He TRied to make me believe i have been wrong

[alexzy75 1]

isnt that funny how a guy can be nice and suddenly changes his speech and becomes judgemental when you said you left someone for you have been betrayed....

and he said I am not christian as I say i am, because i left my ex that swore in front of god to tell me the truth, and lied abotu his porn activity, as an addiction..

maybe this guy (htat replied to me) is in denial of his won addiction too..like my ex

and try to make me believe it is normal...and I have been the one to be wrong....

maybe it is time to be realsitic with the porn industry in the US

http://nymag.com/nymetro/news/trends/n_9437/

when i read those kind of reaction, like his,..i see why the world or at least, the usa, so upside down...

no wonder why.

Edited December 22, 2011 by alexzy75

[one...two...tree 2,762]

Every guy has looked at porn and anyone who tries to tell you he hasn't is a liar.

Edited December 22, 2011 by Mister Fancypants

[Susita 175]

I'm so confused right now, how did you even understand what that said?

[one...two...tree 2,762]

I'm so confused right now, how did you even understand what that said?

I'm used to being around a lot Filipinos who speak like that. My hunch is the OP is from the Philippines.

[Susita 175]

I'm used to being around a lot Filipinos who speak like that. My hunch is the OP is from the Philippines.

Steven, you are a man of many talents!

[one...two...tree 2,762]

Steven, you are a man of many talents!

I could be wrong.

[Lizzy Baby 0]

Every guy has looked at porn and anyone who tries to tell you he hasn't is a liar.

I agree. And not because I am Filipino and not that I have a lot of Filipino friends.

[alexzy75 1]

Every guy has looked at porn and anyone who tries to tell you he hasn't is a liar.

watching it once in a while is one thing..be addicted is another..

[alexzy75 1]

this is what my ex wrote...

http://www.throughtheflame.org/forum/recovering-addiction-forum/1783-trying-save-my-relationship.html

but that judgmental GaryandAlla thnks I am the the one to be wrong to have left my ex, and when I asked for advices for my I-751 he makes me feel bad, like I am the one to be wrong....and gives me #### instead of comprehension and help.

Maybe he lied ot his wife, and can relate to my ex too much?!?

I mean really, Who created the lies on the first place??? who would stay with a man that lie under the 'I swear to you and in front of God I dont watch porn" , even worth thant watching he was addicted..if he is not able to say the truth for this, when he is going to tell it to me then?

[one...two...tree 2,762]

this is what my ex wrote...

http://www.throughth...lationship.html

but that judgmental GaryandAlla thnks I am the the one to be wrong to have left my ex, and when I asked for advices for my I-751 he makes me feel bad, like I am the one to be wrong....and gives me #### instead of comprehension and help.

Maybe he lied ot his wife, and can relate to my ex too much?!?

I mean really, Who created the lies on the first place??? who would stay with a man that lie under the 'I swear to you and in front of God I dont watch porn" , even worth thant watching he was addicted..if he is not able to say the truth for this, when he is going to tell it to me then?

That link is to some posts made back in August of 2009. That's 2 1/2 years ago and he even posted you both called off the engagement. So why are even bringing this up now if the relationship ended back then?

[jojolicious 38]

In the link you posted your ex admitted to watching porn 3 times in 10 months... That doesn't come across as an addiction to me.

[alexzy75 1]

In the link you posted your ex admitted to watching porn 3 times in 10 months... That doesn't come across as an addiction to me.

well, i think he admitted himself about he was in denial of his addiction, no? becasue, he swore he wouldnt watch any but still did...becasue it was stronger than him. and he confessed that sometimes he would just watch and not download anything...

Great, uh...

[Ban Hammer 13,655]

two posts removed - one for revealing the contents of a private communication, another for a swipe at that member plus quoting the contents of the private communication. posts returned below minus the content about that member.

We got married,this is the ring he talks about too...and then divorce in 2010 and now I am filing for the removal thing.

Ah, ok.

Sorry for what you went through and hope you can get the right info you need. It was an issue of trust and you had every right to expect honesty in a relationship. It's pointless for anyone here to second guess your decision to divorce since it is already in the past. Just look for some helpful advice in the upper forums and ignore the bad advice. Best of luck with removing conditions.

Edited December 23, 2011 by charles!

[alexzy75 1]

two posts removed - one for revealing the contents of a private communication, another for a swipe at that member plus quoting the contents of the private communication. posts returned below minus the content about that member.

if I had posted a private communication saying how much I am great, I am pretty sure nothing would be censored...

:blush: Right or wrong?

It has been censored....not for the fact it was a private communication, but because it was embarrassing for the so-called-MR-NICE-not-so-nice-when-he-makes-his-own-projections aka, garyandalla!

Congrat for your amazing work!

Edited December 29, 2011 by alexzy75

[alexzy75 1]

Misterfancypants wrote:

Sorry for what you went through and hope you can get the right info you need. It was an issue of trust and you had every right to expect honesty in a relationship. It's pointless for anyone here to second guess your decision to divorce since it is already in the past. Just look for some helpful advice in the upper forums and ignore the bad advice. Best of luck with removing

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Thank you for that constructive comment and advice, this is how I felt, and this is how my ex understood it also. He knew he totally broke the trust. Even though, I am afraid i am going to meet resistance and judgements , especially when i see the treatment I receive via PM, for people tend to make their own projections.