Should I rat on my scammer girlfriend?

[Roe 3]

Just be happy that you found out about her before you started the process

I agree... just be happy!~ Let it go... and move on!

[NoneYa 73]

I got scammed by a Filipina for a web cam (it was probably a man in hind sight). I put her name and picture on http://dragonladies.org/bbs/ and about 9 months later a guy contacted me and told me he suspected that this was the same girl that he had been dealing with. He told me he has already sent her over $ 20,000. I told him she was a fraud but the last time I spoke with him, he was still dealing with her and had only seen her on web cam a few times.

Americans are so stupid to the rest of the world and their scams. I am an American so I know this.

[NY_BX 397]

I got scammed by a Filipina for a web cam (it was probably a man in hind sight). I put her name and picture on http://dragonladies.org/bbs/ and about 9 months later a guy contacted me and told me he suspected that this was the same girl that he had been dealing with. He told me he has already sent her over $ 20,000. I told him she was a fraud but the last time I spoke with him, he was still dealing with her and had only seen her on web cam a few times.

Americans are so stupid to the rest of the world and their scams. I am an American so I know this.

I don't know if the generalization applies, but I must say I find it somewhat true. We get those emails about cashing checks worth millions and are left penniless. We meet folks (in US and abroad) that sweet talk us and whalaa! next thing you know we're in the craphole. Maybe we are too kind-hearted? I wish there was a educational campaign preventing americans into being scammed by LDR. Maybe there's one, I don't know.

That said, this case is, what a writer friend of mine would say, "sadlarious." HE sent her $20,000?

[Enigma11561 336]

freshaire,

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Look, you got scammed. You thought she would work out and then found you were betrayed.You are angry. Rightfully so. But there is little you can do about it. If you want to go to some anti scammer sites to have her name and photos listed, and it makes you feel better, then go for it. For all you know she might already be there, from a guy before you. I know some guys who were saved because another had posted their story. But there will be others after you who will fall into the same trap and you cannot be a savior to everyone. As far as saying something to an embassy, you can write a letter to them, as a form of catharsis, but I doubt it will do any good. But try to keep in mind this thought. These women will eventually screw up trying to juggle everything and in the end lose it all.

[I AM NOT THAT GUY 5,715]

No one in the government cares that your girlfreind was sleeping around. Why would they?

[freshaire 0]

OP.....Have you filed I-129F petition/s before?

Yes but it was 15 years ago. Is that relevant?

[Girl from Celebes 588]

I can't give you any idea what you should do to your girlfriend. I've only giving some point of view whoever read this thread. Be careful putting your pictures into social networking websites for example, Wayn, Tagged, or any others. People would use it to scammed out money. You do not know who takes your pictures in the massive world wide web nowadays. Remember blogger from Syria? . Scammers would never revealed themselves if they are think smarter than the victims. The blogger wasn't a scammer but just an example to give a warning that easy to fool another by using someone else pictures.

Stolen photographs

On June 8, Jelena Lečić, a Croatian national and expatriate in the United Kingdom, issued a statement that the pictures claiming to represent Arraf al Omari were actually of herself, forcing The Guardian to expunge and replace photos that had been from the newspaper's past articles.^{[31][32][17][33]} Lečić, who worked as an administrator at the Royal College of Physicians in London, was made aware of the issue by a friend, and appeared on the BBC's Newsnight to clarify that she had never known of the Syrian woman and that the usage of Lečić's personal images had been going on for some period of time.^[34][35]

Edited January 8, 2012 by Girl from Celebes

[Stu4Lee 66]

Yes but it was 15 years ago. Is that relevant?

Sorry, I think I may have got you mixed up with someone else who was a serial petitioner.

She cheated on you, unpleasant as that is, it's not a scam or crime.

As you said you were "weeks before we planned to submit documents", where is the scam??

[freshaire 0]

Sorry, I think I may have got you mixed up with someone else who was a serial petitioner.

She cheated on you, unpleasant as that is, it's not a scam or crime.

As you said you were "weeks before we planned to submit documents", where is the scam??

Of course maybe im too close to it, but I would assert this situation is not merely a matter of "a cheating woman",

as it is in the context of a 95% completed visa application, just short of mailing to Texas.

I really do want the Embassy to take note of this situation. By your reasoning, they will not unless i now

go ahead with the application so that it's "technically" a potential crime.

If I were sure this would not be "counted against me" as a second visa application, I would seriously consider

paying the fee and submitting the forms with her signature etc.

[VanessaTony 3,567]

Of course maybe im too close to it, but I would assert this situation is not merely a matter of "a cheating woman",

as it is in the context of a 95% completed visa application, just short of mailing to Texas.

I really do want the Embassy to take note of this situation. By your reasoning, they will not unless i now

go ahead with the application so that it's "technically" a potential crime.

If I were sure this would not be "counted against me" as a second visa application, I would seriously consider

paying the fee and submitting the forms with her signature etc.

There was a post sometime late last year where the guy went through the visa process, sent money for the medicals, and police checks, and I think even paid for her apartment and stuff while processing it all and when it came to the interview she told him she went and was denied and sent him *proof* in the form of an email from the consulate. Problem was the forwarded email didn't look right, the email address didn't look right, and he noticed the email was dated MONTHS ago. He posted the email here and asked about it and was advised it was a fake email. He called the embassy and was told that she never WENT to the interview.

Turned out he was a victim of a common "dating scam" in Russia/Ukraine. They aren't a high fraud visa country because they don't want visas, they just want people to send them money so they fake relationships. Sometimes involve visa stuff but because they don't actually want to MOVE to the US it's not considered a "visa scam", it's a money scam.

It seems like you're a victim of the same thing. The girl is real, she is just pretending and probably would have kept leading you on. Even applying for the visa and all that to get money and gifts from her "fiance". It could be that she's a visa scammer but it's more likely, given what you've said about her, that she's a money scammer. USCIS won't approve her visa, she probably won't even do what's required to be approved, but while it's all processing she'll get money. It's pretty good income so I'm told.

[Scafidi454 22]

Of course maybe im too close to it, but I would assert this situation is not merely a matter of "a cheating woman",

as it is in the context of a 95% completed visa application, just short of mailing to Texas.

I really do want the Embassy to take note of this situation. By your reasoning, they will not unless i now

go ahead with the application so that it's "technically" a potential crime.

If I were sure this would not be "counted against me" as a second visa application, I would seriously consider

paying the fee and submitting the forms with her signature etc.

So, i ask again, how did you find out about all of this? Was she unable to hide it from you when you visited? Did you follow her around? Did you just ask her? How did you two meet? Had you met in person before the long distance relationship? Did she deny everything at first? Where's your proof?

Edited January 9, 2012 by Scafidi454

[freshaire 0]

So, i ask again, how did you find out about all of this? Was she unable to hide it from you when you visited? Did you follow her around? Did you just ask her? How did you two meet? Had you met in person before the long distance relationship? Did she deny everything at first? Where's your proof?

We met online, and then met every 2-4 months in various locations around the world for over 2 years.

Yes she has continuously denied anything except a clean clear history of loyalty (obviously she is the most

adept liar I have ever met) and yes i have much evidence about her carnal infidelities plus other possible

plans for when she gets established in the US.

While I do appreciate advice, I would rather not divulge too much about how and what kind of information. I can say

that it includes letters and photos that would not be compatible with the intention of coming to the US to marry.

[Stu4Lee 66]

Of course maybe im too close to it, but I would assert this situation is not merely a matter of "a cheating woman",

as it is in the context of a 95% completed visa application, just short of mailing to Texas.

I really do want the Embassy to take note of this situation. By your reasoning, they will not unless i now

go ahead with the application so that it's "technically" a potential crime.

If I were sure this would not be "counted against me" as a second visa application, I would seriously consider

paying the fee and submitting the forms with her signature etc.

OMG I believe you would consider it.

I'm pretty sure the cost of a stamp is less than a/another visa fee though.

Good luck

[Boiler 45,499]

There was the one from Colombia, apparently she had 2 running at the same time.

It seemed however she did want to move, whichever one came through first.