Want to or plan to go back?

[alizon 77]

When we got married, we chose to have my husband come here because he's stuck in a job he doesn't really like and I'm in a funded graduate program with at least 2 more years of studying ahead of me. But we're hoping that we will end up moving back to Canada in a couple years. I'm getting increasingly frustrated by my home country (politics, economy), and my husband wants our kids to speak fluent French (even if that's unlikely in English provinces, it's even less likely here).

So I'm just curious if any of you want to or plan to go back to Canada in the future? Or better yet, has anyone actually gone back and taken their American spouse with them? Experiences? Thoughts?

[pocheros 101]

It's certainly not in our plans but my hubby and I have discussed the option. We both love Toronto so who knows, maybe when we're older and have more money saved up.

[Colleens 40]

When we got married, we chose to have my husband come here because he's stuck in a job he doesn't really like and I'm in a funded graduate program with at least 2 more years of studying ahead of me. But we're hoping that we will end up moving back to Canada in a couple years. I'm getting increasingly frustrated by my home country (politics, economy), and my husband wants our kids to speak fluent French (even if that's unlikely in English provinces, it's even less likely here).

So I'm just curious if any of you want to or plan to go back to Canada in the future? Or better yet, has anyone actually gone back and taken their American spouse with them? Experiences? Thoughts?

We are actually going to start the application process for my husband so that we can move back hopefully later this year. We have really struggled to find permanant employment and we really don't have any family support here. Fortunately my husband finally found a decent full time job after going through a year of working temp contracts on and off. Thankfully my sister has been able to help us out financially or we would be homeless.

We will be moving to live near all my family (they will all be within a 15min drive) and we will have a bit more support. We have a 13 month old and we rarely get any time to ourselves (even going for dinner) because we really have no one to watch her. We have not had a night without her yet, and with all the struggles we have had this past year, our relationship could really use a weekend of just 'us' time.

The job market is a lot better where we will be moving to, so hopefully we will be able to get better job and become a little more secure again. My husband would love to go back to school for nursing, so that would be a lot more financially feasible in Canada as well.

If it had not been for him being in the army, he would have moved to Canada in the first place.

[Krikit 1,164]

We'll probably split our time between Canada and the U.S.

my husband wants our kids to speak fluent French (even if that's unlikely in English provinces, it's even less likely here).

It's not unlikely in English provinces.

[alizon 77]

It's not unlikely in English provinces.

Yeah, I get such mixed messages about that (hence my hedging)! Anglophones from Alberta who are totally fluent and then anglophones from Montreal who insist that there's no way you can improve your French in Montreal. Either way, better chance in Canada than here.

Edited February 4, 2012 by alizon

[Kimbear 53]

Yeah, I get such mixed messages about that (hence my hedging)! Anglophones from Alberta who are totally fluent and then anglophones from Montreal who insist that there's no way you can improve your French in Montreal. Either way, better chance in Canada than here.

well i grew up in Montreal, and i can't speak french all that well, but i can tell you why. When you are force fed that french is the domate language and made to feel like your english ####### should not be here and you feel like yoru being pushed out for years by the bloque etc trying to force french down eveyrones throat you tend to develop a hatred for it and absolutely refuse to speak it or read it or be around it, thus why i moved out of quebec in 2000.

Ironically once i was in Ontario , i was more willing to speak french to other people when i actually had a choice in the matter.

Edited February 4, 2012 by Kimbear

[Marilyn. 340]

I probably wouldn't move back to Canada but I am not really happy with where I am.. I would love to move to Oregon or Washington to be closer to Canada...

[Kimbear 53]

I know whenever i get up set about seomthing here i wish i was back in Canada. but honestly i dont know where i'd go. I have no family per se that i talk to or like even, i have no friends anymore up there. I have thought about moving to other states in the usa. Like virginia or Maine or PA. mostly on the eastern side. Mebbie if we win the lottery though lol.

[Wyatt's Torch 45]

Nah, I'm perfectly happy here. I mean, politics and the economy are a little worrisome, and customer service standards are far worse in the U.S., but ultimately I've made the United States my home. I'm currently going back to college here, ultimately going for a Bachelor's degree (or possibly a Master's) in English. My wife has a good (though stressful) job. I like the climate. I enjoy the level of opportunities afforded in the U.S., and frankly the idea of going through the immigration process again (for her) nauseates me.

There's a slight possibility of it, once I get my U.S. citizenship, and I suppose that anything can happen...but after having lived here for a couple of years now, I just can't see myself going back to Canada.

[Udella&Wiz 325]

Don't know - like Marilyn I think we might consider somewhere a little closer to the border in a few more years.

[smurfette71 0]

to afraid to leave USA took to long and tooooo much money and very stressful on all my family so I dont think I would leave due to having to cross that BORDER!!!!!!!!!!!!

[SapphireDreams 71]

No plans to go back for us.

Living in NYC is expensive, but worth every penny. The income potential, culture, opportunity and milder weather is amazing. I look forward to raising my kids here (or in the suburbs).

[KTandTommy 31]

We're still going through the process of moving me down to the US, but it's definitely on our radar to eventually move him up to Canada, especially if things don't get settled in the way we expect down in the States. I have a huge family, and they're all kinda disappointed that I'm moving to the US, instead of him moving up here, but we've talked about it and the way we're doing it seems to make the most sense for us at this point in our lives.

[phel 3]

If we don't move back to Canada eventually, we plan on settling closer to the border. NYC, Boston maybe. Being this far away from family isn't ideal.

[gad33 47]

Interesting question as we are in the process of moving back to the US. Although our move was a job transfer and nothing to do with family. Our main reason for moving is the weather. My husband has developed Raynaud's and this truly affects his life style in the winter and curtails his outdoor activities. There are other reasons for moving but that is the main one.

Personally I think it is a great opportunity to live in another country. My husband and I have lived in 3 and our son 2. And it would give your children the chance to live near family and get to know them.

Outside of Quebec, you will have the choice of sending your children to French Immersion schools. Although adults that I have met from anglophone families have lost the French once they leave school. (I expect those that did keep it up left Calgary.)

Our son has chosen to stay here and that will be hard to leave him but he has seen the effect the cold has on his Dad so knows that we have to go. Also he has the choice to move back at any time or stay in Canada, or even move to Europe. It is these opportunities that outweigh the hassle of form filling. I have told my husband that all I have done since we married is fill in forms.