Things you had to buy and/or throw away?

[The Nature Boy 4,224]

Hiring a housekeeper would have been cheaper.

So what is wrong with her being a full time house wife if I have a good enough job, so that I can support both of us. Do you really think it would be fair to me , if I leave the house at 6:00 AM, get home at 6 or 7:00 PM, then we both split the house chores evenly. If she was working then by all means.

I love my wife dearly and you insinuating I marred a house keeper is just as ignorant a comment as some of the comments I have heard from some other close minded individuals when they found out I was marrying a Pinay.

[sunandmoon 450]

So what is wrong with her being a full time house wife if I have a good enough job, so that I can support both of us. Do you really think it would be fair to me , if I leave the house at 6:00 AM, get home at 6 or 7:00 PM, then we both split the house chores evenly. If she was working then by all means.

I love my wife dearly and you insinuating I marred a house keeper is just as ignorant a comment as some of the comments I have heard from some other close minded individuals when they found out I was marrying a Pinay.

nothing wrong with her being a full time housewife if she is happy with that role. would you say the comment about " American White Boys" is ignorant?

[I AM NOT THAT GUY 5,715]

nothing wrong with her being a full time housewife if she is happy with that role.

Exactly. Most Filipina's I know want to earn their own money, and don't like playing the housewife thing. If you have kids, be prepared for mom to come live with you as soon as your wife becomes a citizen, so that she doesn't have to stay home and be bored anymore. Even in the Philippines, it is not uncommon for the wife to send the kids to live with her parents so that she can work while she is young enough to still get a job.

[Leatherneck 693]

Hiring a housekeeper would have been cheaper.

Can one get a housekeeper/w benefits? Huh, can't call the housekeeper when you have that 4 am urge.

[The Nature Boy 4,224]

nothing wrong with her being a full time housewife if she is happy with that role. would you say the comment about " American White Boys" is ignorant?

What comment about American White boys I must have missed that ?

[The Nature Boy 4,224]

Exactly. Most Filipina's I know want to earn their own money, and don't like playing the housewife thing. If you have kids, be prepared for mom to come live with you as soon as your wife becomes a citizen, so that she doesn't have to stay home and be bored anymore. Even in the Philippines, it is not uncommon for the wife to send the kids to live with her parents so that she can work while she is young enough to still get a job.

I don't know that that is a fact. The majority of our Pinay-American friends are stay at home mom's. I think one of the mistakes a lot of us make is trying to fit all Pinay into one little neat box, by saying most Pinay do this or that. We very quickly make broad generalizations about "all or Most Pinay" and that is just as unfair as saying most white people or most black people etc etc. ( Not attacking you I was guilty of it at first also)

As far as having her own money, . we are a partnership and what is mine is hers, and although my Job is outside the home all we have is "ours". She is quite comfortable telling me when there is a need, and she has her won credit card and access to funds when she needs them.

[Book Em Dano 2]

See page 1 of this thread. That comment was made by AJabad along with my retort; also on page 1.

What comment about American White boys I must have missed that ?

[Hank_ 9,174]

What comment about American White boys I must have missed that ?

My piece of advice to you my friend. Us being Filipino... you definitely need a lot of patience because of the cultural differences you may encounter. I hate to say this but those American White Boys need to really show a lot of respect for our Filipina Ladies. Marrying a Filipina is the most valuable gift you could ever have in your life because not just their beautiful.. They support you 100% on a day to day basis. Filipina's are considered the most brilliant individual on earth so give them the most respectful treatment they deserve. Filipina's are very talented when it comes to your own comfort need as far of taking care of you. Pinays does all the work at home and you wont find a typical American Ladies who cooks, wash clothes and cleans your own house. So give yourself a tap on the back because you made the right Choice.. No offense...

[Scott & Annie 19]

This is for those guys with Filipina fiancee and wives.

When your fiancee or wife first came to live with you in America. What were some things that you had to buy because she needed, being american you would never need. Also, what are some things you had to hide or throw away cause she found it dis tasteful.

Had to buy: A rice cooker...of course!

Had to throw away: A perfectly good box of "Boil in the Bag" rice!

...she found it "distasteful"

From an "American White Boy"

Edited February 16, 2012 by Scott & Annie

[Caryh 5,206]

Bought lots of clothes, rice cooker (let her pick it out when she got here), tabo, lots and lots of pinoy food. Can't think of anything I needed to get rid of. Except some photos of my ex wife. Actually they weren't mine, they were in things I have stored for my mother, but she found them and I paid the price for that. Dumb me, I should have gone through and removed everything that might have shown I had a previous marriage or relationship. Don't make my mistake, go through everything and purge, purge, purge.

To comment on what my Filipina wife does as far as house keeping, she does pretty much everything around the house. Washes, cooks, irons, cleans, does the dishes, etc... But I'll also pitch in if she's busy and things need doing. I expect I'll do a lot more again when she finds a job. At first I did most of it, until I had taught her how to use everything, then I never got the chance again. As to money and work, although I tell her its our money, she wants to make money so she can feel she has contributed to the household. She's always saying "Sorry for spending your money". Doesn't matter how many times I tell her its our money, she still has that internal view. I think she might be slowly, very slowly changing in that view, but its going to take a long time.

[thinkerlove0212 158]

I think you mistake what the Bidet is, it would replace the Tabo they use in the Philippines.

Ohhhhh! 3 times I have been there with my fiance and even at her home and was confused and embarrassed, I only known another way while in Navy in UAE. Wish she explained this and to buy tissue before enter a stall or keep some pocket sizes with you. This will make for an interesting talk tonight with her!

[The Nature Boy 4,224]

My piece of advice to you my friend. Us being Filipino... you definitely need a lot of patience because of the cultural differences you may encounter. I hate to say this but those American White Boys need to really show a lot of respect for our Filipina Ladies. Marrying a Filipina is the most valuable gift you could ever have in your life because not just their beautiful.. They support you 100% on a day to day basis. Filipina's are considered the most brilliant individual on earth so give them the most respectful treatment they deserve. Filipina's are very talented when it comes to your own comfort need as far of taking care of you. Pinays does all the work at home and you wont find a typical American Ladies who cooks, wash clothes and cleans your own house. So give yourself a tap on the back because you made the right Choice.. No offense...

Oh that comment. Well it does not appear it was meant in a bad way. I think everybody is way too sensitive about race nowadays but that it is my opinion

[Hank_ 9,174]

Oh that comment. Well it does not appear it was meant in a bad way. I think everybody is way too sensitive about race nowadays but that it is my opinion

I agree.... most should get over it... jeez!

[sunandmoon 450]

Oh that comment. Well it does not appear it was meant in a bad way. I think everybody is way too sensitive about race nowadays but that it is my opinion

I think my post got twisted into it was about the racial overtones of American White Boys. I didn't take AWB that way. I meant the OP's generaliztion that insinuated we don't show our wives enough respect was ignorant.

Edited February 17, 2012 by sunandmoon

[I AM NOT THAT GUY 5,715]

I think my post got twisted into it was about the racial overtones of American White Boys. I didn't take AWB that way. I meant the OP's generaliztion that insinuated we don't show our wives enough respect was ignorant.

Yes, because the typical Filipino shows his wife so much respect.