Interview to remove temp status

[Peace be still 6]

OK, I get it. The marriage is for real. It is the people in the marriage. Based on what you just explained, he is not commiting fraud, he never did. He is just a different person than what you wanted, or expected. I guess my wife sees me similar to how you see him. In the begining of our marriage, I used to make jokes with her all the time, and she always sees it as me being sarcastic with her. It came to a point where our communication became business-like - we would just discuss things about the house, or bills, ot things to do. She keeps blaming me for not being communicative. True, during the time when our documents were being processed, we communicated a lot through emails, and phone, etc. But there is a difference in knowing someone before and after marriage. How can I communicate with someone who is cold? At work, everyone, I mean everyone knows me to be a jovial person, even in stressful times. So how did I become so 'silent' in my marriage? I adapted to prevent mis-understandings that may arise from a joke that will always be taken in the way my wife sees it, instead of the way a joke is supposed to be seen. I don't think you have to prove or tell the immigration anything except that he is the silent type. He has done nothing to prove that he entered the marriage to commit fraud. He is just not the chit-chat person you wanted in a husband.

I need the chit chat lol. Forget that he did the chit chat before we got married and what it took to get me he has to do it to keep me. I'm impulsive true indeed I can take ownership of that part of myself and at times I can have a potty mouth like he never heard before in his entire life living in Morocco lol. Woo Wee, he saw that side of me when I get upset when he moved here to the USA. At the end of the day, I know where all his finances is which is with us and sending what he can home when he can. We just purchased a home and we are remodeling it. That in itself is very stressful. I like things done immediately and he doesn't like to spend money he rather do it. So here I sit in a home that doesn't have my Oak Wood floors installed yet. The wood is in the the foyer, and he is working all these hours but yet he has an attitude when I talk about paying someone to install them. I'm sure he feels guilty about not sending more money home to his family, and I understand. But it is very stressful for him and I see that and it makes me stressful. We plan on being honest that is the only way because I have nothing to hide nor have I done anything wrong. I can't fake or pretend, i'm not an actress I just won't do it. I told him to be honest about where we are at in our relationship and not to try and lie and act like things have been peaches and cream when they haven't. The adjustment period is taking me longer than what I expected.

[Darnell 8,478]

installing wood floors? hey - get to the Home Depot - they give classes on 'how to do' several times a month. It might spur him into activity for the weekend, knowing he has a trained helper to help him.

[Peace be still 6]

OK, I get it. The marriage is for real. It is the people in the marriage. Based on what you just explained, he is not commiting fraud, he never did. He is just a different person than what you wanted, or expected. I guess my wife sees me similar to how you see him. In the begining of our marriage, I used to make jokes with her all the time, and she always sees it as me being sarcastic with her. It came to a point where our communication became business-like - we would just discuss things about the house, or bills, ot things to do. She keeps blaming me for not being communicative. True, during the time when our documents were being processed, we communicated a lot through emails, and phone, etc. But there is a difference in knowing someone before and after marriage. How can I communicate with someone who is cold? At work, everyone, I mean everyone knows me to be a jovial person, even in stressful times. So how did I become so 'silent' in my marriage? I adapted to prevent mis-understandings that may arise from a joke that will always be taken in the way my wife sees it, instead of the way a joke is supposed to be seen. I don't think you have to prove or tell the immigration anything except that he is the silent type. He has done nothing to prove that he entered the marriage to commit fraud. He is just not the chit-chat person you wanted in a husband.

He received his 10 year green card in the mail today.

[potter1 1]

Fairandfoul, that was real hard. That hurts! OK, the wife wants more from her husband. Come on, give her a break. Now, my dear, let me tell you how the inner clockwork of some men work. I say this for some men, not all men. The more you nag, the farther you drive them away. Only a well trained man does your bidding when you say so. If the guy is economical, and wants to do the floor in his own time, then he should be able to do that if it saves you some money. Of course, he will be wrong not to do it if you currently have a dirt floor, covered with animal droppigs, and sewage water. I wondered if you are my wife, but it can't be, because I am not from his country, and we don't have any wood floor pending. My father-in-law does my mother-in-law's bidding whenever she opens her mouth, and he admits how scared he is, of his wife. The issue in our marriage, is due to the fact that I don't do things when my wife says so. I am more logical, in the sense, I will plant the flower bed when the cold season in Florida is over, not when she buys the plants, and wants me to do it, when I tell her there is a cold spell coming up, which will kill the tender plants. She would then complain that I don't do things when she says so. If that is how she thinks, then she needs a servant, not a husband. She should have found herself a fully conditioned man like her father. Now, if you want a puppet-husband, then I feel that you have the wrong husband. Give him up, so that a lucky woman out there can enjoy a hard-working, and thrifty man. If you want to keep him, stop your nagging, if you do. We are more sensitive that women. Allow him to open up, instead of him putting on his defensive shield of silence.

[Penguin_ie 5,994]

*** One personal attack removed. Keep it civil and constructive please ****

[fairandfoul 7]

Point taken: however, I still think a woman who seeks to punish her husband by jeopardising his immigration in the United States just because she would like him to utter more words per minute and install hardwood floors exactly WHEN and HOW he wants her to is probably psychologically unfit for marriage in the first place.

I think the true "harsh" thing is what the OP was contemplating (i.e., screwing up her husband's future). So happy for tha man and I hope things turn out well for HIM.