How do u cope?

[shann76 0]

How do u cope being away from your loved one? We use webcam, both have them running24/7, even when we arent home, and of course the phone. But i all too often find myself bawling in hysterics,needing to be with my husband. Like when i see someone i know, and they ask " why are u still here, when are you leaving" I just don't know what to say anymore without crying. What are some things you do to get your mind off the process, even if for just a short while?

[gugu24 0]

join some activities.

1. try to find extra job few hours a day

2. join a language classes espacialy spanish bcxz its a great help in states.

3. join a club like gym, sports, dancing, outdoor activity club like hiking, camping.

4. work as volunteer for other poeple.

5. read american history and other books bcz usa is a place of media, you know something good, you can use it anywhere. sorry no offense most of the americans dont know their history much so you can have extra benifit.

[aj1 1]

join some activities.

1. try to find extra job few hours a day

2. join a language classes espacialy spanish bcxz its a great help in states.

3. join a club like gym, sports, dancing, outdoor activity club like hiking, camping.

4. work as volunteer for other poeple.

5. read american history and other books bcz usa is a place of media, you know something good, you can use it anywhere. sorry no offense most of the americans dont know their history much so you can have extra benifit.

There really is no easy answer to this. I have not seen my love for 9 months and its very hard. No matter what you try to do at the end of the night when you go to sleep you are left with your thoughts alone. I never thought in my life that i would ever or could endure so much mental agony, and pain. The only thing that keeps me going is my love for him and knowing how we feel about each other, and my family is very supportive and try to help me, and my kids really help me alot. I try really hard to spend alot of time with them and do alot of things with them also. And mostly i pray alot. Everyday when i wake up i say to myself that i am one day closer to my baby. You will get through it we all do but it just takes time to get there. Just be strong and try to pray alot. Invest time in doing things that you enjoy in your free time if you can. You will make it just hang in there.

AJ1

[kirk and Jenny 0]

My ways of coping are totally unhealthy and should not be passed on.

[Elphie 0]

How do u cope being away from your loved one? We use webcam, both have them running24/7, even when we arent home, and of course the phone. But i all too often find myself bawling in hysterics,needing to be with my husband. Like when i see someone i know, and they ask " why are u still here, when are you leaving" I just don't know what to say anymore without crying. What are some things you do to get your mind off the process, even if for just a short while?

I know exactly how you feel. It is very hard to be so far away from the one you love. I just keep reminding myself that the separation won't last forever, that one day we will be together everyday and when that day comes it won't be taken for granted, that is for sure. Some days it is very hard to keep your chin up & try to stay positive though. There are times when no matter how much I tell myself that it won't last forever that I cry and feel depressed because I want to be with him so badly. I just know that in the end it will be worth it because if we can get through this time then I think we can get through just about anything.

[aliciaandfran 0]

I spend a fortune on calling cards... I work a lot... I read visajourney and try to glean helpful hints while preparing my K-1...We chat with cameras when we can, when we're not working. I don't know how I cope...I do good for a few months and then I feel a little hopeless and then I tell myself it won't be much longer...I don't know. I guess we all do the best we can.

[shann76 0]

join some activities.

1. try to find extra job few hours a day

2. join a language classes espacialy spanish bcxz its a great help in states.

3. join a club like gym, sports, dancing, outdoor activity club like hiking, camping.

4. work as volunteer for other poeple.

5. read american history and other books bcz usa is a place of media, you know something good, you can use it anywhere. sorry no offense most of the americans dont know their history much so you can have extra benifit.

There really is no easy answer to this. I have not seen my love for 9 months and its very hard. No matter what you try to do at the end of the night when you go to sleep you are left with your thoughts alone. I never thought in my life that i would ever or could endure so much mental agony, and pain. The only thing that keeps me going is my love for him and knowing how we feel about each other, and my family is very supportive and try to help me, and my kids really help me alot. I try really hard to spend alot of time with them and do alot of things with them also. And mostly i pray alot. Everyday when i wake up i say to myself that i am one day closer to my baby. You will get through it we all do but it just takes time to get there. Just be strong and try to pray alot. Invest time in doing things that you enjoy in your free time if you can. You will make it just hang in there.

AJ1

I know what u mean, he is the last i think about at night, and the first when i open my eyes. This is the most painful thing i have ever endured,an emotional rollercoaster. My kids keep me busy too, but my son especially makes me think of my husband. This is so painful.

My ways of coping are totally unhealthy and should not be passed on.

I understand. Eating reeses peanut butter cups isnt helping me lol

[aj1 1]

join some activities.

1. try to find extra job few hours a day

2. join a language classes espacialy spanish bcxz its a great help in states.

3. join a club like gym, sports, dancing, outdoor activity club like hiking, camping.

4. work as volunteer for other poeple.

5. read american history and other books bcz usa is a place of media, you know something good, you can use it anywhere. sorry no offense most of the americans dont know their history much so you can have extra benifit.

There really is no easy answer to this. I have not seen my love for 9 months and its very hard. No matter what you try to do at the end of the night when you go to sleep you are left with your thoughts alone. I never thought in my life that i would ever or could endure so much mental agony, and pain. The only thing that keeps me going is my love for him and knowing how we feel about each other, and my family is very supportive and try to help me, and my kids really help me alot. I try really hard to spend alot of time with them and do alot of things with them also. And mostly i pray alot. Everyday when i wake up i say to myself that i am one day closer to my baby. You will get through it we all do but it just takes time to get there. Just be strong and try to pray alot. Invest time in doing things that you enjoy in your free time if you can. You will make it just hang in there.

AJ1

I know what u mean, he is the last i think about at night, and the first when i open my eyes. This is the most painful thing i have ever endured,an emotional rollercoaster. My kids keep me busy too, but my son especially makes me think of my husband. This is so painful.

My ways of coping are totally unhealthy and should not be passed on.

I understand. Eating reeses peanut butter cups isnt helping me lol

lol don't feel bad i eat them alot too.

[shann76 0]

How do u cope being away from your loved one? We use webcam, both have them running24/7, even when we arent home, and of course the phone. But i all too often find myself bawling in hysterics,needing to be with my husband. Like when i see someone i know, and they ask " why are u still here, when are you leaving" I just don't know what to say anymore without crying. What are some things you do to get your mind off the process, even if for just a short while?

I know exactly how you feel. It is very hard to be so far away from the one you love. I just keep reminding myself that the separation won't last forever, that one day we will be together everyday and when that day comes it won't be taken for granted, that is for sure. Some days it is very hard to keep your chin up & try to stay positive though. There are times when no matter how much I tell myself that it won't last forever that I cry and feel depressed because I want to be with him so badly. I just know that in the end it will be worth it because if we can get through this time then I think we can get through just about anything.

No it won't last forever, but even a day is too long, and you are so right about taking things for granted. we cherish every second that we do get to spend together, I try to think that which does not kill us makes us stronger,especially our relationship

[aj1 1]

How do u cope being away from your loved one? We use webcam, both have them running24/7, even when we arent home, and of course the phone. But i all too often find myself bawling in hysterics,needing to be with my husband. Like when i see someone i know, and they ask " why are u still here, when are you leaving" I just don't know what to say anymore without crying. What are some things you do to get your mind off the process, even if for just a short while?

I know exactly how you feel. It is very hard to be so far away from the one you love. I just keep reminding myself that the separation won't last forever, that one day we will be together everyday and when that day comes it won't be taken for granted, that is for sure. Some days it is very hard to keep your chin up & try to stay positive though. There are times when no matter how much I tell myself that it won't last forever that I cry and feel depressed because I want to be with him so badly. I just know that in the end it will be worth it because if we can get through this time then I think we can get through just about anything.

No it won't last forever, but even a day is too long, and you are so right about taking things for granted. we cherish every second that we do get to spend together, I try to think that which does not kill us makes us stronger,especially our relationship

You are right. I can say this much that people who don't or who have never went through what we are going through with this process takes love for granted way to much. I used to until i met my love now i know what love really means!!!!!!!! that's for sure.

AJ1

[shann76 0]

I spend a fortune on calling cards... I work a lot... I read visajourney and try to glean helpful hints while preparing my K-1...We chat with cameras when we can, when we're not working. I don't know how I cope...I do good for a few months and then I feel a little hopeless and then I tell myself it won't be much longer...I don't know. I guess we all do the best we can.

I understand. Occasionally I have days where i actually smile, and at night i have such positive thoughts, that i can do this, i can do it and it will all be worth it. then i have days where icant stand another minute of pain.....

Where you live, can u get VOIP? Like vonage or sunrocket? we use that and it saves HUGE amounts of money. Hubby has the #, and for an extra $5 a month, he added a second number onto it, a number that is local for me, so i don't have any long distance charges and he can make unlimited calls to anywhere in the US and Canada.

How do u cope being away from your loved one? We use webcam, both have them running24/7, even when we arent home, and of course the phone. But i all too often find myself bawling in hysterics,needing to be with my husband. Like when i see someone i know, and they ask " why are u still here, when are you leaving" I just don't know what to say anymore without crying. What are some things you do to get your mind off the process, even if for just a short while?

I know exactly how you feel. It is very hard to be so far away from the one you love. I just keep reminding myself that the separation won't last forever, that one day we will be together everyday and when that day comes it won't be taken for granted, that is for sure. Some days it is very hard to keep your chin up & try to stay positive though. There are times when no matter how much I tell myself that it won't last forever that I cry and feel depressed because I want to be with him so badly. I just know that in the end it will be worth it because if we can get through this time then I think we can get through just about anything.

No it won't last forever, but even a day is too long, and you are so right about taking things for granted. we cherish every second that we do get to spend together, I try to think that which does not kill us makes us stronger,especially our relationship

You are right. I can say this much that people who don't or who have never went through what we are going through with this process takes love for granted way to much. I used to until i met my love now i know what love really means!!!!!!!! that's for sure.

AJ1

For granted is so very true!! Alot of my friends and coworkers thought i was mental to get married to aguy i met online, but the way i look at it is, we spent (and still do) about 5-8 hours a day, talking online, add that up day after day,and thats alot of getting to know someone time. When u meet someone in person and go on dates, you are always doing something, watching a movie, having dinner, hanging out with other people. Not much of that time is spent talking, 1on 1, like it is online. To me, long distane relationships like this have way more chance of succeeding, because you actually get to know the other person, you aren't distracted my your surroundings(i have no idea if that made any sense?lol)

[aj1 1]

I spend a fortune on calling cards... I work a lot... I read visajourney and try to glean helpful hints while preparing my K-1...We chat with cameras when we can, when we're not working. I don't know how I cope...I do good for a few months and then I feel a little hopeless and then I tell myself it won't be much longer...I don't know. I guess we all do the best we can.

I understand. Occasionally I have days where i actually smile, and at night i have such positive thoughts, that i can do this, i can do it and it will all be worth it. then i have days where icant stand another minute of pain.....

Where you live, can u get VOIP? Like vonage or sunrocket? we use that and it saves HUGE amounts of money. Hubby has the #, and for an extra $5 a month, he added a second number onto it, a number that is local for me, so i don't have any long distance charges and he can make unlimited calls to anywhere in the US and Canada.

I live in Pennsylvania i could get vonage i was not sure how good it was though i need to look into that for sure. I use www.paytone.com. I pay $5.00 for 34 min. i think there are better ways to get more calling time than this i just haven't found them yet. I can get my call history from the one calling card on this site that i use to show i call him the card is called Continental. My fiance is from Egypt so no matter how i call it gets expensive. Thanks for the advice about the vonage i will look into it for sure. But yeah they design this process to see if you are truly serious about your love for each other. I know we can make through anything if we get through this.

AJ1

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[shann76 0]

Seriously try vonage. I think it runs about 25 a month for north american calling, but i know you can add other countries to it. You can also get a 1-800 # added onto your account, 4.95/month for 100 mins, and 5cents a min after that, so he could call you, in case they dont have a local number for egypt.

[aj1 1]

Shann very true to your last comment about conversation. I think alot of couples don't talk alot as they should. Communication is One of the most important factors in a relationship. Through this process you definetly have a chance and all the time in the world to communicate and really get to know each other on alot of different levels.

AJ1