Living w/ friends

[grumpymcdorky18 7]

So here's the story.......

Me and my husband has been married since December so I'm still waiting for my EAD, hopefully it'll be approved anytime this week or next week if God permits. We're currently living with his friends right now who's also married. They lived with my husband before in his house which is now up for sale since he got a gunpoint while he was sleeping (bad neighborhood) but he's still paying the mortgage so not to destroy his credit since I will be building mine with his name.

Of course living with somebody has always cons, the guy we liveJd with is kindda rude asking my husband do things for him all the time like he was his "slave" or somethin. Wake us up early in the morning to get his laundry since we live in the basement which I believe he could've done the night before he went to bed. Put post all over the cupboards about knife and dishwasher. Honestly, I'm kinda shock with his attitude coz I grew up in a place where people are most of the time polite and respectful. We pay them utilities but not rent since they're returning the favor that they lived in my husbands house before and for sure my husband never treated them that way. Last night the guy was barking at my husband about his taxes and utilities, I really felt bad so I decided to get all the money in my purse and give to him so he'll stop yellin at my husband.

We're really hoping to move out soon coz I can't stand him anymore and the way he disrespects my husband. But the problem is that my husband's plate is full with bills, student loan and mortgage. I have a few American friends but I can say they're not rude, they're mostly helpful. I don't know if it's just me bein overly sensitive, the "culture-difference" or it's just his terrible attitude. guess in this journey you don't know what kind of people you'll meet along the way......

[BesosforMexico 13]

That really sucks. We aren't all bad I promise

I own my own house and I still have a roomate. I am thinking my fiance will be here in the next month and I still haven't decided whether to allow my best friend to living with us once we get married or not. My problem is that my husband to be is very homophobic, and my best friend/roomate is gay. They get along with each other but my fear is how my hubby will react if my roomate ever brings home a boy.

I think just to keep things smooth I will ask my roomate to move out in a few months.

[Leatherneck 693]

Now you know first-hand why Americans can and do live with like to live with more than 1 family in a house.

That's terrible when you're living in someone's house and they act an ####### and treat you like #######.

Edited February 13, 2012 by Leatherneck

[Leatherneck 693]

The way that guy behaves is not indicative of all, most or even many Americans.

So do not feel Americans are like that guy, we are as different and varied as Filipinos.

[rlogan 2,036]

Your husband's "friend" is a jerk.

I let an old college room-mate slacker bum live with me, and he treated my wife that way when she arrived. In her own house! He was cunning about not letting me see a lot of the stuff he was doing like demanding to be let in the bathroom when she was in there and bossing her around if I was upstairs.

I evicted him and we've never spoken since. It sounds like this guy is not really your husband's friend. Sometimes people are really rude like this because that's a way of getting rid of you: make your life so miserable that you leave.

[grumpymcdorky18 7]

thanks guys, it's just probably that I never felt disrespected before nor see somebody got disrespected like that most of all my husband. I never meant to offend or mean something bad sorry if I did say it in a way that you might have misinterpreted coz I know not all American's are like that. I have friends who's from here for a long time since I worked in a US based company and we've been friends for more than 10 years....guess it's really different you meet along the way.

Your husband's "friend" is a jerk.

I let an old college room-mate slacker bum live with me, and he treated my wife that way when she arrived. In her own house! He was cunning about not letting me see a lot of the stuff he was doing like demanding to be let in the bathroom when she was in there and bossing her around if I was upstairs.

I evicted him and we've never spoken since. It sounds like this guy is not really your husband's friend. Sometimes people are really rude like this because that's a way of getting rid of you: make your life so miserable that you leave.

You're probably right, knowing that he's making big things out of small things means he wants us out. I wish it's my husband's house that we're living like your situation before so we can kick him out and he can leave us alone but faith wasn't that easy for us. I guess the bottom line for this is if you're getting married to a person from a different country it's good to have your own place at least so the adjustment stage won't be really that tough. Since we grew up on a different environment and living/moving in to a different place far from our family is really tough and living with somebody who treats you like ####### will make adjustment even more harder. I can say Filipinos are not as straight forward as some of the people here but that I'm trying to work on since my husband can't say anything at all but just complain to me. Everyday I'm crossing my fingers that I'll have my EAD so we can move out and I'm the only person who can boss around my husband