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az110965   252

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She had SOME status when she came into the USA on the K-1 visa, allowed lawful presence in the USA for 90 days.

IF, during the 90 days, she marries TO YOU, then SHE is allowed to file for adjustment of status, leading to a 2 year conditional green card.

Another guy, not you? she could marry anyone she wants, sure - but she'll never be able to adjust from her CURRENT visa (the K-1) without marriage TO YOU.

That's the dealio. She's most likely had a plan in mind all along, but since she's abandoned you and any subsequent marriage? She cannot have further status in the USA based on marriage to anyone, unless she leaves the USA and some other fella files for her, starting all over again.

If she stays in the USA, most likely she'll remain underground for years.

You've been scammed, Sir. Sorry.

What a crappy existence that will be. No driver's licene, no EAD, not being allowed to return home and re-entering USA in cases of family emergency... In short - always looking over her shoulder.

Some day I'm hopeful she'll post here and tell us what her thought process was. If she had played the game awhile longer and had gotten her green card she'd have it made. I hope the guy she split for was worth it!

K-1 JOURNEY

157 DAYS FROM NOA-1 TO NOA-2

181 DAYS FROM NOA-1 TO INTERVIEW

07/14/2011 - I-129F sent via FedEx to USCIS
07/15/2011 - Arrived at CSC, signed for by E. Jameson
07/15/2011 - NOA-1 (E-Mail)
07/19/2011 - NOA-1 (Hard Copy)
08/01/2011 - Touched
12/19/2011 - Touched
12/19/2011 - NOA-2 (E-Mail)
12/22/2011 - X-Ray
12/22/2011 - Lab Work
12/23/2011 - NOA-2 (Hard Copy)
12/27/2011 - NVC Received
12/28/2011 - San Jose Embassy Case Number Assigned
12/29/2011 - NVC Sent Petition via DHL to Embassy
12/30/2011 - Embassy Received Petition, signed for by J. Rodriguez
01/04/2011 - Medical
01/09/2011 - Packet 3 Received
01/12/2011 - Embassy Interview - Approved
01/19/2011 - Visa Received
01/21/2012 - POE (Ft. Lauderdale, FL - USA)
01/23/2012 - SSA Issued Fresy's SSN
02/18/2012 - Wedding

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Life is not measured by the breaths you take. Rather, life is measured by the moments that take your breath away!

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az110965
az110965

Wow. I'm REALLY sorry that this has happened to you, but before taking time to feel sadness, you NEED to PROTECT yourelf. 1) If she has an ATM card to your account - shut it down. 2) If she has pass

TBoneTX
TBoneTX

If this were me, I'd be on the phone right now with every one of my credit-card issuers (they have 24-hour lines for "lost or stolen cards" via which you can talk to a human being). Explain the situa

Kathryn41
Kathryn41

I am so very sorry that this happened to you, not just that she left you and treated you like this, but also for the loss of your dream of a happy life together, the life for which you have worked so

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az110965   252

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Not indignant; just surprised.

But, I'd be even more surprised, if this story were all actually true

GringoD,

There have been stories A LOT stranger than this one posted here that would blow your mind. Last year was a guy who's fiance ended up dancing in s strip club unhder the pole... Err - I mean under the table.

Stay here awhile and NOTHING will surprise you my friend!

K-1 JOURNEY

157 DAYS FROM NOA-1 TO NOA-2

181 DAYS FROM NOA-1 TO INTERVIEW

07/14/2011 - I-129F sent via FedEx to USCIS
07/15/2011 - Arrived at CSC, signed for by E. Jameson
07/15/2011 - NOA-1 (E-Mail)
07/19/2011 - NOA-1 (Hard Copy)
08/01/2011 - Touched
12/19/2011 - Touched
12/19/2011 - NOA-2 (E-Mail)
12/22/2011 - X-Ray
12/22/2011 - Lab Work
12/23/2011 - NOA-2 (Hard Copy)
12/27/2011 - NVC Received
12/28/2011 - San Jose Embassy Case Number Assigned
12/29/2011 - NVC Sent Petition via DHL to Embassy
12/30/2011 - Embassy Received Petition, signed for by J. Rodriguez
01/04/2011 - Medical
01/09/2011 - Packet 3 Received
01/12/2011 - Embassy Interview - Approved
01/19/2011 - Visa Received
01/21/2012 - POE (Ft. Lauderdale, FL - USA)
01/23/2012 - SSA Issued Fresy's SSN
02/18/2012 - Wedding

_____________________________________________________________________________________________

Life is not measured by the breaths you take. Rather, life is measured by the moments that take your breath away!

Adriene H Rising Star

Adriene H   89

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:ot: You are right.... FSU women are the best ... Especially Moldovans :P:ot2:

I wanted Moldova to win Eurovision 2011 :dance:

I-130

2011-08-20 Posted

2011-08-31 NOA1

2011-09-03 Touch

2011-11-18 Sent Expedite Request to USCIS

2011-12-09 Response Received for Exepedite Request

"Wait your turn" in a nutshell

2011-12-02 Sent Expedite Request to US Representative Ed Royce

2012-01-27 Sent Expedite Request to Immigration Ombudsman

2012-02-02 Sent Expedite Request to Senator Barbara Boxer

2012-02-02 Sent Expedite Request to Senator Dianne Feinstein

2012-03-08 Case transferred to field office for additional processing

2012-03-23 Now being processed at a USCIS office

2012-05-10 Transferred to another office for processing

2012-05-14 Now being processed at a USCIS office

2012-06-05 Approved NOA2

2012-07-17 NVC Case/Invoice # Received

Petitioner: US Born Citizen (Wife)

Beneficiary: British Born Citizen (Husband)

Your I-130 was approved in 279 days from your NOA1 date

Adriene H Rising Star

Adriene H   89

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Wow, Thank You Captain Obvious!

Munchausen Syndrome??? Hmm, why does that sound familiar??? Maybe becuase I said the same damn thing 10 pages ago ! :bonk:

Is there a syndrome for copying other's post? :rofl:

There was a good episode of House MD I seem to remember

I-130

2011-08-20 Posted

2011-08-31 NOA1

2011-09-03 Touch

2011-11-18 Sent Expedite Request to USCIS

2011-12-09 Response Received for Exepedite Request

"Wait your turn" in a nutshell

2011-12-02 Sent Expedite Request to US Representative Ed Royce

2012-01-27 Sent Expedite Request to Immigration Ombudsman

2012-02-02 Sent Expedite Request to Senator Barbara Boxer

2012-02-02 Sent Expedite Request to Senator Dianne Feinstein

2012-03-08 Case transferred to field office for additional processing

2012-03-23 Now being processed at a USCIS office

2012-05-10 Transferred to another office for processing

2012-05-14 Now being processed at a USCIS office

2012-06-05 Approved NOA2

2012-07-17 NVC Case/Invoice # Received

Petitioner: US Born Citizen (Wife)

Beneficiary: British Born Citizen (Husband)

Your I-130 was approved in 279 days from your NOA1 date

Gary and Alla Grand Master

Gary and Alla   3,694

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GringoD,

There have been stories A LOT stranger than this one posted here that would blow your mind. Last year was a guy who's fiance ended up dancing in s strip club unhder the pole... Err - I mean under the table.

Stay here awhile and NOTHING will surprise you my friend!

MCat. I think he was as phony as a $3 bill and I think this one is also. Someone writing a drama.

As I recall she was dancing ABOVE the table and doing other things with everyone except her fiance UNDER the table. :P

It was interesting but purely fiction IMO. Hey, fiction sells a lot of books.

VERMONT! I Reject Your Reality...and Substitute My Own!

Gary And Alla

az110965 Proficient

az110965   252

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:rofl:

MCat. I think he was as phony as a $3 bill and I think this one is also. Someone writing a drama.

As I recall she was dancing ABOVE the table and doing other things with everyone except her fiance UNDER the table. :P

It was interesting but purely fiction IMO. Hey, fiction sells a lot of books.

That's right - MCat. Thanks Gary. Wasn't he also the same guy who moved his ex girlfriend into the house at the same time his fiance was with him?

Ahhh, memories! Since it's the holiday season I bring you this little song:

Chestnuts roasting on an open fire, MCat's fiance dancing on a pole.

Some guy's woman leaving after 3 weeks, wonder if he's a troll.....

K-1 JOURNEY

157 DAYS FROM NOA-1 TO NOA-2

181 DAYS FROM NOA-1 TO INTERVIEW

07/14/2011 - I-129F sent via FedEx to USCIS
07/15/2011 - Arrived at CSC, signed for by E. Jameson
07/15/2011 - NOA-1 (E-Mail)
07/19/2011 - NOA-1 (Hard Copy)
08/01/2011 - Touched
12/19/2011 - Touched
12/19/2011 - NOA-2 (E-Mail)
12/22/2011 - X-Ray
12/22/2011 - Lab Work
12/23/2011 - NOA-2 (Hard Copy)
12/27/2011 - NVC Received
12/28/2011 - San Jose Embassy Case Number Assigned
12/29/2011 - NVC Sent Petition via DHL to Embassy
12/30/2011 - Embassy Received Petition, signed for by J. Rodriguez
01/04/2011 - Medical
01/09/2011 - Packet 3 Received
01/12/2011 - Embassy Interview - Approved
01/19/2011 - Visa Received
01/21/2012 - POE (Ft. Lauderdale, FL - USA)
01/23/2012 - SSA Issued Fresy's SSN
02/18/2012 - Wedding

_____________________________________________________________________________________________

Life is not measured by the breaths you take. Rather, life is measured by the moments that take your breath away!

TBoneTX Grand Master

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If I file a notification to USCIS that she left me but later we decide to get married will that notificaiton filed cause her a problem of getting green card or us being married?
Sir, if you do anything BUT file notifications with USCIS, ICE, the consulate, and your local police department, you'll be suckered.

Your ex (and that's what she is) has moved out and broken off all contact with you. The relationship, and any chance thereof, is over. The only remaining possibilities are that she will hijack your finances (now) or return with a sob-story and plead to get back together with you (later). In the latter instance, she'll milk you until she gets her conditional green card, and then she'll be gone so fast that she'll resemble Speedy Gonzalez on a caffeine high. Avoid being an idiot.

If you haven't taken steps to protect your finances, credit, and residence yet, you're halfway toward being an idiot. If you accept ANY communication from her, you'll be a full idiot.

1. Notify the authorities and your financial institutions as highest priority.

2. Take her leftover possessions, put them into storage (keeping an itemized list, and ideally photographs of everything), and notify her family where to collect it (keeping a copy of the e-mail or written message of your having notified them).

3. Accept no direct communication from her under any circumstances.

4. Quit looking back; look ahead; and move on. Si, man?

06-04-2007 = TSC stamps postal return-receipt for I-129f.

06-11-2007 = NOA1 date (unknown to me).

07-20-2007 = Phoned Immigration Officer; got WAC#; where's NOA1?

09-25-2007 = Touch (first-ever).

09-28-2007 = NOA1, 23 days after their 45-day promise to send it (grrrr).

10-20 & 11-14-2007 = Phoned ImmOffs; "still pending."

12-11-2007 = 180 days; file is "between workstations, may be early Jan."; touches 12/11 & 12/12.

12-18-2007 = Call; file is with Division 9 ofcr. (bckgrnd check); e-prompt to shake it; touch.

12-19-2007 = NOA2 by e-mail & web, dated 12-18-07 (187 days; 201 per VJ); in mail 12/24/07.

01-09-2008 = File from USCIS to NVC, 1-4-08; NVC creates file, 1/15/08; to consulate 1/16/08.

01-23-2008 = Consulate gets file; outdated Packet 4 mailed to fiancee 1/27/08; rec'd 3/3/08.

04-29-2008 = Fiancee's 4-min. consular interview, 8:30 a.m.; much evidence brought but not allowed to be presented (consul: "More proof! Second interview! Bring your fiance!").

05-05-2008 = Infuriating $12 call to non-English-speaking consulate appointment-setter.

05-06-2008 = Better $12 call to English-speaker; "joint" interview date 6/30/08 (my selection).

06-30-2008 = Stokes Interrogations w/Ecuadorian (not USC); "wait 2 weeks; we'll mail her."

07-2008 = Daily calls to DOS: "currently processing"; 8/05 = Phoned consulate, got Section Chief; wrote him.

08-07-08 = E-mail from consulate, promising to issue visa "as soon as we get her passport" (on 8/12, per DHL).

08-27-08 = Phoned consulate (they "couldn't find" our file); visa DHL'd 8/28; in hand 9/1; through POE on 10/9 with NO hassles(!).

GringoD Community Regular

GringoD   33

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If I file a notification to USCIS that she left me but later we decide to get married will that notificaiton filed cause her a problem of getting green card or us being married?

Make sure to let us know! :rofl::dance::bonk::devil:(L)(F)

Edited by GringoD

07/27/2011...........NOA1 received.

12/05/2011...........RFE received.

12/13/2011...........RFE response sent.

12/16/2011...........RFE RESPONSE received by Vermont S.C.

12/22/2011...........Teased by a text-message from uscis, saying they have received my response to the RFE.

12/30/2011...........LA VISA APROVADOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!

01/12/2012...........Case Sent To Bogota Colombia, from the National Visa Center.

02/09/2012...........Schedule Interview.

03/23/2012...........Interview (to take place then)!

04/07/2012...........Arrived in USA.

07/01/2012...........MARRIED!

What next?

.......How the days DO slip away!

OnMyWayID Experienced

OnMyWayID   1,489

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If I file a notification to USCIS that she left me but later we decide to get married will that notification filed cause her a problem of getting green card or us being married?

*sigh* you can always spot the ones where it is completely pointless to try to talk them out of putting the noose around their own neck.

Sir: Good luck to you.

I don't believe it.. Prove it to me and I still won't believe it. -Ford Prefect

MalaysianGirl Community Regular

MalaysianGirl   26

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Sir, if you do anything BUT file notifications with USCIS, ICE, the consulate, and your local police department, you'll be suckered.

Your ex (and that's what she is) has moved out and broken off all contact with you. The relationship, and any chance thereof, is over. The only remaining possibilities are that she will hijack your finances (now) or return with a sob-story and plead to get back together with you (later). In the latter instance, she'll milk you until she gets her conditional green card, and then she'll be gone so fast that she'll resemble Speedy Gonzalez on a caffeine high. Avoid being an idiot.

If you haven't taken steps to protect your finances, credit, and residence yet, you're halfway toward being an idiot. If you accept ANY communication from her, you'll be a full idiot.

1. Notify the authorities and your financial institutions as highest priority.

2. Take her leftover possessions, put them into storage (keeping an itemized list, and ideally photographs of everything), and notify her family where to collect it (keeping a copy of the e-mail or written message of your having notified them).

3. Accept no direct communication from her under any circumstances.

4. Quit looking back; look ahead; and move on. Si, man?

Dear VeniyaAO, please HEED what TBoneTX has said to you.

That is all.

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If I file a notification to USCIS that she left me but later we decide to get married will that notificaiton filed cause her a problem of getting green card or us being married?

u still didnt reportt wowww lol !!!!!!!!!!!!

My Pd Is July 5,2009 !!!

APPROVED VISA ISSUED ON : MARCH 14,2012 :)

Visa In Hand: March 16th 2012 :)

Good Luck to The Rest who r in waiting listtt

POE: 12th April 2012 InshaALLAH Ameen :)

 
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