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[az110965 252]

Newbe, you sure are correct. My fiancee is from a Big City and I live in a rural area. Also she is from 80 degree daily temp city whereas we have snow and 15 degrees here. Not a nice welcome for her.

She complains alot about not being able to walk to a store and see lots of people everywhere like in her city.

She does not seem to have any interest in getting the green card as others keep saying here.

She tells me often that if I do not want to marry bring her to the airport and she will go back to her country.

She has meet my family many times and tells me she loves to spend time with them.

She has always been in independent girl and I think she is having a hard time adjusting to living with me. She keeps telling me to give her time and she will adjust . Right now she treats me more like a good friend then a fiance.

This woman has changed A LOT. I dated her for more then 2 years and she was an angel in her own country.

She is very friendly for example makes me dinner and lunch and cleans the clothes. But she does not seem to show love. I ask her about it and she just says she needs time to feel comfortable here.

someone mentioned she is entitled to 50% of my things, income? if we get married? What about a prenup agreement? Does that not prevent her from getting 50% of everything?

Veniya...

You seem like a nice enough guy, oblivious to what's really happening - but nice nevertheless.

Of course she is facing culture shock coming to a brand new environment, but her actions to this point do NOT speak to a woman who is in love and looking towards the future.

Even under the best circumstances there is an adjustment period involved, but her actions before and now don't indicate her having troubles adjusting - they show a woman who is planning HER future, not yours and hers together.

She is not displaying any typical latina emotions (ie: passion, loyalty, posessiveness, etc). You yourself stated she has changed ALOT since the time you met her in Colombia - and it IS normal for some things to change once she arrives, but it's not normal for a woman who supposedly loved you enough to give up her family and friends to change every aspect of her personality.

The 90 day clock is ticking, has been for a while now. Regardless of what she says, she will not be so willing to just get on a plane if you decide you don't want to marry her - her actions to you when she disappeared speak to that. And if you really think she has no interest in a green card you need to sit down with a professional therapist because you are delusional.

Her motives are plain to see for those of us who aren't close to the situation. You need to wake up and examine what clues she's giving - because for anyone else but you they'd see the red flags all over the place...

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

Newbe, you sure are correct. My fiancee is from a Big City and I live in a rural area. Also she is from 80 degree daily temp city whereas we have snow and 15 degrees here. Not a nice welcome for her.

She complains alot about not being able to walk to a store and see lots of people everywhere like in her city.

She does not seem to have any interest in getting the green card as others keep saying here.

She tells me often that if I do not want to marry bring her to the airport and she will go back to her country.

She has meet my family many times and tells me she loves to spend time with them.

She has always been in independent girl and I think she is having a hard time adjusting to living with me. She keeps telling me to give her time and she will adjust . Right now she treats me more like a good friend then a fiance.

This woman has changed A LOT. I dated her for more then 2 years and she was an angel in her own country.

She is very friendly for example makes me dinner and lunch and cleans the clothes. But she does not seem to show love. I ask her about it and she just says she needs time to feel comfortable here.

someone mentioned she is entitled to 50% of my things, income? if we get married? What about a prenup agreement? Does that not prevent her from getting 50% of everything?

Veniya. "Newbie" is not a "newbie". "Newbie" has been around in many names for a long time (check the hearts in his member name and check member name history) He is being sarcastic. You can read more of his prose, mostly in the Politics and Religion forum.

Your girl did a pre-planned "runner", but it was poorly planned, and she was wised up as to what she must do in order to stay here. Just be prepared and protect yourself, her behavior is not that of somoene that cares for you and it devoted to making a life with you.

[jojolicious 38]

Newbe, you sure are correct. My fiancee is from a Big City and I live in a rural area. Also she is from 80 degree daily temp city whereas we have snow and 15 degrees here. Not a nice welcome for her.

She complains alot about not being able to walk to a store and see lots of people everywhere like in her city.

She does not seem to have any interest in getting the green card as others keep saying here.

She tells me often that if I do not want to marry bring her to the airport and she will go back to her country.

She has meet my family many times and tells me she loves to spend time with them.

She has always been in independent girl and I think she is having a hard time adjusting to living with me. She keeps telling me to give her time and she will adjust . Right now she treats me more like a good friend then a fiance.

This woman has changed A LOT. I dated her for more then 2 years and she was an angel in her own country.

She is very friendly for example makes me dinner and lunch and cleans the clothes. But she does not seem to show love. I ask her about it and she just says she needs time to feel comfortable here.

someone mentioned she is entitled to 50% of my things, income? if we get married? What about a prenup agreement? Does that not prevent her from getting 50% of everything?

Why would you want to marry someone who is simply like a roommate who happens to do chores around the house? Actions speak louder than words. If she's not showing love there is the possibility that it's because she's not in love.

I'm not trying to be harsh. I'm just trying to let you see the situation through an outsider's eyes. You clearly love her but I always say love is a two-way street and you are obviously having doubts regarding whether you really should marry her.

Tell her you'll book a ticket for her to go home and you'll work on your relationship from there then re-file. See what she says after that. See what she does.

[az110965 252]

Why would you want to marry someone who is simply like a roommate who happens to do chores around the house? Actions speak louder than words. If she's not showing love there is the possibility that it's because she's not in love.

I'm not trying to be harsh. I'm just trying to let you see the situation through an outsider's eyes. You clearly love her but I always say love is a two-way street and you are obviously having doubts regarding whether you really should marry her.

Tell her you'll book a ticket for her to go home and you'll work on your relationship from there then re-file. See what she says after that. See what she does.

But who will cook and clean the housework in the meanwhile?

[jojolicious 38]

But who will cook and clean the housework in the meanwhile?

I would say he could seek assistance from that very helpful cousin but I'm still not quite sure what gender the cousin is...

[az110965 252]

I would say he could seek assistance from that very helpful cousin but I'm still not quite sure what gender the cousin is...

Oh, you can be VERY sure what gender the cousin is...

[I AM NOT THAT GUY 5,715]

Oh, you can be VERY sure what gender the cousin is...

You guys are so heartless! Let's find out if the OP has been getting any since she came back. That right there should tell you whether she is a keeper or not.

[az110965 252]

You guys are so heartless! Let's find out if the OP has been getting any since she came back. That right there should tell you whether she is a keeper or not.

"She is very friendly for example makes me dinner and lunch and cleans the clothes. But she does not seem to show love. I ask her about it and she just says she needs time to feel comfortable here".

Any other questions?

[I AM NOT THAT GUY 5,715]

"She is very friendly for example makes me dinner and lunch and cleans the clothes. But she does not seem to show love. I ask her about it and she just says she needs time to feel comfortable here".

Any other questions?

How long has she been back? If it's been more than a week, kick her to the curb. That's a part of the wifely duties as much as washing the dishes and making sandwiches.

[felo391971 4]

For the house cleaning get a cleaning lady .

For the Food go to Latin Restaurant.

For female friend w. benefits well there is plenty to go around all over the USA .

All this is cheaper and lest Stress that w. you are doing .

You need to love your self more and give yourself some value as a person and stop putting this women in a pedestal and continue been so blind.

You maybe a really nice guy however this situation is way pass that.

Plus stop creating new names and filling the forums w. the same story .

[Martha&Alex 5]

Excellent advice - I hope the OP takes it. I remember the tone of the former post and it was not good.

Granted, there are always adjustments that a newly arrived fiance must make, but to just up and leave without any notice does not bode well. When you add in ALL the cell phone activity with other men, that's inexcusable.

I wonder if the OP's fiance did some research while gone and found out she needs to get married to adjust status.

i wonder if he called the number and found out it was from the family or if in reality it was another guy, and you are so right that other post didn't sound right. even if she was going to her family 1. why she left n didn't let him know 2. why didn't she pick up her phone 3. why take all the luggage.