Age difference of fiance to fiancee?

[davenjanet 22]

There are tons of opinions out there about age gap marriages.... opinion and butts (cleaned it up for the forum), everyone has one, doesn't mean the next person wants to know about either.

No you didn't brand the Philippines... actually the other poster did in MY opiinion.

No worries.. be happy... enjoy...

And all the best!

Thanks!!

The truth is that in our culture marriage is challenging enough without listening to strangers who for their own reasons decide they are against yours.

[GaryKO 49]

Well, in that last paragraph, you completely missed my point. You're 60, so technically you could have had a daughter who would be 40 years old.

Maybe I just follow a different set of morals and standards, but I also try to look at the big picture. My wife is 4.5 years younger, which is nothing. When I retire, she'll be pretty close to retiring too. When I'm old and in a nursing home, I'm not gonna be leaving my 20-something year old wife to take care of the kids by herself. If you think that's OK, then that's your own selfish desire. Just because it's legal, doesn't make it right.

So your high morals and standards does not allow you to marry a much younger woman, but the same morals and standards do allow you travel 8000 miles to find a wife and marry someone from another race and bring Amerasians kids into the world? That would be against lots of peoples morals! The fact that lots of people would not consider a mixed race marriage would keep you from doing so? You don't think men who marry a much younger woman took in to consideration what the future holds for both of them? What would your wife do if you died early? My wife would be very well off, if I died tomorrow or die in a nursing home.

[one...two...tree 2,762]

If you asked a guy here if he'd consider marrying a woman 20 years older than him, he'd probably choke on his saliva.

If you ask a young American woman if she would marry a man 20 years older than her she would first want to look at his financial portfolio. If you told her the guy isn't wealthy by any American standards, she'd tell you to get lost.

It's a double standard, but it is what it is.

ETA: There's also the baggage of previous marriage(s) - lots of men and women who are single don't want to touch that with a ten foot pole.

Edited January 20, 2013 by Lincolns mullet

[Hank_ 9,174]

That is quite often true with women here in the States, its about the Benjamins.

I have found there are quite a few couples here in the states with 15 - 25 year age gaps and they are both Americans.

Sadly there are a lot of narrow minded and closed minded people who feel the deep need to voice that narrow/closed minded opinion.

Edited January 20, 2013 by Hank_

[spn1025 38]

So your high morals and standards does not allow you to marry a much younger woman, but the same morals and standards do allow you travel 8000 miles to find a wife and marry someone from another race and bring Amerasians kids into the world? That would be against lots of peoples morals! The fact that lots of people would not consider a mixed race marriage would keep you from doing so? You don't think men who marry a much younger woman took in to consideration what the future holds for both of them? What would your wife do if you died early? My wife would be very well off, if I died tomorrow or die in a nursing home.

I simply stated, keep it in the same generation.

[Hank_ 9,174]

I simply stated, keep it in the same generation.

Really? Why?

Serious why does an age gap bother you so much?

I have bumped into a few narrowed/closed minded individuals, they look at my wife and I and are full of judgement.... for them there is the rolling donut.

[tmma 467]

rolling donut?

[Hank_ 9,174]

The old saying goes.... take a flying F_ _ _ at a rolling donut.

[Hank_ 9,174]

No you are talking a lot of trash....

I just read your last few posts and I have to agree... Dude you have issues!

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[one...two...tree 2,762]

I'm talking about the age difference.

Many of these guys here chose to find a younger Filipina wife because it is a lot easier to find someone considerably younger and more attractive than anything they would have a chance at here in the states. It is a double standard, but I doubt most of the age gapes reach a level of creepiness. It is what it is and these couples aren't fooling themselves into believing that the courtship was on a level playing field. Take away economic desperation of these young women and offer them opportunities within their country to move up the economic ladder and they wouldn't be looking to marry older, foreign men.

[Ban Hammer 13,332]

these threads rarely end well.

i suggest all participants think long and hard before making judgmental comments.

2 posts removed for offensive content along with 2 quoting.

Edited January 21, 2013 by charles!

[Krikit 1,164]

Well that didn't take long. One member thread-banned.

[adiiann 163]

I thought that this thread had been closed. LoL. This kind of topic has been all over this forum.

How creepy is 40 and 75? Just asking.

[Krikit 1,164]

How creepy is 40 and 75? Just asking.

Probably just a tad more creepy than 60 and 95.

[lierre 224]

Sometimes God has plans in people's lives that are totally different from the plans we have. Life is an adventure, full of twists and turns that you dont expect. But I used to tell myself that I cant put God in a box and set self-imposed limitations on what he can or cannot do. I had forgotten that, until after I met my wife.

Thank you for sharing this, Brijo. It is so refreshing to read what you shared. I remember you from before when you posted your wife was joining the military.

I never meant to leave the country of my birth, my career and my life as I knew it for almost 3 decades... for another person. I never expected going online that one night would lead me to meet the most amazing person in the world.

You don't ever chose who to fall in love with. It honestly would never matter that much to me if this amazing person turned out to be 20 plus years older.

Edited January 21, 2013 by ivyanddan