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[Rebecca Jo 1,962]

Hold on there a minute! While I and many others on here might agree with you on some of what you say I think you may be a bit off base to make some of the assumptions you do! I used an international dating site to find my wife. I made several trips over there to meet people. But the reasons I was looking there are way more involved than what you generalize about and I suspect the same is true for the majority of men and women who have done this! In my case it was difficult to find someone in my area that appreciated a hard-working, non-drinking, physically fit and active homebody type of male that also fit those categories and who was interested in living in a far northern, high snowfall Michigan town far from big cities! And I have been amazed at how much richer my life has become by being involved with a Russian! So call my wife a MOB if you want but I personally find that sort of label ridiculous! It is a fact of life that the internet is playing a larger and larger role in dating for the majority of people out there. What makes it so different just because you expand your dating horizons to another country? Be careful about using stereotypes to judge situations! When you do this you are 'pre-judging' which is... PREJUDICE!

Of course technology plays a larger role in dating today. That doesn't apply just to international dating. It applies to domestic dating as well. The difference is the "send her/him home" bit. And that happens ALL THE TIME in the international relationships. We have an entire forum on VJ with threads of that very title.

BTW, I thought Mrs. Brock said what she had to say in a polite manner.

[UK_Fan 192]

listen, i'm not prejudice against anybody, i'm as liberal as it gets, what i was talking about is that in MANY MANY MANY cases, American men go out to find a wife in another country simply because they want a submissive female that will obey them the way an american woman wouldn't even think to do.

do you not read these forums and see every other post, saying:"i'm sick of her, how can i take her green card away and send her home?" come onnnnnn.

and as i said, to each their own, but that is specifically MY honest opinion.

i never said that my marriage is better only because we didn't meet on the internet and he didn't pay for me... as a matter of fact, to answer Garys question, my husband didn't pay for anything that had to do with me coming here, neither did the Club that sponsored my exchange because i went home and came back AFTER my program was already over.

lack of respect to third world women? are you serious? this has absolutely nothing to do with women AT ALL! i am specifically talking about men that HUNT for a foreign wife.. those, who SET a goal to marry someone outside of USA or bust even if love has nothing to do with that marriage.

and if everything works out with their marriage (which i read an article called "yes, i'm a mail-order bride" a couple years ago and they lived happily ever after), well then more power to them! But unfortunately, im many cases those marriages end quick and then if it didn't work out, a man goes straight to that same website to pick him out a new one.. you don't see anything worng with that picture?? it's like supply and demand matter or something.

[UK_Fan 192]

"At first she thought I was a playboy because I told her that I wanted to date other filipinas to see which one I liked, you know filter them out.

I was married to a filipina before so I was very careful about seeing the signs of a good or bad filipina."

i saw this in another thread... this is EXACTLY what i'm talking about. what is she? a car?

Edited February 6, 2012 by Mrs.Brock

[slim 1,525]

No idea at all. I rarely take my own advice.

That explains a lot. You should put this in your sig line!

You are too subtle. I tell them it is the $1 million in the bank and the big c*ck. They always accuse me of lying and I say "Yeah, I really don't have $1 million"

Nice! I'm going to have to use that. I'm typically not a set 'em up to walk right into it kind of guy but I need to learn.

It's a soft form of the martial arts. You'd find a Sensei or group and join. After you learn the different movements you can do it alone if you like. Usually people practice Tai Ch in the morning to start the day correctly.

That's what I'm going for. I'd like to wake up every morning, do some Tai Chi, rub one out, eat some breakfast, then go to work. I figure my day would be pretty good before I even started work. I'd be happy every day!

this past summer we crossed that same river to go to kings island and seeing as how we live in a tiny little town in a tri-state area, Cincinnatti looked like freaking NYC to me.. seeing Bengals stadium alone tickled my fancy to death lol.

i love big cities, and all the hectic lifestyle that goes with it, our little boro is soooooooo boro-ing ahaha. nevertheless, i love the state and all that goes with it, especially Basketball lol

You passed by our place then. We're only about five minutes from the stadium and about 20 minutes from Kings Island. Next time you're rolling through, let us know. We got Kings Island passes for Christmas and I'm sure my wife would love to have a Russian girl to hang out with up there.

a poor little woman from a thrird world country comes here and it turns out that her husband is holding the green card over her head and treating her like a slave..

My wife always accuses me of doing this to her. It was really bad when she first got here and it took quite a while for her to understand if we want nice things... she has to work too. I guess she was under the impression that I was going to pay for everything and buy her whatever she wanted.

I never held the green card over her but I made it very clear she had the option to go back if the grass really was greener. For her, it wasn't about me making her work like a slave just for the privilege of staying here, it was her constantly telling me how much better her life was in Russia and how the men there kissed her @$$ on the daily. "How dare you event sink about make your wife work and pay bills. In Russia so many men so happy event have privilege be near whis me and share same air I breeze."

I laugh about it... but even after all this time she still thinks I should be kissing her @$$. (And I keep telling her she has the option to go back.)

[UK_Fan 192]

You passed by our place then. We're only about five minutes from the stadium and about 20 minutes from Kings Island. Next time you're rolling through, let us know. We got Kings Island passes for Christmas and I'm sure my wife would love to have a Russian girl to hang out with up there.

ah that's great, i will definitely take ya'll up on that offer... there are no russians around me and i never get to talk to any . we were planning on going back this summer, we usually go to Dollywood, but decided to switch it up last time and i loved the rides, but the food needs some work ahah.

My wife always accuses me of doing this to her. It was really bad when she first got here and it took quite a while for her to understand if we want nice things... she has to work too. I guess she was under the impression that I was going to pay for everything and buy her whatever she wanted.

I never held the green card over her but I made it very clear she had the option to go back if the grass really was greener. For her, it wasn't about me making her work like a slave just for the privilege of staying here, it was her constantly telling me how much better her life was in Russia and how the men there kissed her @$$ on the daily. "How dare you event sink about make your wife work and pay bills. In Russia so many men so happy event have privilege be near whis me and share same air I breeze."

I laugh about it... but even after all this time she still thinks I should be kissing her @$$. (And I keep telling her she has the option to go back.)

my husband always tells me that if i don't like something, i know where the door is.. and that was waayyy before we even got married.. but of course he knows, that i'm not going anywhere.

the thing with me, though, is that i don't know how men in Russia are so i can't compare ahah.. i don't know anything about life there becase i've not lived there since i was 15, i'm 22 now, so you do the math lol. so to me, that life is "foreign".

i do tell him, that he is lucky to have me, bacause i'm like the only Russian in a 70 miles radius and he just got lucky. a bit off topic, but his friends and even he always told me how when he was in Iraq, he was telling people that he will find hime a "russian chick" when he gets home. of course, noone took him seriously, but what do you know? 10 days after he got back home from overseas, we met and now he can't get rid of me... what a perfect example of "be careful what you wish for" lol

Edited February 6, 2012 by Mrs.Brock

[UK_Fan 192]

I used an international dating site to find my wife. I made several trips over there to meet people.

okay, here is the difference... i was talking about PAYING someone to find you a wife... like a person who runs an agency full of women that want to get married..

you, finding your wife on a dating site is no different from you going on match.com and meeting someone..

i don't think you are understanding what i'm talking about... you didn't pay someone money to get you a wife... the guys, in the special that i started this topic about, ARE

[UK_Fan 192]

http://www.articlesbase.com/marriage-articles/mail-order-bride-success-rates-463860.html

it says only 4% file for a divorce, but still

[slim 1,525]

ah that's great, i will definitely take ya'll up on that offer... there are no russians around me and i never get to talk to any . we were planning on going back this summer, we usually go to Dollywood, but decided to switch it up last time and i loved the rides, but the food needs some work ahah.

Sounds good.

As for the food, it's an acquired taste. When I first moved here I thought the pizza smelled like vomit. (Which is quite a coincidence considering the pizza place is at the bottom of the roller coaster - right where someone could puke!) But, over time, I learned to like it. Same goes for the chili. And if you haven't had goetta, you're missing out!

my husband always tells me that if i don't like something, i know where the door is

That's my line!

when he was in Iraq, he was telling people that he will find hime a "russian chick" when he gets home.

I was guarding a gate in Saudi Arabia back in '99 when my sergeant came up to my post telling me about how wonderful the new girls in Korea were. "You're going to really like the Russians."

He was right!

[UK_Fan 192]

Sounds good.

As for the food, it's an acquired taste. When I first moved here I thought the pizza smelled like vomit. (Which is quite a coincidence considering the pizza place is at the bottom of the roller coaster - right where someone could puke!) But, over time, I learned to like it. Same goes for the chili. And if you haven't had goetta, you're missing out!

when we went, i didn't even eat anything and i'm kinda glad, because 3 out of 4 of us puked after they ate and decided to ride a rollercaster. there was a shrimp place around the entrance and i can only imagine how sick you would get after eating that on a hot day and then go on rides.

[slim 1,525]

when we went, i didn't even eat anything and i'm kinda glad, because 3 out of 4 of us puked after they ate and decided to ride a rollercaster. there was a shrimp place around the entrance and i can only imagine how sick you would get after eating that on a hot day and then go on rides.

The secret to a good day at Kings Island is to go on a weekday while school is still in session and then leave the park for lunch or pack sandwiches and stuff for a picnic. Eating there costs way too much money and, as you already know, can lead to sickness.

Have you guys gone to Kentucky Kingdom in Louisville? I haven't been there in years but it was pretty decent and a lot cheaper than Kings Island.

[UK_Fan 192]

The secret to a good day at Kings Island is to go on a weekday while school is still in session and then leave the park for lunch or pack sandwiches and stuff for a picnic. Eating there costs way too much money and, as you already know, can lead to sickness.

Have you guys gone to Kentucky Kingdom in Louisville? I haven't been there in years but it was pretty decent and a lot cheaper than Kings Island.

i didn't even know that such place existed lol.. we haven't been to Louisville yet but we'd have to visit sometime. like i said, we usually go to Dollywood every summer nut it's gotten old.

[Ban Hammer 13,346]

several posts containing bickering have been removed. play nice, or you won't get to play at all.

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

okay, here is the difference... i was talking about PAYING someone to find you a wife... like a person who runs an agency full of women that want to get married..

you, finding your wife on a dating site is no different from you going on match.com and meeting someone..

i don't think you are understanding what i'm talking about... you didn't pay someone money to get you a wife... the guys, in the special that i started this topic about, ARE

OK. heres the real difference. It is not for you to decide. But so far you have decided James & Olya are OK, I am OK of course because I am better than you, buta lot of others here DID pay for an introduction service and you are saying they are awful.

I have nt seen the posts you speak of in this forum, I do not go to the PI forum and I do no tgo to the whiners forum. There are a certain percentage of people that are truly stupid, irresponsible, self centered and superficial and those people will always have problems whether they marry a girl next door or one from Kansas or one from the PI's nor is it a matter of how they met or if they paid someone or not.

You met your husband, I met my wife, other people met their spouses. They are all grown ups, they are all happy...or maybe not, but they are all grown ups. People in the process we are in cannot be throwing rocks at others in the same process or holding ourselves out to be superior. ALL of us complied with the law. YOU are here for exactly the same reason as everyone else is here...you married a US citizen.

There are plenty of toady American women that would love to shut down that system, do not feed the trolls.

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

"At first she thought I was a playboy because I told her that I wanted to date other filipinas to see which one I liked, you know filter them out.

I was married to a filipina before so I was very careful about seeing the signs of a good or bad filipina."

i saw this in another thread... this is EXACTLY what i'm talking about. what is she? a car?

You saw this in another forum. Wonder why RUB women do not get treated like that?

These women are adults and I trust them to make decisions on their own? Do you? Or should it be regulated further? How? Maybe not allow women from the Philippines? Make legislate age differences? Why not run some actuarial tables and restrict that which does not come out 80% or better after 5 years of marriage.

I mean if some guy tells me he is going to check out other Filipinas... I can only imagine telling Alla, I'll get back to you I am dating some more Ukrainians.

There are real turds out there, heck my wife dumped a Ukrainian ####### before marrying me. I will always be thankful to the vodka that gave him the courage to beat her so now I wake up next to her. Sorry she had to go through that. If I rescued her from anything it was from abuse she suffered at the hands of a guy that grew up in the same "courtyard" and she met on the playground...but you know how those relationships go.

Grown ups make decisions

The government does not care if you have a successful marriage, they care if you have a legitimate marriage, that it is not based in fraud. Ironically these shows ALWAYS focus on RUB women, yet those countries are considered very low fraud. I believe it is because the women tend toward being gorgeous and they are hated for that. If you have not run into it yet, you will.

[Rebecca Jo 1,962]

OK. heres the real difference. It is not for you to decide. But so far you have decided James & Olya are OK, I am OK of course because I am better than you, buta lot of others here DID pay for an introduction service and you are saying they are awful.

I have nt seen the posts you speak of in this forum, I do not go to the PI forum and I do no tgo to the whiners forum. There are a certain percentage of people that are truly stupid, irresponsible, self centered and superficial and those people will always have problems whether they marry a girl next door or one from Kansas or one from the PI's nor is it a matter of how they met or if they paid someone or not.

You met your husband, I met my wife, other people met their spouses. They are all grown ups, they are all happy...or maybe not, but they are all grown ups. People in the process we are in cannot be throwing rocks at others in the same process or holding ourselves out to be superior. ALL of us complied with the law. YOU are here for exactly the same reason as everyone else is here...you married a US citizen.

There are plenty of toady American women that would love to shut down that system, do not feed the trolls.

First you say we should not be throwing rocks at each other. Then you call American women "toady".

Why do you insist on doing this kind of thing?