Age Difference Relationships

[Karly-n-Bruce 0]

Thanks for the replies so far.

I haven't been that active yet so I figured I would add a little more info about us. I am 20 and Bruce is 46 (47 in a couple weeks). Our K1 process has been a little bumpy but nothing extreme. I think the hardest thing to deal with is the time between hearing something as well as the time spent apart. I'm simply hoping our interview isn't a total disaster because of our age difference. I don't see why it would be, but you never know. I hope my nerves don't get the best of me during my interview (which is in 23 days ) because I have issues when dealing with anxiety. I don't want to seem unsure or scared. I want them to see that we are genuinely in love and want to spend the rest of our lives together. Anyway, enough rambling. Perhaps relationships like ours will be a little more socially accepted in the future instead of questioned.

[Caladan 19]

There's a lot of topics on this one, but here's my quick & dirty take on it.

An age difference alone is not a reason for a denial, i.e., there's no check box that says 'couples must be within ten years.' That said, everything in this whole process is geared around one question:

Is this couple for real? Do they intend to marry?

So while there isn't an age check box, it could be a factor arousing suspicion in the mind of the consulate official. Things to consider:

Do older women normally marry much younger men in that culture?

Is there a stigma attached to (laundry list) men who marry divorcées, men who marry older women, relationships that are unlikely to yield children that make it seem unlikely that the young man is in love with the older woman?

Is the country one where there is a high rate of visa fraud?

Canada isn't a high-risk country, but the important thing is just to make a case to the official that you are a real couple. (And check out the Montréal consulate reviews, too.)

[EBONY_SEAN 1]

IT WOULD BE VERY UNFAIR TO BE DENIED BECAUSE OF AGE. IF THATS THE CASE THEN ONE SHOULDNT BE ABLE TO BE MARRIED BECAUSE OF THE SAME AGE.

I was wondering if there were other members here who have gone through the K-1 process and have a significant age gap between one another. There are 27 years between my fiance and I and I'm afraid we may be treated differently/unfairly because of it (already experienced discrimination of sorts at the border with US Customs because of our age difference).

[michellek1976 0]

Thanks for the replies so far.

I haven't been that active yet so I figured I would add a little more info about us. I am 20 and Bruce is 46 (47 in a couple weeks). Our K1 process has been a little bumpy but nothing extreme. I think the hardest thing to deal with is the time between hearing something as well as the time spent apart. I'm simply hoping our interview isn't a total disaster because of our age difference. I don't see why it would be, but you never know. I hope my nerves don't get the best of me during my interview (which is in 23 days ) because I have issues when dealing with anxiety. I don't want to seem unsure or scared. I want them to see that we are genuinely in love and want to spend the rest of our lives together. Anyway, enough rambling. Perhaps relationships like ours will be a little more socially accepted in the future instead of questioned.

If you get nervous and likely to have an anxiety attack, could your fiance be at the interview with you? I know my embassy encourages fiances to attend if at all possible. Taking the time to make the trip and sitting together, completely comfortable together, will speak volumes when being interviewed.

The age gap will appear smaller as you get older. There is 15 years between my fiance and I. When I was 23 and he was 38 it seems more significant. But at 30 and 45 it doesn't seem scandalous anymore!!!

[eclowjpd 0]

Our age difference is almost 23 years and we were approved.

However, if your fiance is under 21 y.o. Then you may have to overcome this.

[Ana and Dan 0]

IT WOULD BE VERY UNFAIR TO BE DENIED BECAUSE OF AGE. IF THATS THE CASE THEN ONE SHOULDNT BE ABLE TO BE MARRIED BECAUSE OF THE SAME AGE.

I was wondering if there were other members here who have gone through the K-1 process and have a significant age gap between one another. There are 27 years between my fiance and I and I'm afraid we may be treated differently/unfairly because of it (already experienced discrimination of sorts at the border with US Customs because of our age difference).

OKAY!!!

Edited October 2, 2006 by Ana and Dan

[Yodrak 7]

Karly-n-Bruce,

CONTEXT - you should have provided more complete information in you origianl post.

What makes you think that relationships like yours are not socially accepted? That aside, what makes you think that they are not immigration accepted?

Yodrak

Thanks for the replies so far.

I haven't been that active yet so I figured I would add a little more info about us. I am 20 and Bruce is 46 (47 in a couple weeks). Our K1 process has been a little bumpy but nothing extreme. I think the hardest thing to deal with is the time between hearing something as well as the time spent apart. I'm simply hoping our interview isn't a total disaster because of our age difference. I don't see why it would be, but you never know. I hope my nerves don't get the best of me during my interview (which is in 23 days ) because I have issues when dealing with anxiety. I don't want to seem unsure or scared. I want them to see that we are genuinely in love and want to spend the rest of our lives together. Anyway, enough rambling. Perhaps relationships like ours will be a little more socially accepted in the future instead of questioned.

[Karly-n-Bruce 0]

Karly-n-Bruce,

CONTEXT - you should have provided more complete information in you origianl post.

What makes you think that relationships like yours are not socially accepted? That aside, what makes you think that they are not immigration accepted?

Yodrak

Sorry. I didn't mean to be so vague in my initial post.

Relationships like mine and Bruce's may be socially acceptable in other parts of the world, but it doesn't seem to be too fitting here. Maybe it's because I live in a small town but it seems as though there are many people who are not as open minded as others. It's not as bad now but when we first announced our relationship status, we got many nasty remarks and stares. I suppose we've had an all-around bad experience with people telling us what we share is wrong because of our age difference.

The fact that we were treated like sh*t by Customs officers because of our age difference leads me to believe that any other authority figure could possibly react the same way. Which is why I'm afraid the officials at the Consulate may react in some harsh way. I really don't know what to expect and no one really does. I was simply looking for other members who have successfully attained their K1 visas and are in an ADR. I thought it would help ease my uncertainties as well as give us both reassurance that we are not alone because it sure does feel that way sometimes.

[Yodrak 7]

Karly-n-Bruce,

Sorry to learn that you've had some bad experiences. Nevertheless age difference is not, in and of itself, a factor in immigration. It is but one piece of a jigsaw puzzle, and how the finished picture looks depends on all of the pieces and how they fit together.

Yodrak

Karly-n-Bruce,

CONTEXT - you should have provided more complete information in you origianl post.

What makes you think that relationships like yours are not socially accepted? That aside, what makes you think that they are not immigration accepted?

Yodrak

Sorry. I didn't mean to be so vague in my initial post.

Relationships like mine and Bruce's may be socially acceptable in other parts of the world, but it doesn't seem to be too fitting here. Maybe it's because I live in a small town but it seems as though there are many people who are not as open minded as others. It's not as bad now but when we first announced our relationship status, we got many nasty remarks and stares. I suppose we've had an all-around bad experience with people telling us what we share is wrong because of our age difference.

The fact that we were treated like sh*t by Customs officers because of our age difference leads me to believe that any other authority figure could possibly react the same way. Which is why I'm afraid the officials at the Consulate may react in some harsh way. I really don't know what to expect and no one really does. I was simply looking for other members who have successfully attained their K1 visas and are in an ADR. I thought it would help ease my uncertainties as well as give us both reassurance that we are not alone because it sure does feel that way sometimes.

[trey 0]

26 years and 9 months age difference between me and my fiancee. We were approved no problem.

I was wondering if there were other members here who have gone through the K-1 process and have a significant age gap between one another. There are 27 years between my fiance and I and I'm afraid we may be treated differently/unfairly because of it (already experienced discrimination of sorts at the border with US Customs because of our age difference).