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[rhiz27 1]

Hi!Any one here know the legal things...Im gonna ask if i can sue my husband for keeping and playing me for many years and now he leave me.Im a filipina and married with the american citizen,all he did to me was lied.we got married here in philippines.thanks

[together4evr 360]

Hi Rhiz,

I have not heard from you since September. Did you guys try to work it out or has he still ignored you all this time? Did he tell you it is over now? Will he give you the divorce? Did you go to the US consulate and ask them what you can do? You have been together 5 years? How long have you been married?

Did he say that he NEVER sent your papers or is he still saying he sent them?

Also, you never answered a question people asked in September....How often did he visit since marriage?

I do not know if you can get your marriage annuled without him but I hope so. Please ask the embassy in your town.

Good Luck

[InHisTime 110]

Hi!Any one here know the legal things...Im gonna ask if i can sue my husband for keeping and playing me for many years and now he leave me.Im a filipina and married with the american citizen,all he did to me was lied.we got married here in philippines.thanks

Hello "rhiz27" ! First of all, I'm very sorry for what you are going through. I have read your previous posts. I think you have done your best to work out on your marriage. And I feel you don't deserve this kind of man in your life. I know it is hard, but, please be strong - MOVE ON, dear! God really loves you very much. God doesn't want you to continue your sufferings. I feel it is not God's plan for you. God's plan will never put you down, will never harm you, it is prosperous, in short you won't experience this kind of trouble. Just thank God it happened on this very early stage of your marriage. If you could convince your husband to file a divorce in the US that would be a good legal step. The divorce decree should be recognized here in the Philippines. Another, you could also file for an annulment of marriage here in the Philippines, but, infidelity is not a ground for annulment. If you have a good lawyer, I'm sure you could work it out. But, you need a huge amount of money to file annulment.

I don't think it is a good idea to sue him. It will just entail another cost on your part, not only more money, but, more emotional struggle. And, it would be even harder for you to move on. It is better to MOVE ON completely and LIFT IT ALL TO GOD -- TRUST GOD as HE KNOWS BEST. And, hopefully, you could learn from this experience.

It's Christmas -- I guess you just have to love yourself and enjoy time with your family. I know it is easier said than done, but, we know this is the best thing to do. I'm sure God has greater things in store for you this coming year -- remember, we couldn't change someone -- but, we could change ourselves -- our hearts. Please take it as a blessing, Sis. I don't know you, but, hope this helps a little re lightening your heart. God bless you and your family. Merry Christmas ! Smile

[Penguin_ie 5,996]

*** Moving from CR-1 to Effects of Major Changes forum as OP is no longer on the spousal visa process ***

[VanessaTony 3,567]

Hi!Any one here know the legal things...Im gonna ask if i can sue my husband for keeping and playing me for many years and now he leave me.Im a filipina and married with the american citizen,all he did to me was lied.we got married here in philippines.thanks

You can try but I doubt you would win. There is no law against what he's done. "You could have left him" is what they would probably say. He wasn't holding you against your will. There are many examples I could use but basically if you want to try, try. Just don't be surprised when you end up having to pay HIS legal fees as well (which they can do and are more inclined to do if they consider the lawsuit frivolous).

[ceadsearc 516]

Doubtful. What you need is a divorce attorney.

[mounir412 101]

sorry to hear about your story ..you need to conatct the US embassay in phillipines

[rhiz27 1]

Hello to All,

Thank you so much,yes i did not come back this site after listening all your advices,I was try to work out my marriage with him,always contact him even he did not bother to reply and answering my messages,i feel like a really stupid and very cheap,even my parents told me do not contact my husband anymore,just forget him but seems i still in love with him,im still hoping that my marriage will workout but sometimes its get tiring,i was waiting him to tell me we are over but still did not hear from him but only this 20 of this month,he answer my called he said he dont know me,i feel shocked after years he dont know me already,so of course i introduced myself then he said we are over,he will leave me because i am accusing him have other girls,and i know its true im not only accusing him i have all evidince,he keep shouting me only and i said okay its fine,we are over i am asking Divorce from you,All he said he will give me divorce but he don t know when so all need is to wait him again.some friends told me i can sue my husband but i know it will be not good,also he did not bother to tell me if he submit my papers or not.Im sure he did not.Fot the past months,i already accept that i need to move on but sometimes its hard to forget but i think this is only the part of my life,im thinking all this years,he dont deserved with me i think,he is a jerk,all my friends told me.At this i am now doing good already move on and thanks to GOd still not late to know that i married a wrong man,Im not going to sue him or bother to contact him anymore he gave me the word that i want to hear,even my mother in law told me to leave and forget his son,don t deserve me.So,i will wait him to Divorce until march only,if not i will be the one who will work out on how to void my marriage with him,so far i am happy and content with my life,even no husband but i have a family that really love me ,that before he let me to forget my family but its good i did not leave my family.So,thanks to all reading and answering my post.Happy Christmas to ALL:-)

RHIZ

[TeapotGirl 66]

More than moving on, you're on a tough spot how to legally dissolve your marriage. If you do not have any means, come to any PAO (Public Attorney's Office)in your municipality and see what they say. I know you have to economically qualify but I am not sure if they accept annulment cases. Ask more than 2 lawyers because they may have different opinion. I know you still have to produce some money even if they'll accept your case so you have to financially prepare yourself. You have to work somewhere where you can earn a a lot of money to spend. Best of luck to you