family just dosen't get it :S

[benjamin10 0]

ya it's ridiculous how ppl think oh ya you can just move there no problem i'm just glad our son has duel citizenship

[alizon 77]

I don't mind explaining it to my family, but I was totally baffled by one of my friends who assumed that my husband was allowed to be here immediately after we were married. That friend is Canadian and studying in the US on a visa...and he thought getting married was an immediate green card...what the...

[hikergirl 277]

Future hubby thought I could move down there, we'd get married and I'd get my citizenship automatically.

If only it was that quick or that simple.

We're finding it harder to explain to the American side of the family what the process entails. They don't seem to understand why it's so complicated and expensive.

[thetreble 19]

The hardest part is that it's already very stressful to go through the immigration process without your family putting in their two cents.

My parents didn't ask many questions but listened a lot. Before I left for the states my dad did ask me to think about what I was about to do. Turns out I should have listened to him a bit more and myself a bit less! But, hey, I was 21 so...no one was going to stop me at that point!

You don't know anything about this process until you have either extensively read up on it or you have gone through it. It's so complicated that I don't expect someone who has never had to think about it before to understand even the first step.

At the end of the day, doesn't matter what any one else thinks. It's a decision you're making and as long as you are informed, that's all that matters. You may want to tell your family to back off a little though, in a polite way of course, if they are threatening to call the military on your fiancee/husband, etc.?

[FightWithHope 0]

has anyone else had the problem of your family just not getting what's going and why everything is taking so long even though youhave explained it over and over again. My grandparents were asking my dad to eamil my husband to tell him to make up his mind or to just let me go they seem to think he's the one slowing this process down or something and my dad told me last night that he was staying out of it but if he wanted to be an #### he could write the military telling them about my husband i'm think in the back of mind their just gonna laugh at you my husband is in the coast guard with is apart national defense ect i just don't get my family's way of thinking like i don't have enough to deal with we have a son ive been looking after him pretty much bymyself since birth we haven't seen my husband in almost 6 months he also just got back from almost 3 months of being deployed on a ship. it just really frustrates i just wanna do what's best for my own family.

Patience is the key here. Just hang in there. I know how tough it can be raising your son all by your self. But remember it will be all over one day. For having to answer to others, screw them. If possible, try to ignore what they say and stay positive. Remember, once you get your visa, all these questions will mean nothing to you.

[Piefre 15]

My family doesn't understand at all. They just think I'm making things out to seem much worse than it actually is. Then they turn around and expect me to have a huge wedding where everyone will come and when I tell them it's just going to be a courthouse thing, they act like I'm the one who wanted it to be that way. Come on, we're under enough pressure and stress with this process, we don't need additional stress with our families.