Older American WOmen

[NigeriaorBust 4,087]

You can and did marry who you chose. But it is part of the duty of the government is to protect the population of the country. The wishes of one person do no outway the needs of all. You are free to travel to any place that will allow you entry , you can marry any single person you please for the most part. You can not order the governmnet to let this person follow you home. You must satisfy the government that your marriage is for real and that person must pass the government back ground checks. You were given a homework assignment to bring proof that they accept, the first test they gave you an F now is the time to put that energy into getting an A for the final grade.

[seaguliable 6]

Why would you wish to marry a man that is 20 years younger ? You are in yr 50 's . I remember a movie ''How Stella found her groove back''. If I may ask --Are you a white Americian or African American ? Just asking . I am looking through the eyes of the Interviewing Officer. I see some ''red flags '' . Just saying .

Are you a white Americian or African American ? Just asking . I am looking through the eyes of the Interviewing Officer. I see some ''red flags '' . Just saying .....really it makes a differance if i am a white american woman or a black american woman???

You can and did marry who you chose. But it is part of the duty of the government is to protect the population of the country. The wishes of one person do no outway the needs of all. You are free to travel to any place that will allow you entry , you can marry any single person you please for the most part. You can not order the governmnet to let this person follow you home. You must satisfy the government that your marriage is for real and that person must pass the government back ground checks. You were given a homework assignment to bring proof that they accept, the first test they gave you an F now is the time to put that energy into getting an A for the final grade.

I did I got a F for being 50 and female

[seaguliable 6]

Is this a fake thread or you just don't understand? A "cougar" is an older woman, not at "guy" and the person who started this thread is a man from Ghana, not Nigeria as indicated in your profile.

[OnMyWayID 1,489]

I did I got a F for being 50 and female

.. and yet other white females your age with younger men get approved every single day. Instead of complaining about race, age, and gender you should see why others like you have made it and you did not.

I don't disagree with everything you are saying but spewing out constant streams of sexist/racist remarks (ie: "Lilly white male American self righteous.. ") and wallowing in victim-hood is not going to get you what you want. Your spouse was not denied because you are an older woman though I would hazard to guess that if you shared your attitude towards all things white that have a ####### with the CO it could have had a possible prejudicial effect.

Edited December 23, 2011 by OnMyWayID

[NigeriaorBust 4,087]

You got an F fot not overcoming the red flags. Sometime you earn the F on your own , sometimes the CO is just giving out F's. That is the past, what is your future ?

[seaguliable 6]

.. and yet other white females your age with younger men get approved every single day. Instead of complaining about race, age, and gender you should see why others like you have made it and you did not.

I don't disagree with everything you are saying but spewing out constant streams of sexist/racist remarks (ie: "Lilly white male American self righteous.. ") and wallowing in victim-hood is not going to get you what you want. Your spouse was not denied because you are an older woman though I would hazard to guess that if you shared your attitude towards all things white that have a ####### with the CO it could have had a possible prejudicial effect.

[seaguliable 6]

i am not the one to first spew for sexist issue to say because i am 20 years older in this forum and cant give birth to children is a reason that i am being denied really set me off .how would you like me to say you got little chance because your older and got a prostate problem ..i mean gezz..quote"The age difference (20 years) will continue to be a huge factor if she has passed the age of child-bearing. " i sound like a peice of chattel

Edited December 23, 2011 by seawash

[TBoneTX 45,284]

If a situation is outside the cultural norms of the local society, the CO is within reason to question it.

[seaguliable 6]

If a situation is outside the cultural norms of the local society, the CO is within reason to question it.

[seaguliable 6]

its not outside my social norms of usa for a older woman to be with a younger guy ,hower its against the law to allow my age and sex as a factor in any decision from a person representing the USA and to state it at a interview is insulting to me regardless if i am present or not

i bet you that reason is not placed on any peice of paper sent to me. Like I say any other reason i could have dealt easily with ,but belittling my age puts women in usa back in the dark ages .

[OnMyWayID 1,489]

i am not the one to first spew for sexist issue to say because i am 20 years older in this forum and cant give birth to children is a reason that i am being denied really set me off .how would you like me to say you got little chance because your older and got a prostate problem ..i mean gezz..quote"The age difference (20 years) will continue to be a huge factor if she has passed the age of child-bearing. " i sound like a piece of chattel

Agreed, that was a crappy comment for someone to make.. and if it was that was the reason given for the denial then it is a load of #######.. was it? Or was it thrown out in the interview to test your spouses response?

[seaguliable 6]

Agreed, that was a crappy comment for someone to make.. and if it was that was the reason given for the denial then it is a load of #######.. was it? Or was it thrown out in the interview to test your spouses response?

[seaguliable 6]

i am not sure ,it could have been to test his response about me ,but needless to say it should not be a factor in the interview what should be a factor is if the marriage has proof of being real.From what I am told it was not the proof that was questined .Everything that was asked for was produced .It was the age difference and they laughed at him for being with me ...some how i do not think laughing at a persons age is any part of testing.

[NigeriaorBust 4,087]

I see you haven't studied the culture there much. Even of the law states otherwise you will find that women in Nigeria are chattel. You do not inherit, you need your husbands permission to travel outside the country. The embassy is used to seeing the local cafe scammers talk some lonely older ( usually white ) women into parting with her money and her heart. They are probably 100% sure you believe the relationship is real. What they doubt is your husbands intentions. Half the people that get marriage based visas from Nigeria don't last more than 2 years after the Nigerian steps foot in the US. The stats for older woman / younger man are half that. What did you present above and beyond the basic requirements to show them your relationship is two way and for real. Personally I don't want anymore undie bombers or silly little boys that use fake boarding passes in the US. Maybe they need to raise the bar even higher.

[seaguliable 6]

I see you haven't studied the culture there much. Even of the law states otherwise you will find that women in Nigeria are chattel. You do not inherit, you need your husbands permission to travel outside the country. The embassy is used to seeing the local cafe scammers talk some lonely older ( usually white ) women into parting with her money and her heart. They are probably 100% sure you believe the relationship is real. What they doubt is your husbands intentions. Half the people that get marriage based visas from Nigeria don't last more than 2 years after the Nigerian steps foot in the US. The stats for older woman / younger man are half that. What did you present above and beyond the basic requirements to show them your relationship is two way and for real. Personally I don't want anymore undie bombers or silly little boys that use fake boarding passes in the US. Maybe they need to raise the bar even higher.