Need help on my sad complicated case

[AmyWrites 593]

I would wait a very long time to re-apply for avisa if I were you. Try to make a life there.

[Boiler 45,403]

I didn't wanna go inti a lot of details coz its a long story but i didn't want the marriage to be fake , they just got along with me until they got money so I was a victim , I was 22 at that time and very naive trusted everyone , my ex was a very manipulative innocent looking girl , she just convinced me that she really wanted to marry me , she was pretty 19 old blond that any guy at that age would fall in love with

The troubles began in my country before she was here , I met her online And she came to from America just to say me ,, we spent just a short time together thinking that it would only be short time before I get fience visa , now we are stuck , plz dont judge , just help If anyone could

What was the money? How much and what for?

[2 N 1 for life 3]

Be brutally honest with yourself and everyone about this. That's the first step.

[cdneh 3,112]

As you said only God can judge. If you believe that, then how about actually letting god get on with it eh?

Getting quite fed up with the holier than thou brand of posts on this forum of late. If you can't help an OP, if you can't offer anything than moralizing, if you can't understand some of the people that come here for help don't speak English like a native, if your only intent is to cause worry and fear, or in some twisted way make yourself feel superior, how about just not posting at all.

[jojolicious 38]

I am not being judgmental but I just can't imagine a situation where a USC would knowingly enter into a fraudulent marriage with an immigrant who wasn't aware. I would love for the OP to explain, if he so chooses, what he thought he was giving money to his ex-wife or some other third party to do... and how much money...

In any event, I strongly urge the OP to retain an experienced immigration attorney.

[cdneh 3,112]

There are plenty of things beyond my imagination, but other people do them, or attempt them, daily. Not up to me to be judge and jury.

UI do agree a lawyer is the way to go.

[Dan & Jenni 457]

I am not being judgmental but I just can't imagine a situation where a USC would knowingly enter into a fraudulent marriage with an immigrant who wasn't aware. I would love for the OP to explain, if he so chooses, what he thought he was giving money to his ex-wife or some other third party to do... and how much money...

In any event, I strongly urge the OP to retain an experienced immigration attorney.

i think love and the desire to be loved + being young and naive = poor judgement sometimes

[atm 8]

Hi,

I agree that the best course of action would be to consult with an experienced attorney. To be honest, I feel it is impossible for anyone to give the *very best* advice without knowing absolutely every detail that occurred. We don't even know which country you are from (unless I missed something)! I'm sorry for your situation, and I wish you all the best.

[Canadian in GA 34]

i understand why it would infuriate you but im sure the OP has, or will pay for past mistakes. all you can do is hope that USCIS or the USEM make the right decision... whatever that may be. i am glad it all worked out for you

We all pay for his mistakes. these are the people who make the real people,wait years, and go though this much. if everyone was truthful, then all these people would not have problems would they?!

[Goldfinch 0]

Ok I came from a country where it's very normal to pay marriage brokers money for fixing marriages , second we pay money to wives before marriage this is part of our traditions , The guy and my ex were very deceptive they were professional con artists , they made me believe that they they were from rural country areas where fixed marriages were the norm and I believed them at that time , i was an easy prey for that guy , I didnt want talk about details coz I knew everyone here would be judgmental and wont believe anything I say , so I just said it short I commited a fraud and that's what I will tell anyone even though this is not what I did , if saying so would make my case easier then fine by me

[2 N 1 for life 3]

As you said only God can judge. If you believe that, then how about actually letting god get on with it eh?

Getting quite fed up with the holier than thou brand of posts on this forum of late. If you can't help an OP, if you can't offer anything than moralizing, if you can't understand some of the people that come here for help don't speak English like a native, if your only intent is to cause worry and fear, or in some twisted way make yourself feel superior, how about just not posting at all.

Idk if u are referring to me??? Yes I do believe God is the only judge.... If u have read on futher down the post I apologized if I came off as judgemental but as in there is freedom. there is a freedom to opinions of all wether we agree or disagree... what I'm sick of is the way dialogue comes across and reduces to a deameaning level. I am no superior than the next if that is your thoughts... Im not asking of approval or validation for how I feel about a particular subject FRAUD is FRAUD... In which he admitted to but is now trying rectify his situation and process the right way... And my husband is not american so the native english you reference to I understand 100%. eh? We all have a chose including me I dont have to read or respond to a post that I'm fed up with or sick of... Anyway I'm not going to go back and forth on this fourm... I stand by how I feel about FRAUD MARRIAGE... my feelings of this matter does not add or subtract to the outcome of this case... And I refuse to belittle myself and reduce to anything but a mature dialouge... Im not much for labeling and name calling left those days back in high school and college.... I was asked the question by the poster and what I meant by my comment I merely answered it and gave my reasons... * sighs* and signs off...

[Rufus2012 175]

I know We should get a lawyer but we just cant afford it , that's why the only way for me to get answers is the web we spent a lot of money already getting our papers ,filing fees and flights we almost broke now

The answers you get here are worth what you paid for them. It's one thing to ask for clarification about how to fill out a particular question on a form, it's an entirely different matter recovering from past fraudulent activity. If you can't afford a lawyer (and make sure it's a good one), you are going to have a lot of difficulty - either it's financial difficulty paying for that lawyer, or difficulty in resolving this case. Your call. You made your bed, now sleep in it.

[Rufus2012 175]

As you said only God can judge. If you believe that, then how about actually letting god get on with it eh?

Getting quite fed up with the holier than thou brand of posts on this forum of late. If you can't help an OP, if you can't offer anything than moralizing, if you can't understand some of the people that come here for help don't speak English like a native, if your only intent is to cause worry and fear, or in some twisted way make yourself feel superior, how about just not posting at all.

I'd agree that there is sometimes a holier than thou attitude on this board, but welcome to the internet. You have to account for the fact that a lot of people here are under a great deal of stress dealing with this process, and someone who has circumvented it in the past is likely to trigger a visceral response. If you want to be understanding and non-judgmental, you have to apply that same thinking towards those who speak out about what they consider to be bad behavior. Either judge everybody, or no one.

I also think there is some value to the holier than thou posts. Many folks who have posted something that has triggered this kind of response lack a certain degree of self-awareness, and having some feedback on how they or their case is perceived can be instructive when dealing with consular officials.

[Deputy Purple 1,294]

I didn't wanna go inti a lot of details coz its a long story but i didn't want the marriage to be fake , they just got along with me until they got money so I was a victim , I was 22 at that time and very naive trusted everyone , my ex was a very manipulative innocent looking girl , she just convinced me that she really wanted to marry me , she was pretty 19 old blond that any guy at that age would fall in love with

It really sounds like you're being completely honest even here.

In order for there to be a financial pay-off for the US Citizen someone has to have offered her money to marry you and you're trying to make it sound like you had no clue of that? I can see why the CO didn't believe you.

Generally US Citizens don't shop around for Aliens to marry in return for a paycheck, it works the other way around...

Even your explanation doesn't sound plausible. It simply doesn't have the feeling of truth to it so now you probably have to Immigration Fraud attempts on your record.

Edited December 21, 2011 by Bob 4 Anna

[Obc333 24]

He does not sound honest and it's not a matter of being judgmental. If you are seeking help from a forum, we are a family of people who are willing to help in whatever way we can. When you break the law be straight up and honest about it. He tried to put one over on the CO and he caught it. I think he is trying to put one over on us.

He wrote that his first wife and friend took money from him and that's all they wanted then later he's from a country that arranges marriages. He knew what was going on and willingly participated in it.

I am all about honesty, and will turn a listening ear when the details are clear.

However my advise would be to get to know your new wife. Give stuff some time to cool off. And then reapply. When you do things in a rush it will come off as fraud.

Save up for a good lawyer and try again