She spent my AOS application money ! Im so furious ..please help me calm down .

[Freedove7 17]

Can you tell your uncle to ask money back from your mom? She might have to listen to him since it was his money.

I'm glad to hear that you want to calm down.. so calm down. Being mad at your mother will not make anything better though.

Sit and talk to her nicely and tell her that after you adjust status, then you can get a job and have a normal life.

Hope you can file AOS soon.

I am giving her another week to give me the money....Two weeks MAXIMUM ! If she doesnt return it,I will ask my uncle to get it back.Thanks :-)

No offense ,but that is non of your business.

I meant to say none *

[Freedove7 17]

I doubt it will make any difference. If she had the money she'd probably hand it over. It's obvious she's spent it, and she isn't worried about any repercussions from her family over it. It also sounds like mom has a sordid history with doing the right thing, so giving her any money was probably a bad move.

Freedove, I suggest you find another way to get the money. Don't count on your mom coming through with the cash as she's obviously not to be trusted. In fact, don't depend on your mother for anything important in the future. You'll get along with her a lot better if you never put yourself in a position where you're dependent on her. You can't choose your family members, but you can choose how much you permit them to wreck your life.

FWIW, I have a couple of rules when it comes to lending money to family members:

1. Never lend money you can't afford to lose. Consider the money lost as soon as you lend it.

2. Think of the money as a gift, even if the "borrower" considers it a loan. You won't be disappointed if the money doesn't come back, and you'll consider it a blessing if it does. My oldest son has "borrowed" thousands of dollars from me over the years, and has never repaid a single nickel. I've also said "no" many times when I just couldn't afford it. We still get along fine.

Well she said she will return it so I am giving her another week or two .Good advice though.Thank you.

[Freedove7 17]

Perfectly fine. My husband being the sole worker supports us well, we're not millionaires but we have a mortgage on a house, 3 vehicles, phones, heat, internet, food etc. But that doesn't mean that we can come up with a thousand dollars at the drop of a hat. It can take time. Especially for the OP that has been living out of status thanks to their family so unable to work legally and so surviving on one income, and probably unlike many of us who could work in our home country to save before heading over on our visas didn't have that luxury.

Don't forget for the I-130 is $420. It's $1070 for the AOS. There's also the medical fees. It's not a cheap process.

You said it right :-)...Especially the part about not having the privilege of being able to work prior to coming to the US.I was only 6 when came here.I really can't wait to become legal and finally live a normal life.

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Freedove7 I know some who don't have supportive or honest mothers. Not all are perfect and do what parents are supposed to do. Gluck to you.