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[Nikita2Charles 32]

So far that's the most sensible response I've seen to Bill.

he might be struggling adjusting to her life here, and also One piece of advice I got from my mom when I was 16, if you have your girl and she HOT, guys are guys, they are always going to look, at the end of the day, she's in your arm, she's going out with you, in this case she's married to you, just the fact she's telling you about guys trying to pick her up, just letting you know she's hot not bragging and also she loves the attention, there's nothing wrong with that. As long as she's not cheating on you, and you said there's no evidence of that, just a hintch it will or might happen shows you have a lot of insecurity to deal with, so what the age difference lot of folks here on VJ have age differences what's important is the love you 2 have for each other, if the line of communication breaks down, I would suggest maybe 1st see a marriage counselor who might guide both of you as to the root cause of the problem, If she's homesick and would like to go home, maybe a little break might do her so good to see her folks, friends, back to her normal environment and guess what sometimes they do realized people have moved on and now being with her husband is her home, it's her life now, but until then there's nothing you can do but support her, but if the loves is not there and she wants to move on, just wish her well, you'll be rewarded for it, don't keep any negativity in your heart.

Sorry to hear that. I hope you both can work thing out though.

From what you wrote, I can see the woman who has a hard time to adjust herself into a new environment. Have you tried to ease her life? Have you tried to help to get her through all those situations?

She signed the Pre-nup which meant she accepted whatever conditions you wanted, it means exceptional sincerity from her side since Pre-nup is not common for Thai people.

She is now working and getting lots of attention, it is not her fault though. The thing is, has she had any signs that she will cheat on you? If not, why worry that she will leave you to a younger man?

If your marriage base on love to each other, I think this situation can be sorted out. I don't know from her side, but I would like to ask if you married her because of love? If so, my advice is you two should sit and talk. Find out the way to help her feel better about her uncomfortable life and tell her how you feel when she gets lots of attention from other mans and give her a chance to tell you what exactly she feels about that.

[merkin&regine 18]

Just a correction on the bolded part. As she arrived on a K1 visa she is unable to adjust status based on marriage to anyone other than the OP.

:thumbs:

[Boiler 45,538]

True, that would not be how she could adjust.

[Anh map 2,098]

And? There's no other way to adjust status except based on her marriage or abuse. He pulls the I-864 then she won't get it thanks to marriage and there's no abuse. So there's no other way.

I'm going to assume though you're referencing an post from a couple of months ago where people made it seem that simply by marriage in the 90 days the immigrant could AOS by themselves. That was explained to be an incorrect assumption and explained the extenuating circumstances that would bring that into play. None of which the OP's wife has. I wish I could locate that thread/explanation but the search terms are pretty broad..

It is possible. Though I would suspect it is not a simple matter. And each case is different. However, at this point there is precedent.

See this from the Dept. of Justice, Board of Immigration Appeals >>>> http://www.justice.gov/eoir/vll/intdec/vol25/3707.pdf

[trillium13 84]

It is possible. Though I would suspect it is not a simple matter. And each case is different. However, at this point there is precedent.

See this from the Dept. of Justice, Board of Immigration Appeals >>>> http://www.justice.gov/eoir/vll/intdec/vol25/3707.pdf

That was interesting reading, however plodding. Am I understanding the interpretation right, that the "conditions" aren't the marriage itself, but the bona fide-ness of said marriage?

[Anh map 2,098]

That was interesting reading, however plodding. Am I understanding the interpretation right, that the "conditions" aren't the marriage itself, but the bona fide-ness of said marriage?

Seems that way. Again, as with most thing immigration related it's as clear as mud.

Edited December 17, 2011 by Anh map

[Deputy Purple 1,294]

Seems that way. Again, as with most thing immigration related it's as clear as mud.

I'm guessing the Alien still needs someone to provide an Affidavit of Support in order to Adjust...

[Darnell 8,478]

hey Mr. Tillman - how's the noise, so far?

[Darnell 8,478]

That was interesting reading, however plodding. Am I understanding the interpretation right, that the "conditions" aren't the marriage itself, but the bona fide-ness of said marriage?

yup.

Bona Fides-ness

is mondo important.

Don't have any to show? Tis all a sham.

Lots of precedence on this, this concept of 'showing'.

If ya get a moment, study the ROC forms, the instructions that come along with it, the things that are asked for, as well as the I-130 instructions, in the list of 6 evidence types.

Bonafides are important.

[jl#1 6]

shoulda went with a filipina. does she love you? ask her to be completely honest with you about her feelings. have you thought of moving to thailand? would she like that if your living with her in her country? i been there its nice. the bar scene, OMG; not good it will lead her astray for sure. just see if you can have a good talk together and see if she is willing to work something out to save the marriage or just call it quits. if she says no go then send her packing to bangkok right away even before you file for divorce. but i don't know any legal matters. call a immigration attorney. good luck..

Wow I can't believe you actually wrote that Racist statement. What I hear in both these statements is there are men who was selling citezenship to marry them. Lets look at this in the case if the OP's wife was from the US. And imigration was off the Table all together. He married a younger women (what do we call them in the States) Thats right a sugar daddy. Now the sugar daddy has no sugar and has his woman supporting him (What do we call that in the states) Thats Right a Pimp. So instead of beating his girl he threatens to send her back to her home country (what do we call that) That's right extortion. The OP himself has not posted a coment on this in a while since questions of his status came into play. For the Comment about a Thai women or a Phillipina is raceist and sterio typical. I am Retired Military and I have known long lasting and short lived relationships from both countries as well as the US. But what is a constent in a great deal of the bad ones is that there are two people and they both have a story.

[Peter_Pan 661]

Nothing like revengeful future to be ex husbands. Some people just shine with good character.

Marriages fall apart. As long as she entered it in good faith, I don't see any reason to misbehave towards her. She can't adjust and it is only normal that she is attracted to someone younger. You have no idea if she cheated or not, so basically you want to harm her as much as possible out of spite.

I think she is lucky to get out of the marriage, wish her all the best.

[mr and mrs 187]

oh bill tilman. look at the chaos you've created.

(think this is post #750 for me. whoa.)

[Karee 4,190]

Wow I can't believe you actually wrote that Racist statement. What I hear in both these statements is there are men who was selling citezenship to marry them. Lets look at this in the case if the OP's wife was from the US. And imigration was off the Table all together. He married a younger women (what do we call them in the States) Thats right a sugar daddy. Now the sugar daddy has no sugar and has his woman supporting him (What do we call that in the states) Thats Right a Pimp. So instead of beating his girl he threatens to send her back to her home country (what do we call that) That's right extortion. The OP himself has not posted a coment on this in a while since questions of his status came into play. For the Comment about a Thai women or a Phillipina is raceist and sterio typical. I am Retired Military and I have known long lasting and short lived relationships from both countries as well as the US. But what is a constent in a great deal of the bad ones is that there are two people and they both have a story.

Laugh. Yeah there's no scammers in PI. I guess he has never been to P. Burgos or Angeles City. Don't look in the fishbowl for long term happiness.

Edited December 24, 2011 by Karee

[Lovely Lily 1]

Bill,

As someone who was in a similar situation a year ago, I urge you to make an appointment with a lawyer who works in both divorce law and immigration. He or she can help you bide more time with USCIS to work on the marriage or figure out the best course of action. You need to decide soon whether or not you want to stay and invest in this marriage, and if the answer is no, you should withdraw your Affadavit of Support. It sounds from some of your previous posts that you feel obligated towards your wife because of the amount of time you've known her. That's an honorable sentiment, but you can still choose to help her (short of staying married to her just so she can have a green card) without being legally mandated to do so. If you decide you don't want to be in the marriage, you shouldn't stay married, regardless of the effect on immigration. And the I-864 puts the USC in a very vulnerable position--I would not advise leaving that on the table unless you know you are in a healthy marriage with a committed spouse.

[TBoneTX 45,319]

The OP hasn't been back for a very long time. Does silence speak volumes?