Age Difference Relationships

[Karly-n-Bruce 0]

I was wondering if there were other members here who have gone through the K-1 process and have a significant age gap between one another. There are 27 years between my fiance and I and I'm afraid we may be treated differently/unfairly because of it (already experienced discrimination of sorts at the border with US Customs because of our age difference).

[TucsonBill 0]

I've never heard of anyone being denied because of an age difference.

Bill

[AnchorsAweigh 0]

Age different is not a problem if your fiance can do good at the interview and prove C.O that you guys really love each other and dont care bout the age,cause there's 23 years different between me and my fiance and this isnt a big problem to us at all

goodluck on the rest of your journey

us

[Chris-n-Veronica 0]

27 years is alot.... but I'm sure you have done all the math..and all the conflicts you can have,,so I won't go there.. I'm 19 years older then Veronica.. I've tried to talk to her about it...but she won't hear it.. and she even says I'm her big kid...

I guess what I'm trying to say... it only matters to you two... Love shouldn't have a age limit..a distance limit.. a color of your skin differance.. Love is is love... As they say Love has no boundries...

So the moral of this story is this... Don't let it bother you...don't act like their is a differance..and most people won't say a thing.. etc..except for those "AW's that think it's great that they speak their minds"..like it's a earned stupidity..

I've never heard of anyone being denied because of an age difference.

Bill

[Ken_Maria 0]

I was wondering if there were other members here who have gone through the K-1 process and have a significant age gap between one another. There are 27 years between my fiance and I and I'm afraid we may be treated differently/unfairly because of it (already experienced discrimination of sorts at the border with US Customs because of our age difference).

You do not mention your finacee's age, but if she is 21 or older there is usually not an issue with the interview. When they are between 18-20 there seems to be more proof of relationship and parental involvement involved in the process.

I assume you question is about the K1 process and not how you will be treated or viewed once back home? I am 20 yrs older than my finacee' and believe me I did not go looking for someone her age, it just happened naturally. We will face the looks and whispers when we get back to the mainland, but I am only concerned with US, and our families. So far our families are cool with it as long as we are happy. Good luck, Payato

[sarah and hicham 3]

I've never heard of anyone being denied because of an age difference.

Bill

Have you visited the ME/NA forum lately? It's a huge factor in those countries. I doubt it's a problem for Canada though.

[Ana and Dan 0]

When it comes to immigration, you are pretty much considered guilty until proven innocent. So while a 27 year age difference is certainly legal, there may be extra scrunity during the interview to prove that the relationship exists. You witnessed it at the border already, so there's no reason to think that it wouldn't happen at the consulate. Of course the interview may be short and sweet too. As long as you both convice them that your relationship is real, then who cares if they ask a few more questions....it's their job after all. Good luck!

Edited October 1, 2006 by Ana and Dan

[michellek1976 0]

I have heard of other couples being denied at the consulate interview because of the age difference. Right or wrong, I think large age differences do attract extra attention, particularly when the female is older or when the beneficiary is from a high fraud country.

I think a couple with an age difference needs to talk about it, laugh about it, and be totally comfortable with it so that when you reach the interview you don't appear nervous about the questioning.

[MariaEric 0]

I will be 24 next week, my fiance turned 43 this year, so we are about 19,5 years apart.Can this be a problem?Sure it may raise some eyebrows from some people but i doubt it will be a problem at all since the relationship is true and honest.

On a more personal note, we have never encountered anyone here or in the US that has said anything negative, not even a bad look, i think people can see there is nothing but love between us.

And while i think every case is different,and there is fraud in age gap relationships and not age gap relationships, there are patterns taken into consideration such as the country of origin of the beneficiary, how big is tha gap, who is the older party etc...

I do think however, people from countries in the EU ,such as myself, if we were to have a convenience relationship we would choose someone from some country in the EU where we would not have to go through all this mess. Coming to the US has no sense no matter how you look at it if it is not for love, we just cannot choose who we fall in love with, and i am just not going to deny myself the chance of being happy for being in a relationship that is not the norm.

These are us

Edited October 1, 2006 by MariaEric

[KarenCee 3]

To answer the OP's question: Age difference issues quite possibly vary from consulate to consulate. As for our experience, my husband (then fiancé) is Canadian and we have a 14 yr difference. We experienced no problems. He went through Montréal for his K1 interview. No problems coming through customs or with any officer on trips. Best of luck to ya.

[JenT 0]

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.ph...=age+difference

[BJZags 17]

If your paperwork is in order, there should be no problem with age difference. On many of my trips to Manila, I have seen grandfathers in their 60's and 70's with their teen-age wives. If such an age difference is approved in a "high-fraud"country like the Philippines, than I don't think its an issue at all. It may raise eyebrows a bit, and cause higher scrutiny with the paperwork, but who cares. If the paperwork is solid, it won't matter.

[kaydee457 13]

My wifes age vs. mine has a 25yr difference. It is much more common to see older men and younger woman marrying than the reverse.

Given you're much older than your partner then you can be certain that you'll be treated differently; at the very least she can expect to answer many questions about the gap in age and should be prepared to answer them.

Since your fiance is Canadian though I personally don't think you'll have any problem.

[robacjd 1]

My fiancee is from the Philippines and she is 30 years old. I am from the US and I am 64 years old. There is a 34 year difference in our ages, but we don't see any problem in that. She wants to be with me and I want to be with her. I told her about how people think and feel about such an age difference over here, and she said she doesn't care what people say or think. To her, age is just a number. She says with my being much older than her, I know more about life and she doesn't have to worry about me cheating or lying to her, and she has seen how caring I am to her and her family. Her parents want nothing but the best for their daughter and they tell me they feel they have nothing to worry about as long as she and I love each other and take care of one another. The Philippine people have a different way of life and stronger family values, and the women take very good care of their husbands. (Something some of the the US people could learn from them.)

My K-1 has been approved and I will be going over to be with her while she goes through her part of the process. We have decided if she doesn't get approved because of the age difference or anything else, we will be married over there and I will move over there to be with her and her family.

[MN Vixen 0]

I have heard of other couples being denied at the consulate interview because of the age difference. Right or wrong, I think large age differences do attract extra attention, particularly when the female is older or when the beneficiary is from a high fraud country.

My husband and I didn't have any problems (I am the older one) but perhaps the reason is that he isn't from an apparent high-fraud country (he's from the UK).