Divorce Soon After Temporary Green Card

[JimVaPhuong 4,863]

E-mails can be edited, true; but it is not your copy what would matter. The originally sent e-mail will be stored at the internet provider server (both sender and receiver) and while it could technically could be tampered with by the provider's personnel, any half way decent provider will also have system generated logs that record any changes and which are quite difficult to falsify. And yes, the message could be spoofed (meaning, the sender could be changed), but as before, it could be traced down to the originating server. The reason spam is prevalent is because there are shady operations in countries where there are not much enforcement about spam; but it can still be traced to where it came from. It's just that at the origin, they don't care much about your/our anti-spam laws.

Some of this is true. Some not so much.

All email service providers do keep logs. Not all will keep copies of the emails. This is more prevalent with servers that manage corporate email accounts where liability might be an issue. Personal internet service providers keep logs, but generally don't keep copies of the email once the customer has deleted it or removed it from the server with an email client program. This is done to prevent invasion of privacy lawsuits, and also to avoid the burden of storing hundreds of millions of emails for an indefinite period of time.

Someone who has administrator privileges on a server will usually be able to read, edit, or delete any file on the server, including emails and log files. They are actually quite easy to falsify, but a court would usually need a reason to believe the ISP or the administrator has a motive to falsify them before they'd reject them as evidence. The "unbiased third party" rule is that evidence is presumed to be credible if the person providing the evidence is not a party to the court action, and has no motive to tamper with the evidence.

All internet traffic that travels through a proxy is generally traceable back to the proxy server, but no farther. The proxy server knows where the traffic came from, but it doesn't transmit that information downstream. Spammers often use at least one proxy server. Sometimes they bounce their traffic through several proxy servers. Tracking down the source of an email in that case is literally impossible without the cooperation of every administrator of every proxy server used. People who operate proxy servers do so specifically to prevent someone from being able to trace the source of the traffic. Proxy servers are usually located in countries where they are beyond the reach of law enforcement in either the source or destination country. Everything in an email header can be spoofed, so it's nearly impossible to trace spam from the information in the email header. The email service provider's logs will usually identify the IP address that sent the email, but that IP address will usually belong to a proxy server in some third world country.

[Ban Hammer 13,485]

If you have joint accounts you need to make a sole account. You can't just remove her from the account without her say-so so you need to make your own.

this depends on the wording of the account - "or" "and" - and the bank.

banks may remove one member if it's an "or" account.

[I AM NOT THAT GUY 5,715]

this depends on the wording of the account - "or" "and" - and the bank.

banks may remove one member if it's an "or" account.

I don't think you can remove somebody from an account without their consent, especially in the case of marriage in a community property state. I know at least in California, you cannot exclude a spouse from being a beneficiary of an account to which the spouse would be a beneficiary by law, for instance, a retirement account if the account holder should die.

[fang27 1]

I don't think you can remove somebody from an account without their consent, especially in the case of marriage in a community property state. I know at least in California, you cannot exclude a spouse from being a beneficiary of an account to which the spouse would be a beneficiary by law, for instance, a retirement account if the account holder should die.

The only account we have (er....guess that should be "had") together is a savings. And either one of us could close/empty the account, but we have to appear in person to do so. Already talked to the bank about that.

[I AM NOT THAT GUY 5,715]

The only account we have (er....guess that should be "had") together is a savings. And either one of us could close/empty the account, but we have to appear in person to do so. Already talked to the bank about that.

Makes sense.

[VanessaTony 3,567]

this depends on the wording of the account - "or" "and" - and the bank.

banks may remove one member if it's an "or" account.

Are you sure about this? I was told that the person being removed had to approve it, that the other party couldn't do so without the person to be removed's say-so.

[Ban Hammer 13,485]

Are you sure about this? I was told that the person being removed had to approve it, that the other party couldn't do so without the person to be removed's say-so.

when i went through the divorce circus, that's what i was told by usaa and nfcu - if either account had been "or" instead of "and" i coulda kept the same account. again, it depends on the bank.

[rlogan 2,036]

The thing about trying to hurt someone's feelings is that if you push a particular button and get the reaction you're looking for then you're gonna keep pushing that very button. This could explain why she kept on emphasizing that she used him for the GC.

Yea, and it weakens the opponent. Wears them down. Confuses them. It causes them to react emotionally too, and then the antagonist can blame the victim for being emotional.

So we remove ourselves from association with such people. If she loved the OP before, she sure doesn't now, so just move on. A person isn't obligated to deputize themselves as a federal police agent. It's the kind of thing where your loss is equal to the amount of time you put into it.

Sweet liberty beckons.