Survey: 1 in 4 US women victims of severe violence

[Girl from Celebes 588]

As someone expecting a girl... this is a major concern of mine. She'll even be doubly screwed being British-American; probably the worst combination of nationalities in the world! Unfortunately, Alex and I can't help being the nationalities we are.

Apart from the mild stereotyping, I agree with every post on the first page - especially Vanessa's and Nina's.

Awww....congratulation for a baby girl, Rachel. I wish both of you are healthy and surrounding by happiness.

[Nina~ 431]

As someone expecting a girl... this is a major concern of mine. She'll even be doubly screwed being British-American; probably the worst combination of nationalities in the world! Unfortunately, Alex and I can't help being the nationalities we are.

Apart from the mild stereotyping, I agree with every post on the first page - especially Vanessa's and Nina's.

I am neither Canadian, American, British or Australian.. But from my observation in a professional & personal setting, I find that most American women seem to have it much harder trying to balance a work and family. Very few American families can afford to live on one income these days and American women have no choice but to work, run a household and raise a family at the same time. If they choose work instead of kids, they are labeled as non-maternal & materialistic. And if they choose staying at home to raise kids, they are labeled as lazy. Also American households tend to be more nuclear and so women tend to get less help from parents, siblings, aunts & uncles unlike women in non-western countries.

Growing up in Dubai, my mom never had to work and got her first job when she was in her mid-40's just because she was bored after my sister & I left for college. My dad never entered the kitchen, nor did he show up for any PTA meetings because my mom handled it all. There are a lot more women there who had the luxury of working for fun or not working at all and instead spend their day playing bridge with other housewives. On the other hand, my USC MIL (along with FIL) worked long hours and sometimes even 2 jobs just to put food on the table and a roof over their heads. She also has old-school values and believes that it is her duty to cook, clean and do everyone's laundry. Her day begins before everyone in the house wakes up and ends after she makes sure that everyone is fed and gone to bed.. all this after a 12 hour shift working as a nurse. So you can see how her other Maslowian needs are less of a priority to her than someone like my mother.

I am not saying that either lifestyle is right or wrong, good or bad.. It is just a reality of what American societal structure has become since the 1950's.

[Susita 175]

I find that most American women seem to have it much harder trying to balance a work and family. Very few American families can afford to live on one income these days and American women have no choice but to work, run a household and raise a family at the same time. If they choose work instead of kids, they are labeled as non-maternal & materialistic. And if they choose staying at home to raise kids, they are labeled as lazy. Also American households tend to be more nuclear and so women tend to get less help from parents, siblings, aunts & uncles unlike women in non-western countries.

Great post, Nina. That's my life to a T. I happen to be lucky to have a job that allows me to still go to my kids' school functions, volunteer with the PTA and do everything I would do if I were a stay-at-home mom. I'm also lucky to have a husband who works nights & that our kids don't have to go to daycare, they're with one of their parents 100% of the time. However, I'm much more tired! It's mentally & physically exhausting. But if I had to do it over again, I'd do the same thing. My kids are totally worth it!

[Empress of Groovy 373]

I find it mind-boggling that anyone would consider a stay-at-home mother lazy. I've had jobs where I worked 14+ hour shifts, and it was still less taxing than caring for a baby. And I only have one!

[Bad_Daddy 2,209]

babies, school, PTA, cooking, house cleaning, etc... you gals are killing this thread.

[elmcitymaven 9,712]

Love my VJ sisters!

[Susita 175]

babies, school, PTA, cooking, house cleaning, etc... you gals are killing this thread.

abuse, right. We were talking about violence.

Domestic Abuse not a Problem

[TBoneTX 46,042]

Nope! The hubs is now an official American. He asked Santa for power tools for Christmas.

I am crushed, si man. On the bright side, and to his everlasting credit, he did land himself a rubia!

babies, school, PTA, cooking, house cleaning, etc... you gals are killing this thread.

Just fixed it, dude, by noting that S-Bone's husband landed himself a blonde, si man.

[Susita 175]

I am crushed, si man. On the bright side, and to his everlasting credit, he did land himself a rubia!

Just fixed it, dude, by noting that S-Bone's husband landed himself a blonde, si man.

What can I say, he lucked out.

[TBoneTX 46,042]

What can I say, he lucked out.

Si, man. Unfortunately, none of Mrs. T-B.'s pelucas (ponytails, wigs, etc.) are rubia, no man. Fortunately, I have a harem (totally imaginary, sigh man) of SIX rubias whom I can threaten to visit (or invite over) anytime Mrs. T-B. doesn't toe the line, si man... er, no man... er, toe man.

When Mrs. T-B.'s mom was visiting earlier this year (and she's coming again in a couple of weeks, si man), and I came home from work, I'd regularly observe "Dos hermosas, no rubias" (two beauties, no blondes), sigh man. Also, whenever I was a few minutes late coming home, I'd walk in and freely blurt out that I was with the rubias, si man. Mrs. T-B. usually rolled her eyes but Mrs.-Mama-T-B. seemed amused, glee man.

[Bad_Daddy 2,209]

What can I say, he lucked out.

I just noticed your sig...everyone is looking at the camera but the kid in the middle who obviously see's something of interest that nobody else see's.

[Danno 1,228]

http://news.yahoo.com/photos/photo-of-the-day-slideshow-1309242001-slideshow/chart-shows-violence-against-women-intimate-partners-photo-174151419.html

And there's those Asian again, they always have the best numbers of any group.. I don't care what the stats are on.

Edited December 17, 2011 by Danno

[Susita 175]

I just noticed your sig...everyone is looking at the camera but the kid in the middle who obviously see's something of interest that nobody else see's.

It's so hard to get babies to look @ the camera!