Filipina Fiancee Freaking Out

[Darnell 8,479]

Any way to calm her down?

Send her a scanned image of the NOA-2 formletter. That should work.

[Dan and Judy 614]

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About the hood, it was just a joke, well not really but the pain was how much everything costs when you are hit with everything at once.... like I was.. When I did the K-1 i knew she needed an interview but I didn't expect the medical or visa application fee. That is what hurt me the most because I over looked it. There were fees after the I-129F that I wasn't aware of. I apologize for the misrepresentation of how i worked my previous sentences.

I don't want to freak anybody out but do you know you have to cut another check for $1070 after you get married? That's for adjustment of status. After 90 days she'll be out of status until you file the AOS and pay the fee.

[acuratlsd 11]

I don't want to freak anybody out but do you know you have to cut another check for $1070 after you get married? That's for adjustment of status. After 90 days she'll be out of status until you file the AOS and pay the fee.

Yeah! I got that one too.

What are the break down of fees for the AOS or is it just one big fee?

[edwardteresa4ever 18]

I don't want to freak anybody out but do you know you have to cut another check for $1070 after you get married? That's for adjustment of status. After 90 days she'll be out of status until you file the AOS and pay the fee.

My fiance and I are only approaching the BPI phase, I hadn t even thought of the AOS phase 1070,Plus 2 Kids? We both knew up front we would have fees and fees and then a few more fees, were pretty much on the same page with the cash end of the process, but reading this post wonder how many people dont know or dont care to know it takes some income and planning to make this a seemless, somewhwat stressless Journey, The hurry up and wait is hard enough without adding onto it mutual mystification in regards to fees and unknowns of resources once your here together, just my 2 cents.

[acuratlsd 11]

My fiance and I are only approaching the BPI phase, I hadn t even thought of the AOS phase 1070,Plus 2 Kids? We both knew up front we would have fees and fees and then a few more fees, were pretty much on the same page with the cash end of the process, but reading this post wonder how many people dont know or dont care to know it takes some income and planning to make this a seemless, somewhwat stressless Journey, The hurry up and wait is hard enough without adding onto it mutual mystification in regards to fees and unknowns of resources once your here together, just my 2 cents.

I mean I am fine with the fees.

I get a paycheck to cover that, but it was the tuition, visa application, medical, immigration paperwork, and plane ticket that hit all at once that hurt.

At the end of the 3 months, it will be no problem.

There should be a page pinned up showing all the costs of everything so people can plan it and it doesn't come to a shock to others.

My fiance and I are only approaching the BPI phase, I hadn t even thought of the AOS phase 1070,Plus 2 Kids? We both knew up front we would have fees and fees and then a few more fees, were pretty much on the same page with the cash end of the process, but reading this post wonder how many people dont know or dont care to know it takes some income and planning to make this a seemless, somewhwat stressless Journey, The hurry up and wait is hard enough without adding onto it mutual mystification in regards to fees and unknowns of resources once your here together, just my 2 cents.

This explains the fees on the AOS I-485 page.

http://www.uscis.gov/portal/site/uscis/menuitem.5af9bb95919f35e66f614176543f6d1a/?vgnextoid=3faf2c1a6855d010VgnVCM10000048f3d6a1RCRD

I am not sure the ages of the kids but if they are 14 and below, you will really benefit.

[rlogan 2,036]

Isn't this the fellow who tells restaurants he is not going to pay for the food if the waitress "bothers" him? I thought it was a pinay in that thread.

A couple of arguments away from a shovel and a long night?

I would think that a relationship is going horribly wrong if there was "no" fighting or bickering.

Geez, I guess mine is going horribly wrong.

I really do not know how to explain to someone from a third world country that Americans are not always rich as the TV makes us look

It is extremely simple: you tell them. A decent person only needs to be told once. A bad person has no empathy, so it doesn't matter how many times you tell them, they don't care and continue to use the myth as an excuse to manipulate you for money. Like a bank robber who says they aren't really stealing because the bank didn't do anything to earn the money.

[Dan and Judy 614]

My fiance and I are only approaching the BPI phase, I hadn t even thought of the AOS phase 1070,Plus 2 Kids? We both knew up front we would have fees and fees and then a few more fees, were pretty much on the same page with the cash end of the process, but reading this post wonder how many people dont know or dont care to know it takes some income and planning to make this a seemless, somewhwat stressless Journey, The hurry up and wait is hard enough without adding onto it mutual mystification in regards to fees and unknowns of resources once your here together, just my 2 cents.

Filing Fee :$985. (Add $85 biometric fee for a total of $1070, where applicable. See the form instructions for payment details.) You must make your check payable to Department of Homeland Security.Special Instructions :

There are exceptions in which the applicant is not required to pay the entire $1070:

• Applicants 79 years of age or older are not charged a biometric fee; the fee total is $985.

• There is no fee for applicants who are filing Form I-485 based on having been admitted to the United States as a refugee.

• There is no fee if an applicant is filing as a refugee under section 209(a) of the INA.

• For applicants under 14 years of age:

  • Filing with the I-485 application of at least one parent have a fee total of $635;

  • Not filing with the I-485 application of at least one parent have a fee total of $985.

    
    

  • ouch! could be worse. could be 4 kids

    
    

[acuratlsd 11]

Isn't this the fellow who tells restaurants he is not going to pay for the food if the waitress "bothers" him? I thought it was a pinay in that thread.

A couple of arguments away from a shovel and a long night?

Geez, I guess mine is going horribly wrong.

It is extremely simple: you tell them. A decent person only needs to be told once. A bad person has no empathy, so it doesn't matter how many times you tell them, they don't care and continue to use the myth as an excuse to manipulate you for money. Like a bank robber who says they aren't really stealing because the bank didn't do anything to earn the money.

I was married before. Not my fiancee before.

She was making my military career a complete nightmare.

She would call the Military police on me because I wouldn't continue her K-3

she would lie saying i hit her, this and that.

I was actually on lock down for 3 days because of that it and it was a a semi weekly thing.

My unit wasn't smart enough to look into it especially when she had no marks on her.

When you have your wife after you and then you have your unit looking down at you... lots of stress goes on there.

and YES! I absolutely will not pay a waitress if she doesn't do her job. If she does it average then the 15%, but if she does an outstanding job, i'll even boost it to 20-30 percent.

[southcalhog 43]

The "good" ones don't break up with you for 4 months because of something someone else says.

The "good" ones don't freak out if you can't give them money

The "good" ones don't b**ch at you about not having a job

The "good" ones don't tell you how you are going to have to live.

Im on my 2cnd go around also. Had lot's of arguments with the first one before we got married and within a week of being here she was literally chasing me down the street so she could continue arguing with me. Judy has been here 3 months now and we have not had a single argument.

The one you got now is going to want to run your life. If you want someone to run your life, you'll be very happy together

I would have to agree with you Dan on 3 out of 4! they may not B** at you for not having a Job but as the head of the family Who got this Lady here, it is of my Opinion YOU should be main provider of Support for this Lady? .....................I mean didnt you file a I-134 or I-864 for her????

[Dan and Judy 614]

I think getting married in PI saves all that money

well some posts slipped in between, this is about AOS fees

Edited February 6, 2012 by Dan and Judy

[southcalhog 43]

I think getting married in PI saves all that money

well some posts slipped in between, this is about AOS fees

OK Gotcha!!!

[acuratlsd 11]

I would have to agree with you Dan on 3 out of 4! they may not B** at you for not having a Job but as the head of the family Who got this Lady here, it is of my Opinion YOU should be main provider of Support for this Lady? .....................I mean didnt you file a I-134 or I-864 for her????

Yup, I filed everything.

[southcalhog 43]

Yup, I filed everything.

[Dan and Judy 614]

Yeah, I still get the same questions from mines.

Is your mom and dad going to like me? Will I be able to work when I am there?

Usually a Filipina has to take and pass a particular nursing test before she can be a nurse in the states. Is that taken care of already?

Edited February 6, 2012 by Dan and Judy

[Dan and Judy 614]

I would have to agree with you Dan on 3 out of 4! they may not B** at you for not having a Job but as the head of the family Who got this Lady here, it is of my Opinion YOU should be main provider of Support for this Lady? .....................I mean didnt you file a I-134 or I-864 for her????

This is what the OP said originally (I dont know how to put it in one of those boxes)

"Now she is coming after me because I don't have a job and I am still going to school full time even though I have VA disability.

I am trying to explain to her that my mom is helping and it takes a few months or her to start working so YES!

family does have to help a little, that is what they are there for."

If he was just sitting on the couch eating bonbons, then instead of bitching at him she should move on.

He's working to better himself and he has an income.

that being said, If I was the girl and he couldnt come up with the fees and I was having to pay for this stuff it would not fill me with confidence in my husband to be.

If she is working 6 days a week, 13 hours a day she might think it would be resonable for him to get a pt time Job when he could earn in 1 hour what she earns in a day.

It's easy to see there are two sides to this story.

I think he said she's been self supporting for 7 years and her family has been little or no help. She may not be thrilled with her current situation but coming here is giving up her stability and so far in her life she has not had good luck depending on other people. Now it seems to her like she is going to be depending on someone who is depending on his mommy.

Which takes us back to an earlier post that said they could be rushing things. This is realy the wrong time to be saying he wants to make sure his mom is ok before he starts a family. Bringing the fiance here is starting a family