Irritated

[Messybrownhair 251]

Could it be that she just doesnt want a weekend without you? I have made lots of good girlfriends here but still, if they invited me to a weekend getaway I will say no because I wouldnt wanna leave my hubby alone at home while I am out having fun. Maybe she feels the same way

[TiklingGuy 211]

Could it be that she just doesnt want a weekend without you? I have made lots of good girlfriends here but still, if they invited me to a weekend getaway I will say no because I wouldnt wanna leave my hubby alone at home while I am out having fun. Maybe she feels the same way

i could understand that if that was the case. She just doesn't want to go unless her cousin goes with her. She said that she felt uncomfortable about it. I understand that as well. I would have went with her however i am a groomsman in a friends wedding this weekend. I just want her to experience life here and have some of her own memories with friends. I hate conditional relationships. I don't want her to be friends with my friends just because she is my wife. I want her to have her own relationship with them, not because of me. If she did, she would feel comfortable to go with them by herself. I know that will take time and i don't want to force anything on her. They love Monreal to death, she just needs more time i think. And she has all the time in the world. They are not going anywhere.

[gretchen_darren 67]

Dex,

I can see both sides here. i have been forming new friends in filipino cultural groups here in town. they are great groups and wonderful people. but to Gretchen she is still new to the area. gretchen is more comfortable with the "village family" still. We see the other groups and mingle with them. But to gretchen they are much more "american" then she is used to yet. It is computability levels. You seem like the same boat I am in. You want her to go out and do things, but you are afraid she is using you as a crutch or being extremely dependent on you.

the other thing to think of is food. How much filipino food does monreal eat? going away for a day or a weekend may have also been affected by the food she eats which is different. Gretchen is taking time to warm up to food. Just a little at a time. the big part has been just the spending of money to go out. Gretchen is getting better at worrying less about money. but the big thing is the food. gretchen likes going over to the "village family" house because they eat a lot of Filipino food. i know when I go there, I expect to be in the Philippines again for food. Just take it one day at a time. As a marine, you are taught to adapt to your surroundings. No complaints. Same with a Filipina. However, she is probably jsut going through a lot. Remeber not much of vinegar or turpentine smells for food anymore. So the "warm" wonderful "aromas" of home are missing. Things which we consider great tasting, may not be so to our Filipina. (and of course the same goes for us on what they eat.)

Someday you will be wishing for these days again..... Are you teaching her to drive yet???

[Tahoma 2,292]

...the other thing to think of is food.

...Gretchen is taking time to warm up to food.

...As a marine, you are taught to adapt to your surroundings. No complaints. Same with a Filipina.

...Things which we consider great tasting, may not be so to our Filipina. (and of course the same goes for us on what they eat.)

NEWS FLASH: Gretchen is not in the marines!

And for heaven's sake, I hope Gretchen never adapts to your diet !!!

[southcalhog 43]

Dex give her time I am sure she will come around.She just need to adjust to others and without her cousin going with her I would imagine she dosent feel comfortable!

You right Tahoma, Gretchen is NOT in the marines, no need to treat her as such!

[TiklingGuy 211]

Dex,

I can see both sides here. i have been forming new friends in filipino cultural groups here in town. they are great groups and wonderful people. but to Gretchen she is still new to the area. gretchen is more comfortable with the "village family" still. We see the other groups and mingle with them. But to gretchen they are much more "american" then she is used to yet. It is computability levels. You seem like the same boat I am in. You want her to go out and do things, but you are afraid she is using you as a crutch or being extremely dependent on you.

the other thing to think of is food. How much filipino food does monreal eat? going away for a day or a weekend may have also been affected by the food she eats which is different. Gretchen is taking time to warm up to food. Just a little at a time. the big part has been just the spending of money to go out. Gretchen is getting better at worrying less about money. but the big thing is the food. gretchen likes going over to the "village family" house because they eat a lot of Filipino food. i know when I go there, I expect to be in the Philippines again for food. Just take it one day at a time. As a marine, you are taught to adapt to your surroundings. No complaints. Same with a Filipina. However, she is probably jsut going through a lot. Remeber not much of vinegar or turpentine smells for food anymore. So the "warm" wonderful "aromas" of home are missing. Things which we consider great tasting, may not be so to our Filipina. (and of course the same goes for us on what they eat.)

Someday you will be wishing for these days again..... Are you teaching her to drive yet???

She is the most pickiest eater i have ever seen. I mean Holy #######!! I never try and force her to eat something that she will not try, but i am sure if she gave it a chance she would like it or at least think that it wasn't as bad as she thought it would be. Thats the only thing we are divided on in the house. She will eat her philipina food and me and the kids will eat our food. I don't want it to be like that and neither does she, but it might be awhile before we get on the same page when it comes to everyone in the family eating the same thing for dinner. I am just looking at it as, "If that is what makes her comfortable for now then eat what you want''. In 20 years we will duke it out because of it, but for now i feel there are certain things about new culture adjustments that i will not step over the line and try and change.

As far as teaching her to drive.. I got her the driving manual for the state of Oklahoma. When she gets her GC hopefully here in a couple of weeks she can take the test to get her learners permit. I do not let her sit in the drivers seat by herself and drive because if she gets in a wreck and kills someone, that is an automatic 8 years in prison per person she kills. She would get hit with first degree manslaughter and there would be nothing i could do about it. I do however let her sit on my lap and drive, but that is only on the street that i live on which doesn't have any houses on it except mine. I am trying to get on the Oklahoma Highway Patrol so i am doing everything by the book.

Dex give her time I am sure she will come around.She just need to adjust to others and without her cousin going with her I would imagine she dosent feel comfortable!

She doesn't right now, but we have all the time in the world! My friends love her to death and they are not going anywhere. They understand.

[VanessaTony 3,567]

Loud and Proud till the day i die, Motivated and Semper Fi!!

I told my hubby this one and he's never heard it

"Born to Fight, Trained to Kill, Ready to Die but Never Will"

[TiklingGuy 211]

First phase it broke me down... Second phase i start come around... Third phase i am lean and mean... Graduation standing tall in my greens... To anybody who asks me why... Here's to them, hear my reply... I'll be a Marine till the day i Die... Motivated and Semper Fi!!!

[southcalhog 43]

She is the most pickiest eater i have ever seen. I mean Holy #######!! I never try and force her to eat something that she will not try, but i am sure if she gave it a chance she would like it or at least think that it wasn't as bad as she thought it would be. Thats the only thing we are divided on in the house. She will eat her philipina food and me and the kids will eat our food. I don't want it to be like that and neither does she, but it might be awhile before we get on the same page when it comes to everyone in the family eating the same thing for dinner. I am just looking at it as, "If that is what makes her comfortable for now then eat what you want''. In 20 years we will duke it out because of it, but for now i feel there are certain things about new culture adjustments that i will not step over the line and try and change.

As far as teaching her to drive.. I got her the driving manual for the state of Oklahoma. When she gets her GC hopefully here in a couple of weeks she can take the test to get her learners permit. I do not let her sit in the drivers seat by herself and drive because if she gets in a wreck and kills someone, that is an automatic 8 years in prison per person she kills. She would get hit with first degree manslaughter and there would be nothing i could do about it. I do however let her sit on my lap and drive, but that is only on the street that i live on which doesn't have any houses on it except mine. I am trying to get on the Oklahoma Highway Patrol so i am doing everything by the book.

She doesn't right now, but we have all the time in the world! My friends love her to death and they are not going anywhere. They understand.

[Dan and Judy 614]

Since Monreal got here i have tried to get her to try new things and meet new people. Not forcing anything on her, just always keeping the door open for new things. I know in good time she will be completely out of her shell. Monreal's cousin is here in the same town we are in and she is married to a close friend of mine, which through marriage makes him my cousin. My friend has sisters that are in business together and are very well off. Since Monreal got here they have been trying to be a really good friend to her. They will spoil her every time she goes over to their house. They are much older than her and they just love to do it because their hearts are huge. Monreal is not the type of woman that needs anything from anybody, however she knows what blessings are and graciously accepts it. This weekend my friends sisters (which are friends of mine also) are trying to invite Monreal and her cousin to a big girl weekend getaway to some fancy resort in Kansas City. This place has an indoor water park, probably hair and nails and all that ####### women due. Monreal's cousin said no and because of that Monreal said no. They were wanting to pay for everything for Monreal and her cousin. They did not say no because of the money, but because her cousin says that she feels lazy and so does Monreal. This really irritates me because i feel like it is an insult to my friends sisters who are only trying to be their friend and give them an exciting weekend. IMO its like spending all day helping someone move their home for free and then at the end of the day they tell you that you did a terrible job.

Monreal and I have an awesome relationship. I am just frustrated because she doesn't see that when somebody wants to do something special for you, the appropriate thing is to greatfully accept it. And if you cannot, then be respectfull enough to offer the person a good reason why you can't.

I am sure i have some spelling errors on this, but i am to lazy to correct them.

She has nothing in common with these "much older" ladies except you. It is just silly to expect them to become best bud's. Imagine how much fun it would be for you to go spend a special weekend with her great uncle George who is 20 years older than you and lives on a sugar plantation. Just you and him kicking back in your hammocks sipping tuba and exchanging war stories.

Imagine not only getting to spend the weekend with him, but having him live close by so he could stop by whenever he felt like it and insist that you stop by his place to catch the latest spider fight.

And then to top it off, imagine your wife bitching at you because you don't seem sufficiently grateful for his lavish attention.