I think it's more like, hey, you probably want to meet a guy eventually, so why not give an American a chance?

Even if you meet the guy or girl nextdoor here, you think there isn't use going on? Do you think your loving spouse would have married you if you were a janitor rather than a lawyer, doctor, accountant, manager, etc, etc? (not meant to knock janitors, we need you all).

[pushbrk 13,027]

Before this thread gets locked for all the nonsense going on, I'm just going to say, "Immigration options" to the USA are limited. My wife's profile was placed on the internet dating website where I found it, (same one I found local women I dated over a couple years) because she was interested in finding an American husband. She found one. We've been married over six years. Her sister later had a similar interest. She and her American husband have been married a little over three years. Neither of these sisters "had nobody in China". They have a good family in China and were sought after as mates but NOT by the kind of people they were interested in spending their lives with.

I haven't read all the responses here but I expect I was the or one of THE first to mention the possibility of obtaining resident status through marriage to a US Citizen. Lots of our spouses did that and lots of fiancees of members are in the process of doing that, legitimately. That's what we discuss here, legitimate immigration to the USA through genuine relationships. Suggestions to the contrary are, well, contrary and in my mind, not particularly "welcome" here.

[Bob_Larisa 0]

Thanks Brian

I was already thinking that far ahead because of the complex process. I knew that was maybe the best decision.

Your best course of action is to consult with an immigration attorney. You need accurate information for a complicated situation. Soliciting legal advice from wannabee "expert" attorney's (including myself) who are not licensed nor accountable could just send you down the wrong road. Best of Luck

[Boiler 45,832]

Actually by the sound of it a local marriage would suffice, then there would be no issue in leaving her behind.

[Brad and Vika 129]

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