Feeling of Solitude in a K-1 Engagement

[BobnCherry 10]

I feel your pain just when you think you can't wait any longer you wait some more

We had a routine of chatting morning and night with a weekly internet cafe so we could see each other and that still wasn't enough!!

But after it all she's here and were married! hang tough buddy.

B&C

[Nicoco 26]

So, as many of us here probably are in, or have been in long distance engagements, sometimes I just feel like I'm completely alone. Is this feeling normal? How to cope or manage these feelings? I work full time, and I'm at school full time. I spend some time with my family, but every night I am usually alone. I don't have much of a social life right now, which would probably help, but I still have this feeling of solitary confinement when I come home...

I completely understand you. I am in school and work full time as well. I feel like I'm waiting for the night to come always because that's when I can talk to my fiance.

It will be hard, you will feel alone even when there are many people around you. It will be hard for people to understand what you're going through.

But remember that this is an investment. When you go to work, you're doing it for her. When you go to school, you're doing it for her.

All in all, when she gets here, you'll be super busy and not have time to remember what you just went through anyway.

It's all patience.

[wee carrington 33]

Besides that, this will be my first, and hopefully my last, marriage. However, many people I've talked to recently (at work) have suggested that "marriage is overrated", "people change as soon as you're married", "feelings and love don't last", etc. For the most part, I believe them, because I haven't had any real example of a stable relationship in my life. However, could these people just be bitter in their current or previous marriages? Who knows...

Someone's always got to put in their 2 cents on any given subject (like I am doing now ). Take the advice you find useful and discard the rest and remember: misery loves company. Whenever the woman at my work want to start their stupid, we'll say, "complaint-fests" about their husbands/partners, I don't have a word to say because I've truly never been happier. That gets right under their skin and I think to myself "good".

However, I'm dreading (when we have kids) the "let me tell you how you should raise your kid" advice...

[feli114 65]

In Senegal, the power is always going out. So we hardly get to talk online. Its been a few minutes here and there for about 6 months. Our feelings for one another have not changed. He still tells me he loves me and misses me and I tell him the same. We are all in it for the long haul. It takes a strong love for each other to stay together. Once it is all said and done, you will be together and it will all seem like a distant part of your past. Good luck with your journey.

[BobnCherry 10]

My answer would be let me meet your kids before I take advice from you on how to raise mine ok now

However, I'm dreading (when we have kids) the "let me tell you how you should raise your kid" advice...

[edwardteresa4ever 18]

Yep its really rough I am the petitioner and we are approaching month six with no noa2 yet. Somedays are good and somedays not we Skype , ym , phone , email a combination of those every single day. It's just hard and even though ill be there for Christmas what's rough is not knowing anything, no updates no accurate time lines etc. I disagree with anyone who finds any type of comfort in this process as when your truly in Lo e there is no comfort in being apart. We have just accept when it comes it comes. Nothing else we can do. It will happen.

[shinracura 0]

Socialize, pal.

[Nicoco 26]

Socialize, pal.

That works sometimes.. .although sometimes I feel more alone when I'm with many people.

[Bisola 2011 16]

That works sometimes.. .although sometimes I feel more alone when I'm with many people.

I agree, sometimes... Guess we're really not alone though cuz at the end of the day we all have 2 things in common "alone (for now) n deeply in love (for ever). "

Edited December 6, 2011 by Bisola 2011

[Dan & Jenni 457]

That works sometimes.. .although sometimes I feel more alone when I'm with many people.

alone even in a room full of people.... that is the truth for a lot of people in a LDR i think

[Jack&Ana 1]

alone even in a room full of people.... that is the truth for a lot of people in a LDR i think

Indeed it does. When we actually bring ourselves to go out with others we go back to constantly IMing each other, sending pictures of the party, etc... So much so, that we had our phones sometimes get "confiscated" by friends when we go out . I've become this annoying person who doesn't turn her phone completely off during a movie in case it blinks... and the texting starts again. He also has a collection of social faux-pas under his belt.

People take for granted to have their significant other with them. When the happy time comes and we're together for good, I'm never leaving his side ever again.

(The Holidays are kicking me in the butt )