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Filed: Citizen (apr) Country: Nigeria
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I am wondering if anyone had a situation similar to mine and going through K-1 visa process (I am not sure it counts but i will like my fellow VJ's on Nigeria portal to comment). My (USC) girlfriend is 7 years older. Our relationship is now 3 years old. I met her England,She has come to UK twice,celebrating the xmas with me last year. We have couple of evidence that our relationship is "real." Because of our age difference I expect the spotlight will be shown on us extra brightly. Anyone have any experiences/advice to relate?

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Age difference is more country/cultural, for some no issue at all, for others .. red flags. Maybe move this post to the specific country sub-forum.

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Filed: K-1 Visa Country: Peru
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7 years? Are you serious? That is pretty typical. A 25 year difference, now THAT might raise an eyebrow or two, but not all of them. A 60 year difference, well, that would probably get a question, but maybe not. Look through the pictures on here that folks have posted in the gallery (upper left corner) and see how common an apparent age difference is. That should give you all the peace of mind you need. :) (My sister's Brittish husband is 8 years her junior.)

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I am wondering if anyone had a situation similar to mine and going through K-1 visa process (I am not sure it counts but i will like my fellow VJ's on Nigeria portal to comment). My (USC) girlfriend is 7 years older. Our relationship is now 3 years old. I met her England,She has come to UK twice,celebrating the xmas with me last year. We have couple of evidence that our relationship is "real." Because of our age difference I expect the spotlight will be shown on us extra brightly. Anyone have any experiences/advice to relate?

The experiences of people filing through Nigeria will have no relevance to yours going through London.

I am six years older than my husband. London consulate didn't ask about this at all. Usually never does.

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I am wondering if anyone had a situation similar to mine and going through K-1 visa process (I am not sure it counts but i will like my fellow VJ's on Nigeria portal to comment). My (USC) girlfriend is 7 years older. Our relationship is now 3 years old. I met her England,She has come to UK twice,celebrating the xmas with me last year. We have couple of evidence that our relationship is "real." Because of our age difference I expect the spotlight will be shown on us extra brightly. Anyone have any experiences/advice to relate?

How old are you? Maybe if you are 14 and she is 21 it would be a problem. :)

My husband is 8 years older than me. When we applied I was 26, he was 34. It is culturally normal so there's no problem.

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How old are you? Maybe if you are 14 and she is 21 it would be a problem. :)

My husband is 8 years older than me. When we applied I was 26, he was 34. It is culturally normal so there's no problem.

Lol.we are 30(man) 37(woman).i was just asking to know what's going on.

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The experiences of people filing through Nigeria will have no relevance to yours going through London.

I am six years older than my husband. London consulate didn't ask about this at all. Usually never does.

i am filing through Nigeria and not UK.I am not a resident in the UK.That was why i asked to know what to expect from them

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i am filing through Nigeria and not UK.I am not a resident in the UK.

Ummm...then why did you state in your profile that the UK is where you are coming from. Look at your image over there to the left. See that flag? That is why everyone thinks you are looking at the requirements from England.

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Lol.we are 30(man) 37(woman).i was just asking to know what's going on.

I see you have changed your flag. Your age difference is normal in the UK...I have no idea about Nigeria. I hope you get some good answers!

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My understanding is that age difference is only a problem when it goes against the beneficiary's cultural norms. For example, in Morocco (where my fiance is from) having children is a very important part of a relationship and is considered something not to be overlooked. It would be considered very unusual for a Moroccan man to "be okay with" not having children of his own one day. This is part of his cultural upbringing and, I believe, an important part of his religion as well. As such, when young Moroccan men (low to mid 30's in age) are willing to marry a woman who's pushing 50, that's a red flag because she can't have children and it seems unlikely to an outsider that a Moroccan man would start a relationship with someone who will never be able to bare him children. I don't know what it's like in Nigeria, but I'd think that your age difference isn't great enough to cause concern regardless of your nationality, but the fact that you're in UK helps even more, IMO.

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My understanding is that age difference is only a problem when it goes against the beneficiary's cultural norms. For example, in Morocco (where my fiance is from) having children is a very important part of a relationship and is considered something not to be overlooked. It would be considered very unusual for a Moroccan man to "be okay with" not having children of his own one day. This is part of his cultural upbringing and, I believe, an important part of his religion as well. As such, when young Moroccan men (low to mid 30's in age) are willing to marry a woman who's pushing 50, that's a red flag because she can't have children and it seems unlikely to an outsider that a Moroccan man would start a relationship with someone who will never be able to bare him children. I don't know what it's like in Nigeria, but I'd think that your age difference isn't great enough to cause concern regardless of your nationality, but the fact that you're in UK helps even more, IMO.

Best of luck!

Amen sista! Well put and in fact that was one of the questions that was asked of my then fiance in Morocco.

OP~ does not sound like there will be an age issue especially a red flag. Good Luck and keep thinking of things ahead of time for your interview!!!

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Filed: IR-1/CR-1 Visa Country: Nigeria
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No its not a problem in the Lagos Consulate as far as you can prove genuine relationship

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My understanding is that age difference is only a problem when it goes against the beneficiary's cultural norms. For example, in Morocco (where my fiance is from) having children is a very important part of a relationship and is considered something not to be overlooked. It would be considered very unusual for a Moroccan man to "be okay with" not having children of his own one day. This is part of his cultural upbringing and, I believe, an important part of his religion as well. As such, when young Moroccan men (low to mid 30's in age) are willing to marry a woman who's pushing 50, that's a red flag because she can't have children and it seems unlikely to an outsider that a Moroccan man would start a relationship with someone who will never be able to bare him children. I don't know what it's like in Nigeria, but I'd think that your age difference isn't great enough to cause concern regardless of your nationality, but the fact that you're in UK helps even more, IMO.

Best of luck!

Hello again., just wanted to add our experience here when it comes to age difference. I am 45 and my husband is 31, during his interview at the Embassy in Casa Morocco, he was only asked if our age difference could be an issue. He was never asked about having children or anything related to this topic. Also, during our AOS interview last week, all that was asked once again has age difference been an issue. Also, so many here with a greater age difference have been approved with actually no issues of age and having children. I have a close friend here who also was 14 years older, never could have children again, has 3 children from previous marriage, and her husband was approved with flying colors and never asked about this at all. Heck, there has been a case here where a lady was 25 years older then her fiance in Morocco and they too were approved and are still married and it's been over 5 years now.

Regarding children, in every culture it normal to marry and have children. My husband just said to me, do you think my mother and father raised me from a small child saying "you have to marry and have children". Nope... Actually, my husband said he didn't want to marry a woman who only wanted to stay at home and have children and never educate herself with a college degree of some type. It seems young women in other countries including his own country seek this type of lifestyle and it was just not for him he said.

Even here in America, we have a choice .... you can marry or not marry, you can have children or decide not to have children, it's all the same with all cultures. I never look at other cultures and try to assume what they are thinking since i was never raised or lived in another country except America. We tend to over analyze and judge way too much here in America about other countries and believe way to much what others say.

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I also wanted to add to this topic:

Why do we always speak about age and child bearing amongst the Islamic culture being WRONG, when what we should emphasize what is not normal is drinking, smoking, sex before marriage, not praying, marrying someone besides the people of The Book (jewish and christians).

Does Islam or the Islamic Culture teach the above ???? or not.???

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