Petition For My daughter In Nigeria

[ndu26 114]

They may well demand a DNA test to establish you are indeed the bio mom.

yes hopefully the case proceds to the DNA statge and that will convince all of them.

YOU have to look for ways(include a separate sheet of sworn statemnet if necessary to stress during when you file for her that, you being under parental custody at the time of her birth and due to your local culture, you were forbidden to claim her as your daughter but as you came out of that environment;with exposure, advice etc, you decided it was time to get your child back.

while 18years may be legal age for emancipation here, some cultures especially years ago have it as ...until you are able to provide for yourself outside your parents home.

Again SEEK LEGAL COUNSEL as you embark on this.

[ndu26 114]

I have seen parents give away their teenage daughters( as little as 13years) to men in their 60s-70s as wife. ...That USCIS or NVC( or some of us) does not comprehend such arrangement DOES MAKE IT FRAUD.

...Does NOT make it fraud"

[benyd009 0]

Nigeria is a very high fraud country. From what I have seen over the years about half the couples on here are not going to be together 2 years after getting a visa and most of those are due to fraud. So the embassy there is very very difficult. But you are right about the attitude to unmarried women having children. Do your parents support you bringing your daughter here ? Is there any record of you being the one that gave birth to her ? When you file your I130 you should include whatever you have to prove that she was your daughter but that due to custom and tradition your sister raised her to avoid the negative impact to both of you had you choosen to raise her. That now you are here you have decided to reestablish the role of mother/child because there isn't the same stigma in the US. Count on a DNA test. Good luck.

I know Nigerian are classified as the most fraudulent country, and yes there are couples who have used people to get here. Infact my parent are against me bringing my daughter here, due to them being used to her, because she do everything for them. My sister told me the same thing, but I can't just leave her there anymore. It hurt not to have her here, eventhough I talk to her 4time a week, but that still won't do it. Yes she has a birth certificate claiming I am her mother, and she has my parent last name. she just started calling me her mum, because she is used calling my sister that.

[Chicagoguy 2 27]

If this is really important to you and you want to raise your daughter you could always return to Nigeria. Since you are U.S. citizen you can go back and forth while working on this. Maybe work on this from inside both countries.

[benyd009 0]

If this is really important to you and you want to raise your daughter you could always return to Nigeria. Since you are U.S. citizen you can go back and forth while working on this. Maybe work on this from inside both countries.

Yes that is what I am planing on doing. I am going next year.

[benyd009 0]

Thank you all for all your wonderful advice, I knew my journey is not ging to be easy, but I have to embark on it. I understand why people classified Nigeria as a highest fraudulent country, and I am not saying Nigeria is not, but it is not right when people combined all Nigerian's as fraud, when they know nothing about the cultures.

Thank God Ndu26 understand what I am talking about, female giving birth out of wedlock. It wasn't my intention to do what I did, but when you are influenced with your family, and know what your culture is all about, yes family do influenced. My daughter called my sister mom, until last year when I told her on the phone that I am her mom, all she did was smile, and said thank you mom. She have my name on her birth certificate, and have just the father's last name on it, because my dad got the birth certificate. But she has my parent last name not her dad last name.

I will be going to the attorney's office on Monday to know when I can start the paperwork, because I thought I was supposed to start when I go see her and come back. But I was told that I can start at any time, and will have to explain why I didn't put her name down, and get ready to do a DNA test. When I heard the attorney told me that, I felt a little realief, but I am still scared, and that was why I posted my dilema here for more advice.

Thank you all.

[Sapphire Moon 25]

hmmmm.....fraud from Nigeria.....is anyone surprised? How does one 'forget' a daughter? How can somebody be influenced so strongly by mere relatives? Impossible. I think there is another story, one that is far different than the one we are being told.

sitting mighty high on the judgement pedestal are we?

To the OP: I do hope it works out with you trying to reunite with your daughter.

[Boiler 45,789]

I think we have cultural and linguistic issues.

[NigeriaorBust 4,087]

Nigeria is still a country where women are not held equal to men and where hands can be severed as punishment for thievery. Even through there are laws prohibiting selling a woman in marriage, bride price is routinely sought. You have to laugh at the fools that think denial will blind the worlds eyes to the true state of Nigerian affairs. Just as a drug user must stop the denial before they can fix the problem so must a country.

[1love 2]

For those who are ignorant and want to claim sainthood for their unknown countries of which they are not proud to dispaly, shame on you.

Now, I do not need your response, but still feel free to reply this post by expanding your magnitude of ignorance.

I was looking through the other post where a VJ member only a few weeks pregnant and now wants to go back home to her family and file for a divorce etc, I did not see anyone say it was fraud or something silly. What is good for the goose is also good for the gander. All I read is I hope all goes well.

This is a real life story and it happened in my eyes. This man or woman are not planning to come to US or defraud anyone.

My mother had a friend who had a child out of wedlock and the child lived with her mother, but always called her mother "aunty". The woman was happily married with 3 other children, but the daughter who always called her aunty was the oldest child in the house. She was treated like a housemaid, and her mother always told people without reservation that the girl was her sister's daughter and she is just helping her sister raise her up. Her husband knew of this arrangement before he married her and agreed to the "aunty" stuff.

One day out of no where from the blues she came to our house to tell my mum she has something to tell her and to please forgive her because she cannot hide the secret anymore. She said "I am XYZ's biological mother" and broke down in tears. My mum trying not to be judgemental said "o please what do you mean to forgive you?" You are an adult of yourself and whatever choice you make in life you should be able to stand up for it. So if it was ok for her all these while to "disown" this girl and allow her to call her aunty, that is her cup of tea.

So if the OP has decided to claim her child she has every right to.

Goodluck on whatever choice you decide.

[Boiler 45,789]

Claiming her daughter is not the issue.

It is wanting to bring her to the US and the consequences of all the lies she told under oath.

[bayojona3231 4]

As a Nigerian, I feel your pain. I am sorry to hear this. Be prepared for a DNA test. Best of luck my sister.

I am a US citizen by naturalization and I have a daughter who resides in Nigeria with my parent. I am trying to bring her here soon. But I have a huge problem. When I came here on a fiancée visa with my ex, I never put my daughter name on any of the documents, because my parent didn’t want me to do that. I came to the States in 2005. When I applied for citizenship, her name was also not on any document either. In fact I am in the military and her name is not on any document I got, except for my second daughter I have with my ex husband. I am trying to change everything because I have missed my first daughter so much, and I want her here. I really don't know what to do or how to go about it. I am thinking of filling I-130 with an explanation why her name was ommitted in the first place or why I didn't put her name on any of my documents. Please what do I do? I am planning on going to Nigeria next year and come back to start the paperwork. Where do I go from here? Thank you guys

[BimnKay 5]

hmmmm.....fraud from Nigeria.....is anyone surprised? How does one 'forget' a daughter? How can somebody be influenced so strongly by mere relatives? Impossible. I think there is another story, one that is far different than the one we are being told.

In Nigerian cultures, people can very much be influenced by relatives. Unlike American cultures where people are not expected to listen to parents and relatives, in Nigeria "mere relatives" as you put it are often the authority and decision makers in the family. Regardless of how old one is, parents still hold a high degree of power in decision making. If she was young when she had the child, her family may suggest that she place the child in the care of an older family member and not inform any man she chooses to date until the right moment, in order to ensure that her past does not affect her chances of finding a spouse. Before you begin judging someone unfairly or making very wrong generalizations on a country or cultures because of the actions of some rotten apples, you might want to spend time actually researching the different cultures of the country and the different family dynamics that are involved.

Don't get me wrong, she is wrong for failing to include the fact that she has a child in any of her immigration documentation and like several people have suggested bringing the child here is not a lost cause but it will not be an easy process because her deception means she and her child will face more scrutiny from USCIS.

[NigeriaorBust 4,087]

When I was a child I was vaguely aware of young women that would go "spend the summer/winter" with relatives. I was too young to see that these trips usually lasted the better part of a year and though they were on some exotic adventure. The truth is they were off to a single mothers home to have a child that they would immediately give up to adoption. The throught process that had these adoption mills all over the country has since been replaced with the thought that a woman can have a child without being married and it isn't the end of the world. This change has happened in my life but not overnight. Other thoughts have also changed over the years. However Nigeria isn't on the same thought cycle as the US is, so it isn't acceptable for single girls to have children. Because there isn't the adoption demand there families deal with it in their own ways.

As to the man that ranted on the other Nigerian practice. The basic thought there is ' a fool and their money are soon parted'

[Penguin_ie 5,995]

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